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I’m married and we don’t have the same sense of humor, but it works out because my laugh usually makes him laugh, even if he didn’t think my joke was funny. I also have rocd and I get how you’re feeling, but don’t let the thoughts get in your way. I don’t think that people in a relationship have to be compatible, I was in relationships with guys that were exactly like me, same sense of humor, same musical taste, etc, and it didn’t work out so... ??♀️my husband and I are very different, and I think that that’s what makes our relationship so special.
I've been in a relationship for about 6 years I have anxiety and rocd I think you are just over thinking to much you aren't gonna always feel loving feelings towards your partner, and you don't have to have everything in common with your partner to be in a good relationship I sometimes think I'm faking my relationship but then I realize this is just my ocd and my anxiety making me feel this way. I know it's hard but try to just focus on the good things and live for today and what could go right instead of what could go wrong. Feelings aren't an indication that things are wrong feelings come and go. What matters is if you choose to be with that person :) just remember if you are feeling like you have to break up remember that is probably your anxiety or ocd having a play in your feelings and remember your anxious feelings should not control what you do.
I feel really sad... the first comment just made me more anxious :( what if I’m just forcing things? I don’t wanna hurt him :( is humor sense something you can relate with time? Is really that important? Cuz really if I think deeply that’s the only thing that makes me wanna break up .-.
To be honest the first comment also gave me really bad anxiety and I started getting obsessed about it but I'm okay now
I mean, because he have a lot of good qualities, and I’m trying to convince myself that he is good for me, he is the first one who has been good with me, my others ex’s cheated on me and manipulated me, and made me got into troubles... now I’m stable with him... but why am I feeling like this? ?
Thoughts are not facts. Your thoughts are not facts. Try your best not to analyze them, and your anxiety will start to lessen.
Thanks for reading me, I’m really really anxious :(
And that's ok, it's just anxiety. The more I remind myself that, the more I'm accepting instead of fighting my anxiety. You've got this ?
Thank you Tqh, thank you so much for sharing this <3
We’re here to help each other ? don’t let ocd ruin your relationship
don’t ever feel like what you’re feeling makes you a bad person, you’re definitely not! now i’m not an expert but i think you’re having these doubts because you haven’t connected with him on an emotional level yet. if you feel like most days you’re waking up unhappy then he may just not be the one for you. i went through the same thing. i had this sweet boyfriend who was absolutely amazing. he was polite, smart, caring. but for some reason i would just not want to be around him. it was weird and made me feel horrible and ashamed too. but eventually i realized that wasn’t healthy for either of us so i broke it off. today we’re bestfriends and work so well together. i’ve recently found someone im not afraid to be open and vulnerable around. now i understand how a relationship is supposed to make you feel. hope this helped, listen to your gut!
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I’ve had doubts my whole relationship with my boyfriend. Things like “you don’t find him attractive. You don’t think he’s funny. You’re lesbian because you don’t love him. You don’t love him at all. You think he’s annoying. You think his face looks weird. You want to be with other guys. He doesn’t make you happy.” But I always cry and get upset at the thought of losing him. Is that ocd, or something wrong with the relationship. It’s so hard to tell if this is Rocd or if this is one of those, “you never loved nor were interested in him in the first place.” Type things. I want to be interested and in love with him so bad, but I feel like all these thoughts get in the way. :( I don’t get that crazy “you love him so much,” feeing everyone talks about. Like yeah I know I feel for him and love him for who he is, but I don’t feel crazy deep in love :(
I went out with my bf and I felt anxious the entire time. I felt like I was out of love and critiqued every little thing: his height, his face, his skin, etc. I feel awful and I'm scared I don't love him. I don't want to not love him :( He's so fucking amazing but it feels like I genuinely don't and that made me feel so emotional and almost cry right in front of him. I don't want to break up with him, I don't want to leave him, I want to love him. I do love him. :( I love how considerate and sweet he is, how much effort he puts in, how patient he is, but after a few years I still struggling with "feeling" in love, whatever that means. I want him, forever. Why does it not feel like it?
This is going to be a longer post so hats off to the ones who take time to read it, luv you besties 🫶 So I’ve been struggling for the past 6 months or so with what I hope is ROCD, though I don’t know for sure because I’m not diagnosed. I really struggle sometimes because my bf is a little weird, I’m willing to fully admit that. He’s just a little hyper and goofy and different from other guys, which can be really great at times, because he doesn’t take himself so seriously that he isn’t willing to have fun, he’s willing to be open with his emotions, and he isn’t easily uncomfortable or embarrassed, and I’m not like that. I get nit-picky about those behaviours as times, but I just like to rationalize it by calling it his golden retriever energy, which I think is a cute way of looking at it. But he’s also awkward at times, there are times where he does something super weird or cringy or irritating and I can’t stop thinking about it, playing it over in my head, and it bugs me so much, and I try to rationalize it but I can’t. One thing I really struggle with, is his voice. For example, yesterday I hung out with him, and we were talking, and I was about to say something but stopped myself half way through the sentence because it was a secret I didn’t want to give away, and then he started sounding really whiny as he said “you can’t do that” “why won’t you tell me” or something like that. And it wasn’t like angry whiny, it was a little more lighthearted, but I don’t think he was being ironic or jokingly whiny, I think it was genuinely him just sounding whiny, and then all of a sudden mid sentence he cut back to a regular voice. It made the whole thing just sound really cringy and not very masculine, like he was poorly acting, but I know he wasn’t, it was all genuine, just really cringey. And I can’t stop playing it over and over in my head, trying to make sense of it, trying to make myself feel better about the whole situation rather than uncomfortable. I do that with a lot of things that he does tho, even normal things, but I especially have a hard time with his voice and his vocal inflections and idiosyncrasies and the way he sounds in certain situations, literally every little thing. I obsess over whether he sounds/acts masculine enough and normal enough, I keep picking apart every time he sounds whiny, whether he’s actually whining or not, sometimes his voice just sounds whiny because he has a higher pitched voice and he can’t really change it. I pick apart his voice when he laughs about something, or when he sounds excited or happy. I pick apart his voice when he tells stories. I can’t stop, and it makes it super difficult to be present in conversations. Idk if it’s ROCD, because he does genuinely do odd things that make me cringy and bug me from time to time, sometimes even things that are a bit of a turn off, but I think I get so carried away that it becomes way bigger than it needs to be. Is it ok, even if I didn’t have ROCD, to find things that he does weird, cringy, annoying, a turn off, etc? Sometimes it genuinely feels like the “ick” (I hate that term so much). Is it normal, even in regular relationships, to experience this “ick” feeling? Everyone seems to say that when you like someone, nothing they do is weird or cringy to you, you never get the ick, and if you do then it’s times to move on. But I’ve also heard others say that it’s not about them being perfect or not having any Icks at all, it’s about loving them enough to look past the Icks and not focus on the cringy things they do. Is this true? If so, then how can I do this? The other day he told me he loves being with me because he feels like he can genuinely be himself without judgement, but little does he know that all my brain is ever doing is picking him apart and judging everything he says or does, and that’s not fair to him. He is such an amazing person, and he deserves so much better than me.
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