Hi, everyone! I have my first appointment scheduled with a NOCD therapist next week and will be discussing this with her, but until then, I wanted to see if anyone else could relate to this summary of my OCD experience:
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I am constantly worried that I’m doing or have done something wrong and that I need to do the “right thing” about it, or that there’s something wrong with me. It’s mostly sexual obsessions, but even contamination obsessions, and they are all connected by the same theme: morality, and the fear that I’m doing something wrong and I need to do the “right thing” about it. I am constantly, wildly overanalyzing everything I do or think or feel, and I think almost everything I’m doing is wrong, or that there’s something morally or sexually wrong with me, and that I desperately need to do the “right thing” about it.
My compulsions are to overanalyze my concerns to determine whether or not to do a specific “right thing”, or explain everything to my parents to gain reassurance on whether or not I’m okay.
I’ve done this hundreds upon hundreds of times, but my brain is never satisfied with their answers. It always overanalyzes their answers or finds different pieces of logic or factors that play in and evidence that I think really does mean that I’m doing tons of things wrong.
To me, my logic and evidence make totally perfect sense that I am doing something wrong, but when I do my compulsions and explain everything to my parents and get reassurance, they say it’s just fine and it’s just OCD. I can’t tell what’s OCD and what’s not.
Because of all this, I constantly feel guilt and anxiety and a horrible “something is wrong” feeling so strongly that I can’t enjoy my life anymore. But I know that doing my compulsions never ends; it’s an endless cycle. I try to do ERP as much as I can and not do my compulsions, but I get stuck in panic, wondering if some obsessions are NOT actually OCD, because my logic makes perfect sense that I am doing something wrong and I need to do the “right thing”. But asking my parents to correct my logic is just keeping the compulsion cycle going and because of my over-analyzation, my brain is never satisfied and it never ends.
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So that’s my summary that I’m sharing with my NOCD therapist next week.
I was wondering if anyone else can relate? It’s not intrusive thoughts that bother me. It’s my own logic. To me, my logic makes perfect sense that I am doing something wrong but when I explain to my parents, they say it’s just OCD.
Therefore it’s a LOT harder for me to do ERP — if I knew it was just OCD, it would be easier to resist compulsions! But because my logic makes perfect sense that I AM doing something wrong and that it’s not OCD, it is SO much harder to do ERP, because I would never in a million years want to do something morally wrong or not dk the morally right thing.
I can’t tell what’s OCD and what’s not, but trying to fix my logic is an endless cycle of analyzation (and a reassurance compulsion).
Can anyone relate and does anyone have advice?
(And yes I am religious, that is why my morals are important to me :))