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I’m married and we don’t have the same sense of humor, but it works out because my laugh usually makes him laugh, even if he didn’t think my joke was funny. I also have rocd and I get how you’re feeling, but don’t let the thoughts get in your way. I don’t think that people in a relationship have to be compatible, I was in relationships with guys that were exactly like me, same sense of humor, same musical taste, etc, and it didn’t work out so... ??♀️my husband and I are very different, and I think that that’s what makes our relationship so special.
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I've been in a relationship for about 6 years I have anxiety and rocd I think you are just over thinking to much you aren't gonna always feel loving feelings towards your partner, and you don't have to have everything in common with your partner to be in a good relationship I sometimes think I'm faking my relationship but then I realize this is just my ocd and my anxiety making me feel this way. I know it's hard but try to just focus on the good things and live for today and what could go right instead of what could go wrong. Feelings aren't an indication that things are wrong feelings come and go. What matters is if you choose to be with that person :) just remember if you are feeling like you have to break up remember that is probably your anxiety or ocd having a play in your feelings and remember your anxious feelings should not control what you do.
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I feel really sad... the first comment just made me more anxious :( what if I’m just forcing things? I don’t wanna hurt him :( is humor sense something you can relate with time? Is really that important? Cuz really if I think deeply that’s the only thing that makes me wanna break up .-.
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To be honest the first comment also gave me really bad anxiety and I started getting obsessed about it but I'm okay now
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I mean, because he have a lot of good qualities, and I’m trying to convince myself that he is good for me, he is the first one who has been good with me, my others ex’s cheated on me and manipulated me, and made me got into troubles... now I’m stable with him... but why am I feeling like this? ?
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Thoughts are not facts. Your thoughts are not facts. Try your best not to analyze them, and your anxiety will start to lessen.
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Thanks for reading me, I’m really really anxious :(
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And that's ok, it's just anxiety. The more I remind myself that, the more I'm accepting instead of fighting my anxiety. You've got this ?
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Thank you Tqh, thank you so much for sharing this <3
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We’re here to help each other ? don’t let ocd ruin your relationship
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don’t ever feel like what you’re feeling makes you a bad person, you’re definitely not! now i’m not an expert but i think you’re having these doubts because you haven’t connected with him on an emotional level yet. if you feel like most days you’re waking up unhappy then he may just not be the one for you. i went through the same thing. i had this sweet boyfriend who was absolutely amazing. he was polite, smart, caring. but for some reason i would just not want to be around him. it was weird and made me feel horrible and ashamed too. but eventually i realized that wasn’t healthy for either of us so i broke it off. today we’re bestfriends and work so well together. i’ve recently found someone im not afraid to be open and vulnerable around. now i understand how a relationship is supposed to make you feel. hope this helped, listen to your gut!
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everytime i go out with my bf, he annoys me so much, but i get easily annoyed, he is just being himself and im so so si irritated by him, and i act out and i am rude to him, today i have upset him and he stopped talking to me. i font know what is wrong with me, i dont lnow if i like him, if i still have feelings, if i only want the ideea of the relationship, what if im only attached to him. i dont know anything, i have so many doubts. im so drained, i diny even know if i care that i upset him. i dont know. what if i dont care???
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my thoughts are screaming at me telling me that i dont want my relationship anymore and that i realized i lost feelings. i have a beautiful relationship of two years with a beautiful boy that loves me dearly and i deal with this thoughs for a year and a half. Im so scared it feels so real im scared i have changed and my last therapy session made it worse she basically told me i have to realise the thoughts are true and stop lying to myself. And made me think i am so scared and heartbroken bc i put high expectations on myslef to be with my boyfriend for all my life. Maybe i dont want to hurt him??? im always questioning my feelings for him 24/7 for over a year. I wm tierd
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I know it’s long but plz read :( have been having really bad ocd about my relationship and my partner and it has gotten worse and worse over the span of like about nine months I’d say. I do acknowledge there are flaws and legit issues about him and the relationship like there are with anyone but I also know ocd has clouded my judgement and perception by analyzing everything and compulsions. For a while I kept feeling this need to get out which I know was ocd. I was really scared to spend the weekend with him because I thought I would just be annoyed and irritated cause it’s been that way for a while but he also was going through a period of high stress so maybe I was resenting him for that and I also wasn’t communicating how I should have been when I was upset because I’ve done that too much in the past. This weekend I was told in therapy to just be in the moment and not have to worry about trying to answer the question of do I love him or should I break up. It did help but It’s weird cause this weekend ended up better but I also was kind of numb? Like I was enjoying myself but didn’t feel what I always have felt in the past? Anyway, I am really anxious because i feel like if I loved him I would be supportive of when his parents compliment him or when he does well at something when instead all I think of are that I’m not happy or annoyed because of things he does that upset me or make me mad and it’s like that’s the only way my brain wants to see him as a person. Or when he is upset it feels like I don’t care like I used to because I think of how he doesn’t deserve this when he does this or he shouldn’t have this when he is like this etc. Why does my brain automatically go there? That’s horrible! I feel like I should be excited for him, rooting for him. But it also feels like I do care for him? But my thoughts keep changing. I am afraid I only am with him because I love that he loves me and how he treats me. This makes me feel selfish cause I can’t do that. I notice I still like when he cuddles me and is sweet to me and does fun things watching movies etc. And that’s not how it used to feeel which scares me because I don’t want to be without him. I also love his parents am I only with him cause of how his parents treat me? I feel so selfish and like I have to tell him and break up with him cause it’s the right thing to do. I never used to feel like this. I’m scared. Is it possible I’m just I’ve been mad and resenting how it’s been cause he’s been stressed mix with my ocd? My therapist said relationships can go through phases. Can I fall back in love with him again? I feel like I have to try to start with someone else like this is too far gone. I don’t want to stay in something where I don’t feel toward him the way I want to but I really don’t want to leave him. I feel like such an awful person cause he doesn’t deserve this and is so caring and loving despite everything the major thing that bugs me is how he gets irritable a lot which is an imperfection that makes me get anxious and question him😭 trying not to read into this and just follow what the therapist said but this is scaring me because I feel like if I loved him I wouldn’t think like this or feel like this.
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