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Hi!! I’ve been through an emotionally abusive relationship as well and I totally know what you mean - I felt so guilty, but so relieved because he was upset yet I was so glad to be free. Please know you did nothing wrong and you made the best decision you could’ve for yourself! I’m proud of you!! And if he does treat that new girl like gold, let him - as the person above said, he never did deserve you. You deserve to be loved unconditionally and NEVER treated abusively! I’ve talked to my therapist about my own experiences and she said that people like that never change, power and control is how they see other people (this may not relate to your situation, but I thought I’d share just in case). I wish you the best of luck, try not to let him get in your head, you really did make the best decision for yourself💗
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Hey I'm not a therapist but just wanted to say I'm here for you. The sad truth is if you feel he will treat another woman better than you because he gets better, he never deserved you and will love you the way you needed. I really truly hope you find your piece and fight to stay away from the toxic relationship, I'm rooting for you🦋
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will never love you the way you needed**** ^^
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This is exactly me right now. We split a few months ago but still talk every now and then, I was completely under his control. Google narrcasist. Read everything you can about emotional abuse it will empower you to believe he didn't deserve you. I was hurt, cheated on, made homeless etc etc. And now I'm left with the trauma that I can't live without him. I know I can but my OCD and anxiety won't let me. If he doesn't reply to a text when I know he's online I get so bad it's rediculous. What I should do is walk away and cut all contact but I just can't
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I know all the terms and know about narcissistic behaviour and manipulative tactics and I even KNOW he does them, unconsciously or not And I feel bad labelling him like what if he’s not a narcissist or whatever but just troubled? I’m still not going back to him but I feel guilty I used to think it was MYSELF! I actually CONVINCED MYSELF I had BPD because I was so triggered and anxious about abandonment and clingy etc but actually I genuinely believe he may have BPD himself. I see a lot of him in the criteria
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Everything you are saying is like you are describing me! I'm here for you. We will beat it. I know it's hard. Thank you for your story I'm kind of glad I'm not on my own. It's not just me. I know I was completely under his control and still am in many ways. It's really killing me inside
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God no not alone! I feel horrendous 😢 he’s called me over 150 times begging me promising changes which I never saw before so why now? So close to Christmas I feel evil leaving him. I’m here for you too, I’m sad we have this in common but I’m glad we aren’t alone 💕
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Don't go back.. I've been there done it loads. 2 days ago went to his to talk ended up in bed. Stupid I know coz a day later I'm checking on him and were fighting over the phone now I haven't heard from him in 12 hours and I'm thinking he's in bed with someone else etc... It's a living nightmare
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It’s so hard 😢 I hate him and I loved him! It makes me sad it was all so unnecessary we had a good relationship and he couldn’t resist messing it up messing with my head He swears it’s all because of alcohol he doesn’t meant it blah blah blah and the alcohol only happened because his dad died and his mother is ill etc etc etc But instead of leaning on me he abused me
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@uwotm8 And even saying that I’m like “did he really though? Am I just dramatic?”
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@uwotm8 No not dramatic at all. He is the problem
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