Anonymous
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Serio?Serio?
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“What if you don’t actually love your SO?” “What is you are not over your ex” “ex’s name at random times, and random memories” “what if you are a lesbian and faking it?”
KatieWKatieW
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I made eye contact w someone at work yesterday n my brain is like "damn what do u love them or something? How can you do that when u have a bf?" Im like everytime i talk to someone we do this 😑 i literally dk this person
asdfghjasdfghj
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I have a lot of person related ROCD. Where I question if he is stupid or morally questionable. It is awful. "He didnt reply the way he was supposed to, then he doesnt care about me and we shouldnt be together". Etc.etc
Shiba InuShiba Inu
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Hi, I have ROCD. Currently one of my obsessions that I’m experiencing now is that I fear I’m attracted to my friend (him as a person and his personality) and that I possibly have strong feelings him. Out of everyone I know, I feel like he is most similar to me and I get along with him so easily. Even though I may feel this way, I love my partner very much and for the most part I enjoy spending time with him. My main fears have to do with fearing that my partner and I may be too different as well as plenty of other questions related to compatibility. Sorry for the long post! Just nice to share with someone
Serio?Serio?
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Yea I’ve had this one too. Accepting the uncertainty of this things and putting it into more perspective helps me. For instance, when I think this way about friends I start to remember all the times I have been annoyed with them or irritated. Then I also remember how I am closer to my partner in a lot of ways. That means we will run into disagreements or seem different. It’s all a gray area, but you get to ultimately choose what you want to do.
Shiba InuShiba Inu
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@sheridani Thank you, I appreciate that! It’s nice to know I’m not alone. We can beat this thing.
Serio?Serio?
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@Shiba Inu No problem at all. I think we can get through this too! Have you started any ERP?
Shiba InuShiba Inu
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@sheridani I have! It’s been helpful and my anxiety is no where near what it was like before. I still experience doubt and it’s been recurring. It’s so confusing... I feel completely at ease and in love with my partner and then complete doubt again and back and forth it continues. For some reason when my partner goes on monologues I experience intrusive thoughts and can’t help but cry when he does. This has happened many times even before I felt full blown rocd. I don’t know if this is a relationship issue or my obsession on flaws. It does seem to fit the pattern of the ocd cycle: intrusive thought->anxiety ->compulsion Just venting again.. Can you relate? Has Erp helped you?
Serio?Serio?
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@Shiba Inu Yes I totally relate to everything you’ve said. Sometimes I’m just trying to enjoy myself and my mind will not shut up haha. I’ve found that ERP is working so far, but it has also felt like it had made things worse. Some thoughts I thought I was rid of coming back full force and the like. But I am also experiencing a lot more calm and clarity. It’s great !
Shiba InuShiba Inu
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@sheridani That’s awesome! I’m really glad to hear that ERP overall has been helpful for you. I can relate too to feeling like I overcame some obsessions and then those obsessions coming back again. I will practice ERP and mindfulness more!
b_b_
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I always worry if it "feels right". Or if I dont have something to talk about then we arent compatible. If he doesnt hold my hand he must not love me. Stuff like that.
asdfghjasdfghj
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I relate to the "just right" feeling. It makes me pick apart everything we/he does. "So he didnt know what poloboloko is, he must be stupid and then we cant be meant to be together".
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