Date posted: 4y ago

I need advice. Should I quit my job? Its making me very depressed and anxious everyday. I'm a cashier at a grocery store. I've been there for almost 4 months now and I thought it would get easier but it hasn't. Customers are so rude and it makes me feel like shit about myself. I also feel like a failure for not being able to handle it:(.

Sheeby

Date posted: 4y ago

My opinion is that you should only quit if you have another job offered or ready to work at! I know it sucks... I’m also working on transitioning out of cashier work.

Date posted: 4y ago

Can I ask why you're transitioning? Is it for similar reasons ?

Sheeby

Date posted: 4y ago

@?? Well yes I also just want to move forward with my life. I’m finding a new career and just don’t want customer service/min wage anymore

babbie

Date posted: 4y ago

It’s easier to get a job if you’re currently employed somewhere, so hang in there while you’re searching if you can, especially if you don’t have a financial safety net. Are there some ways you can take special care of yourself around your job, if that makes sense? Can you do a little self-affirming meditation before you start or on your break, plan a bubble bath or a call to a supportive friend first thing when you get home, or even make a little game of mentally “scoring” the most ridiculous thing a customer says to you? Maybe if you get four cranky customers in a row, you get a little treat, and if you get two awesome ones, you give fifty cents to a homeless person on your way home. So there’s a little goal to think about beyond just the people you have to deal with. I hope you’re able to get out of this negative job soon, and find something better!

hateocdx

Date posted: 4y ago

Omg I’m in the same exact position at the moment. I work in a restaurant cleaning and waitressing and I think I might have to quit. If we do quit we need to remember that it’s for ourselves, we’re not letting anyone down and we’ve been brave and have tried just have been a little defeated. I get the failure feeling, I feel like people will look at me as weak but we need to remember that it’s okay and we need to start doing things for ourselves and doing things that make us feel comfortable and this isn’t x

ashleyboo

Date posted: 4y ago

I agree with you. We need to start doing things for ourselves. I feel that on a personal level. But before you guys do maybe try and look for a different job before quitting and put in your two weeks once you know you have a new job. Personally my advice would be to also work the two weeks only because I believe it makes you look good instead of quitting and walking out or not coming back. I walked out of my job once for two days. I had another girl who quit but put her two weeks in and worked until those two weeks were up and I think that just shows the difference between my character and hers. It was more loyal I suppose? Or more reliable maybe? Maybe I’m using the wrong wording but just know this is just my opinion and advice you do not have to take it. Either of you don’t. Personally from where I work and what I experienced she moved up quicker than me but I also have been at my job for 5 years now. I pushed to stay. Do what is best for yourselves. I have my own personal reasons for staying. I wanted to be manager and felt like I owed some people for helping me. Also I feel like if we find another job and work the two weeks after putting in a notice at the original job that when the next person that is deciding whether to hire you or not can see that you’re not just gonna leave them hanging ya know? If I made anything worse for you guys I apologize as my experience and drive was different for awhile.

hateocdx

Date posted: 4y ago

Hope this helps because knowing you’re going through it too makes me feel 100x better

Date posted: 4y ago

Thanks it totally does. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one and start to wonder if I'm crazy. 💜

Date posted: 4y ago

And thanks for the advice💜

Date posted: 4y ago

Hey guys little update..I've decided I'm going to put in my two weeks tomorrow. I'm nervous it may be the wrong decision but this job is making me have thoughts of harming myself and I just don't think thats normal. I've even talked to my managers and it doesn't seem like they understand the severity of my issues right now. With Christmas everything is 10x more stressful and I'm suffering alot.

hateocdx

Date posted: 4y ago

Hey hope you’re well, I have had to leave for the exact same reasons as you. I promise you once you do it it’ll feel so much easier bc it’s not another thing to think about. This way we can treat and relax over the holidays and go job searching after. I’m sorry to hear that you’re struggling, but just know that you are not alone and it will get better. Xx

Date posted: 4y ago

@hateocdx Thank you I needed to hear that 💜 I hope everything goes well for you

Date posted: 4y ago

I feel like a failure for having to quit but I've never been for more suicidal in my life.

Lexi girl

Date posted: 24w ago

Please help me. I’m so done with my life

I hate sitting in my room with only me and my thoughts. I have lost my faith in the lord and can’t seem to get on with my life. I’m so stuck on everything and can’t seem to get better. I keep self harming and get to the point to where I see the second layer of my skin. It gets worse and worse each time I have suicidal thoughts. One of these days it’ll get so bad that well you can probably guess what I may do. I have been abused physically mentally and sexually in my past and it haunts me every single day of my life. Any time I try to talk to someone about my mental health they tell me I’m a waste of their time or that I need to talk to someone other than them. But all that does is make me keep it all bottled up and I can’t take it anymore. They say mental abuse is worse than physical and I can see why they say that. I just want a normal life so I don’t have to be depressed 24/7. It ruins my social life and it makes me loose my friends and family because of how distant I am. I just need help and please give me advice. Also sorry I’m not very good at explaining things.

Peach_P0P

Date posted: 18w ago

Needing advice.

TW: suicidal Constantly fixated on the fact of helping people. I’m always doing compulsions like checking social medias to see if people need help etc, it’s exhausting cause I’m so sad I’m unable to help everyone. I just don’t know what to do and if I’m being entirely honest it’s making me not wanna be here anymore. I’m afraid that if i walk away from my phone for even 5 minutes someone will be in need and in danger and I want be there to help therefore it’s my fault etc. how can i cope with this? Obviously I want to help people but I wanna do it in different ways

sara_24

Date posted: 17w ago

Anxious about everything

Guys I need help. I feel so alone . Basically I have this compulsion where I feel the need to write everything but this stems from me being anxious about EVERYTHING. Like my mom came in my room and I was irritated and snapped, immediately regretted now I keep writing “don’t be mean to mom next time” but I keep thinking about it. Then I think about how I finally left my house today and all the surfaces I touched that could’ve been contaminated and now I’m writing “next time don’t touch this and this”. Then I think about all the things I need to be doing for this week and I’m writing “don’t forget to do this and this” even though I’ve written it 5 times already. This is what happens everyday btw. My brain always thinks about something I need to be doing and making me anxious that I’ll forget it which is why I write it down on my notes app. I’m sooo mentally exhausted I need help pls!! Anyone have any advice ? I used to think I need to stop the writing but really I need to stop the anxious thoughts coming into my head . People say I need to accept the thoughts and let it go but that’s too hard for me

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