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by trying to prevent the thoughts you are increasing the fear and anxiety that comes with them. pushing thoughts away doesnt work for long, cos we always end up thinking about what we don't want to think about. the goal is to let thoughts flow by, without reacting to them or figuring out what they could mean.
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I appreciate your response
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But why do I feel like I CAN control my thoughts? Like for example I was bathing my daughter and I was attempting* to practice erp. This is one of my triggers. I went to wash her and had the thought like “this is your chance to wash her and get any weird urges out of your system” - normally, If I had this thought I would then avoid washing her. A compulsion. This time,I fought the compulsion and I continued washing her, but then I had more thoughts, that I didn’t try to fight and I continued washing her regardless. Now I feel like the thoughts motivated my actions or influenced them. I feel like I Purposely brought on bad thoughts because I was “taking advantage” of the situation.
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People cannot control what thoughts pop into their head. Thinking about killing my grandmother, or my cat, having sex with the baby next door, sinning etc... it can pop into my head anytime. I cant help it. No one can. Feeling guilty for something you cant control seems hard. This reminds me of my obsession about "If I think wrong thoughts I am a bad person". Maybe the idea that you should control your toughts is an obsession?
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Sounds like progress to me! Well done for not giving in to your compulsions. 🖖 Figuring out if you control your thoughts, may it be another compulsion?
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I’ve noticed that I’m somewhat happier also ignoring my thoughts than I am instead of doing compulsions (I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired atp) but I’ve heard you’re technically supposed to do erp rather than pushing under the rug. But idk if I have a thought I just refuse to think about it again and im fine even if I want to do compulsions
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I don’t know how to deal with the thoughts that come and barely gone. Usually, the brain often remembers and forgets things. People with OCD however struggle with trying to forget the intrusive thoughts because of the imbalance trying to convey what is real and if the thoughts in your head will come true. Just for the past few days, I was having fun and suddenly hit with a wave of obsessive thoughts and making me stuck with nowhere to go.
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When I was a child, before I knew this was OCD, I struggled with constant "magical thinking" compulsions (don't step on the crack or mom's back will actually break, etc). When I later learned this was OCD, it almost immediately solved it. Any time I got a magical thought, I would say to myself "that's just an OCD thought. ignore it." and it just stopped coming! Like seriously it fixed the magical thinking stuff forever. But of course the OCD has resurfaced in other ways. So naturally, I've tried to use the same strategy since I had so much success with it previously. But I wonder sometimes if telling myself "that's just OCD" is almost functioning as a reassurance compulsion? I hate how meta this gets. For example, I have ROCD that comes and goes. So sometimes I'll get a thought like "what if i'm still in love with my ex?" and then I'll tell myself "that's obviously just an ROCD thought" and will feel relief, almost like reassurance. But it comes back. So is telling myself that it's OCD a reassurance compulsion ?? It's just so weird because it worked so perfectly as a kid with the magical thinking thing.
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