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Just my perspective, but I think the longer you accommodate your anxiety and distress because it’s challenging confronting it the longer you delay getting better. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a father of two and was a stay at home dad for a period of time, so I understand the difficulties of raising a child. But we simply have to push through our distress to get to the other side of this disorder. There is no easy road, and having to do this type of therapy will have to happen for you to get better. Do you want to do it now? Or wait until your child is five, ten, or fifteen years old? Why is now not the best time?
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Very good perspective, thank you so much for your input!!!
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I've had to back off ERP before because I couldn't take the stress alongside work and school. Instead I focused on ACT, CBT, and talk therapy with my therapist at the time. I managed pretty well for a while! Now I'm dealing with OCD thru ERP because those strategies only kept it at bay so long. Stick with it if you can, but advocate for yourself! 💪 I would stratgize with your therapist to see if there are ways you can adapt your exposure schedule.
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This is a great idea, thank you for sharing! I love my son so much, I just want to enjoy him all the time! OCD makes it very hard at times!
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@Lysmarie13 Yes, being a new mom is a joyful and exhausting time! I hope you can find ways to make it work with ERP so you can enjoy it more. I'm proud of you for trying, even tho we don't know each other! 😁 Good luck!
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@J.J. Thank you!!! Postpartum ocd Is not talked about enough! I appreciate your support!
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@Lysmarie13 I know you love your son that's why ocd is attacking him. OCD attacks things that mean the most to us.
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What are some thoughts you experience towards your son?
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I know how difficult that can be
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They were harm thoughts like telling me that I wanted to kill him etc. gives me chills just typing it, but also like “what if he’s evil” and it really scared me. Since then developed an uncomfortable feeling towards then #6 it’s just been a whirlwind. I have literally had every theme in the book and the usually center around my son or the fear of going crazy or losing control. I love him more than life itself. Etc.
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@Lysmarie13 It’s gotten better, but I feel like every time I respond and it gets better a new theme pops up
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Have you been able to share this with your spouse/friend? What have been some of their responses. I understand that these thoughts can lead to so much distress. Have you tried to sit in silence and let those thoughts come into your mind??
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Yes, I’m in therapy but the ERP has made me way more anxious and caused my thoughts to be more frequent. It’s been very distressing.. before I was pregnant and during pregnancy. My ocd wasn’t as bad. I am trying to sit and just let them be there, rather then try an reason with them. As I know they are illogical and the exact opposite of how I feel!
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Instead of pressing them down
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Do they come in randomly?
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Yes, very intrusive. Or can be triggered by my reassurance seeking online. Which I’m no longer doing.
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I’m so worried I’m going to gave those thoughts someday when I start a family
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You might not! Your experience could be totally different! Or you could have it managed by then 😊 PPOCD is scary, but ocd loves to attack what you love most. I had this fear that it would happen to me before he was born. So I believe ocd latched to that fear
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Are you able to talk to someone about it?
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Yes, my family and my therapist!
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Since I developed ocd as postpartum my ocd has mostly always targeted my kids. It started as harm and then switched to pocd. Both are equally very painful. For years I was mostly able to keep my ocd at bay but when it comes back it’s so bad. I have a son and a daughter and my ocd switches back and forth from kid to kid with horrible intrusive thoughts and now even intrusive ocd dreams. With each thought I get past and start to feel relief another one pops right up. The thoughts feel so real and true even though I know it’s just the ocd and not how I think or feel, the ocd always makes me doubt myself and question everything I think or do. I know other moms/dads go through this too. Please anyone who has or is going through this please tell me how you deal with this. 😪
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Hi guys! I’m new to the community and I’ve recently received my OCD diagnosis (tho I’ve known about it since childhood). I’ve been somewhat spiraling lately as I wait for my first ERP session (hooray!) I was just wondering if any of you guys have received ERP for existential OCD and if it was successful? My existential OCD compulsions are more so mental and have been affecting me in the sense of dream/memory flashbacks and giving me a sort of “uncanny” feeling about everything around me. Any advice is appreciated! Thank you❤️
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What ERP or other techniques do you use to combat fear of cancelation? Especially curious about those with taboo thoughts, false memory ocd and event ocd based off of real events where the fear of cancellation may actually hold some validity. I once did my own ERP not under a therapist but just on my own I decided to create an anonymous account on Twitter and defend a friend who was receiving online criticism. I knew that this would be semi-controversial so I was expecting backlash and when I recieved troll replies it actually seemed to be a really helpful low-stakes exposure activity. Is this something that others have done? Low stakes online posts etc. that you know will recieve negative responses? I have had severe OCD as a kid as pretty much every subtype under the sun, and as an adult I pretty much have all the types under control except for this real event and false memory and taboo thought OCD. It seems like a different beast since it's somewhat realistic in the camcellation culture today, and it's confusing to address. Ive shut down almost all social accounts and it's keeping me from progressing in a career where I need to have an online presence :/
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