Anyone here with SOOCD/HOCD ever hear someone tell them that they thought they were gay? Or that someone else told them they thought you were gay? How do you deal with this? I just got triggered hard and I haven’t had my hOCD triggered this hard in forever.

Thanks for the reply. It was a little triggering, but that’s ok. I was just caught off guard by how triggered I got, and by how it was said and who it was said by. Someone I consider my “friend” basically just said in a group chat I’m in that “I loved dick” and that everyone “on the planet used to think you were gay” and “some still do”. Hit me hard. One, because it was so uncalled for and two, because it’s someone I consider a friend. I don’t understand why this guy would try to tear me down like this. Also, I’m embarrassed to call this guy a friend. I’m also going through a bad break up and I feel especially alone, without anyone to turn to. My ex girlfriend was my best friend and the only one who knew everything about me, the only person I truly felt comfortable around. So that interaction in particular made me feel even more alone. I had already felt like I didn’t really have anyone that I felt comfortable around and that just exacerbated and highlighted that feeling even further.

@henry I also been working on these theme for about a year with my therapist and I haven’t felt this panicked in a long time so I felt like I needed to lean on somebody. My heart felt like it was going to pop out of my chest.

@henry yooo wow i feel for ur situation and i want to apologize if that advice was a lil insensitive to what’s going on. it sounds like before u can address the fears via courageous ERP you need someone to help you feel seen and affirmed, and i know exactly how that feels. funny enough i also lost my girlfriend recently who was, like you said, my best friend and someone i felt understood me better than anyone. not to mention losing her heightened my SOOCD. especially with something as tricky as OCD (which can appear to other people as many other things like “denial of your true self” or whatever), we need people that can see us for our nuanced truth. i’m really sorry your friend said such triggering words to you especially in front of other people. i hope eventually you all can talk about it and he apologizes but definitely take the space you need from him in the meantime

@ocdin2ascension He’s kind of an ignorant sack of shit. He’s said things like this in the past before and he has maneuvers thru life with a very fragile and homophobic perspective of masculinity. I think I’m good off of him, tbh. I don’t want to associate myself with someone like him. It just sucked because i have always thought of myself as a man and never felt overtly effeminate, but I’ve heard this stuff in the past, especially when I was younger. I was a late bloomer and I hate softer features for a long time. I was also a little emo kid so I used to sport tight jeans and long hair and that probably didn’t help my case lol. Thanks for responding, youre words were exactly what I needed to hear. You helped me feel seen, I appreciate that. It’s also nice to hear someone who’s struggling in a similar situation as me. I hope you’re doing alright, too.