I left my partner 3 days ago please help me feel better he’s DEVASTATED and ringing constantly but it was toxic and he didn’t realise he was still emotionally abusing me despite cutting alcohol consumption down (he’s an alcoholic) I feel relieved and sad because what do I do now? I was with him all the time, now what? My ocd isn’t helping either I’m like “OMG what if he gets better and treats a new girl like gold ALL of the time not just in cycles? Why couldn’t he for me?”

Hi!! I’ve been through an emotionally abusive relationship as well and I totally know what you mean - I felt so guilty, but so relieved because he was upset yet I was so glad to be free. Please know you did nothing wrong and you made the best decision you could’ve for yourself! I’m proud of you!! And if he does treat that new girl like gold, let him - as the person above said, he never did deserve you. You deserve to be loved unconditionally and NEVER treated abusively! I’ve talked to my therapist about my own experiences and she said that people like that never change, power and control is how they see other people (this may not relate to your situation, but I thought I’d share just in case). I wish you the best of luck, try not to let him get in your head, you really did make the best decision for yourself💗

Hey I'm not a therapist but just wanted to say I'm here for you. The sad truth is if you feel he will treat another woman better than you because he gets better, he never deserved you and will love you the way you needed. I really truly hope you find your piece and fight to stay away from the toxic relationship, I'm rooting for you🦋

will never love you the way you needed**** ^^

This is exactly me right now. We split a few months ago but still talk every now and then, I was completely under his control. Google narrcasist. Read everything you can about emotional abuse it will empower you to believe he didn't deserve you. I was hurt, cheated on, made homeless etc etc. And now I'm left with the trauma that I can't live without him. I know I can but my OCD and anxiety won't let me. If he doesn't reply to a text when I know he's online I get so bad it's rediculous. What I should do is walk away and cut all contact but I just can't

Everything you are saying is like you are describing me! I'm here for you. We will beat it. I know it's hard. Thank you for your story I'm kind of glad I'm not on my own. It's not just me. I know I was completely under his control and still am in many ways. It's really killing me inside

Don't go back.. I've been there done it loads. 2 days ago went to his to talk ended up in bed. Stupid I know coz a day later I'm checking on him and were fighting over the phone now I haven't heard from him in 12 hours and I'm thinking he's in bed with someone else etc... It's a living nightmare