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I’m married and we don’t have the same sense of humor, but it works out because my laugh usually makes him laugh, even if he didn’t think my joke was funny. I also have rocd and I get how you’re feeling, but don’t let the thoughts get in your way. I don’t think that people in a relationship have to be compatible, I was in relationships with guys that were exactly like me, same sense of humor, same musical taste, etc, and it didn’t work out so... ??♀️my husband and I are very different, and I think that that’s what makes our relationship so special.
I've been in a relationship for about 6 years I have anxiety and rocd I think you are just over thinking to much you aren't gonna always feel loving feelings towards your partner, and you don't have to have everything in common with your partner to be in a good relationship I sometimes think I'm faking my relationship but then I realize this is just my ocd and my anxiety making me feel this way. I know it's hard but try to just focus on the good things and live for today and what could go right instead of what could go wrong. Feelings aren't an indication that things are wrong feelings come and go. What matters is if you choose to be with that person :) just remember if you are feeling like you have to break up remember that is probably your anxiety or ocd having a play in your feelings and remember your anxious feelings should not control what you do.
I feel really sad... the first comment just made me more anxious :( what if I’m just forcing things? I don’t wanna hurt him :( is humor sense something you can relate with time? Is really that important? Cuz really if I think deeply that’s the only thing that makes me wanna break up .-.
To be honest the first comment also gave me really bad anxiety and I started getting obsessed about it but I'm okay now
I mean, because he have a lot of good qualities, and I’m trying to convince myself that he is good for me, he is the first one who has been good with me, my others ex’s cheated on me and manipulated me, and made me got into troubles... now I’m stable with him... but why am I feeling like this? ?
Thoughts are not facts. Your thoughts are not facts. Try your best not to analyze them, and your anxiety will start to lessen.
Thanks for reading me, I’m really really anxious :(
And that's ok, it's just anxiety. The more I remind myself that, the more I'm accepting instead of fighting my anxiety. You've got this ?
Thank you Tqh, thank you so much for sharing this <3
We’re here to help each other ? don’t let ocd ruin your relationship
don’t ever feel like what you’re feeling makes you a bad person, you’re definitely not! now i’m not an expert but i think you’re having these doubts because you haven’t connected with him on an emotional level yet. if you feel like most days you’re waking up unhappy then he may just not be the one for you. i went through the same thing. i had this sweet boyfriend who was absolutely amazing. he was polite, smart, caring. but for some reason i would just not want to be around him. it was weird and made me feel horrible and ashamed too. but eventually i realized that wasn’t healthy for either of us so i broke it off. today we’re bestfriends and work so well together. i’ve recently found someone im not afraid to be open and vulnerable around. now i understand how a relationship is supposed to make you feel. hope this helped, listen to your gut!
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I’ve had doubts my whole relationship with my boyfriend. Things like “you don’t find him attractive. You don’t think he’s funny. You’re lesbian because you don’t love him. You don’t love him at all. You think he’s annoying. You think his face looks weird. You want to be with other guys. He doesn’t make you happy.” But I always cry and get upset at the thought of losing him. Is that ocd, or something wrong with the relationship. It’s so hard to tell if this is Rocd or if this is one of those, “you never loved nor were interested in him in the first place.” Type things. I want to be interested and in love with him so bad, but I feel like all these thoughts get in the way. :( I don’t get that crazy “you love him so much,” feeing everyone talks about. Like yeah I know I feel for him and love him for who he is, but I don’t feel crazy deep in love :(
I posted earlier about not being amused by some of my boyfriends jokes. I would say they’re edgy but they’re more just like cheeky I guess and I make them a lot too. The problem is sometimes when he makes them I really don’t like it because I think it’s inappropriate or I wouldn’t have made that joke. I talked to him about it and we are having a hard time sorting this out because he doesn’t understand what’s okay and what’s not because sometimes I make the jokes too. It’s hard because I don’t even understand it’s just sometimes he crosses the line where I wouldn’t and I don’t know how to figure this out. He said he will just stop with most of those jokes until he can see where the line is with me and we can go from there but I still feel really anxious about this. I’m worried about breaking up over this because I see people online that are always fed up with their SO because of things like this. I’m scared and I don’t like it. I love him so much and I don’t want this to be the thing that will break us up.
I’m so terrified that my feelings are not a product of ROCD and are actually real. They feel real, I think they are, and it makes me mad because I just want to be in a happy relationship but then I have a really real thought that picks apart every aspect of my partner: what he looks like, how he sounds, how he acts, how weird he is, his intelligence, his emotional state, etc. recently it’s been really sad because I feel critical towards him doing normal things like feeling exited, or trying to be funny, or making jokes, or even him being vulnerable and crying. I feel so judgemental and it feels so real, like that’s how I really feel, and maybe I do think he’s a little weird but I don’t want that to stop me from loving him. And I feel like it’s bad for be to think and feel all these things. I don’t want to let these thoughts take over my life and ruin all the growth that him and I have done together, but it honestly feel like that’s how I really feel some days, and idk if it’s ROCD.
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