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- Lysmarie13
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Just my perspective, but I think the longer you accommodate your anxiety and distress because it’s challenging confronting it the longer you delay getting better. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a father of two and was a stay at home dad for a period of time, so I understand the difficulties of raising a child. But we simply have to push through our distress to get to the other side of this disorder. There is no easy road, and having to do this type of therapy will have to happen for you to get better. Do you want to do it now? Or wait until your child is five, ten, or fifteen years old? Why is now not the best time?
Very good perspective, thank you so much for your input!!!
I've had to back off ERP before because I couldn't take the stress alongside work and school. Instead I focused on ACT, CBT, and talk therapy with my therapist at the time. I managed pretty well for a while! Now I'm dealing with OCD thru ERP because those strategies only kept it at bay so long. Stick with it if you can, but advocate for yourself! 💪 I would stratgize with your therapist to see if there are ways you can adapt your exposure schedule.
This is a great idea, thank you for sharing! I love my son so much, I just want to enjoy him all the time! OCD makes it very hard at times!
@Lysmarie13 Yes, being a new mom is a joyful and exhausting time! I hope you can find ways to make it work with ERP so you can enjoy it more. I'm proud of you for trying, even tho we don't know each other! 😁 Good luck!
@J.J. Thank you!!! Postpartum ocd Is not talked about enough! I appreciate your support!
@Lysmarie13 I know you love your son that's why ocd is attacking him. OCD attacks things that mean the most to us.
What are some thoughts you experience towards your son?
I know how difficult that can be
They were harm thoughts like telling me that I wanted to kill him etc. gives me chills just typing it, but also like “what if he’s evil” and it really scared me. Since then developed an uncomfortable feeling towards then #6 it’s just been a whirlwind. I have literally had every theme in the book and the usually center around my son or the fear of going crazy or losing control. I love him more than life itself. Etc.
@Lysmarie13 It’s gotten better, but I feel like every time I respond and it gets better a new theme pops up
Have you been able to share this with your spouse/friend? What have been some of their responses. I understand that these thoughts can lead to so much distress. Have you tried to sit in silence and let those thoughts come into your mind??
Yes, I’m in therapy but the ERP has made me way more anxious and caused my thoughts to be more frequent. It’s been very distressing.. before I was pregnant and during pregnancy. My ocd wasn’t as bad. I am trying to sit and just let them be there, rather then try an reason with them. As I know they are illogical and the exact opposite of how I feel!
Instead of pressing them down
Do they come in randomly?
Yes, very intrusive. Or can be triggered by my reassurance seeking online. Which I’m no longer doing.
I’m so worried I’m going to gave those thoughts someday when I start a family
You might not! Your experience could be totally different! Or you could have it managed by then 😊 PPOCD is scary, but ocd loves to attack what you love most. I had this fear that it would happen to me before he was born. So I believe ocd latched to that fear
Are you able to talk to someone about it?
Yes, my family and my therapist!
Hello- I have been battling many types of OCD on and off for 25+ years. Medication works but wanted to go off for 1st trimester of pregnancy. I am doing a good job deploying ERP tactics for pure o and real event ocd and it has removed physically anxiety symptoms and I can concentrate in life. However I do have a big sense of fear and all day gloomy feeling knowing that the thoughts that are disturbing are sitting out there and fear I will come up with new ones. Will this get better the longer I keep deploying the ERP tactics? I never have this when I am on medication. Thanks in advance.
I am 7 weeks postpartum and my OCD has been awful since the baby was about a week old. I am currently seeing a therapist that specializes in perinatal mood disorders. She gave me a paper titled the 4 steps in the self treatment of OCD. Relabel, reattribute, refocus, and revalue written by Dr. Jeffrey Schwartz. Has anyone tried this? I know that ERP is the standard but wanted to see if this was effective.
So, I do have OCD. That’s not a question (Pure O mainly. Compulsions are mental and emotional checking and ruminating and comparing). And my OCD was ramping up pretty bad a while back so I started ERP counseling through NOCD. I learned some basic skills and good ways to respond and not engage to thoughts. But now, I think the therapy just brings things up that didn’t need to be that big. It makes minor things bigger. It brings overwhelm thinking I have all this “work” to do, when I think what I need is to let go. Of course with OCD letting go is not a simple task, but hear me out. I didn’t do therapy for over a month and started feeling better. I used some of the tools I learned a few times and things just seemed more minor and less serious. I’m now postpartum with anxiety panic and ocd so I upped my therapy and I truly think it’s making things worse. Does anyone else share this opinion or experience? I also think back to when OCD was darn near nonexistent and I was not in ERP therapy. I know things come and go but I’m just realizing this.
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