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I am so sorry you are struggling! I did therepy with a therepist who wasn’t a specialist in OCD, and she was great and all, but I always put off sharing my obsessions with her. I was afraid if I told her about my history of HOCD she would say I’m just in denial. People with HOCD deep down I have realized really don’t want these thoughts becuase they don’t emotionally connect with them. Not becuase they are repressing, there’s a differance. For me I think realizing that my OCD tries to latch onto important aspects of our identity, like sexuality, moral code, helps to realize OCD isn’t me.
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what’s the difference between repressing and not wanting the thoughts
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Not sure who told you this. Not sure it really matters. If there was some woman out there who did realize that: cool. That has nothing to do with you and how your treatment would go. Seeing an ocd specialist and doing ERP is the only way to recover from ocd. And you shouldn’t discount it. https://battlingtheocddemon.wordpress.com/2014/11/04/erp-works-so-why-wont-you-do-it/amp/
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I understand your hesitation with finding a therapist. I had a counselor and I was too afraid to tell them my thoughts mostly because I was afraid of their answer and diagnosis. But trust me when you find a good therapist that will take the time to treat you and help you, you’ll feel so much better. I really like my therapist and we’ve built a trustful relationship and ERP treatment that is best suited for me. It does take time and you might not be ready to express your thoughts to your therapist right away. Still don’t be afraid to find one or ask as many questions as you can. I feel so much better and I’m sure you will too.
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- 23w
I’ve tried accepting the uncertainty, I’ve accepted I may be gay, bi or still straight. I’ve tried doing ERP myself to the best I can. When I accept that I’m gay or bi why doesn’t my head agree and move on? Why does it still question it? I know I don’t want to be at all. I love my family. But I just want this to move on. I want to enjoy life. Why can’t I find women attractive again? (Brief moments I do). I seriously don’t understand the false attraction? I’ve tried agreeing with it but it won’t let this drop. Why am I attracted to the same sex? Why am I attracted to people I would never thought of looking at? Why does it give me such grief about this? I know I shouldn’t look at adult content but why can I only feel good watching either lesbian or females? I tried to agree with the gay but it makes me sick and horrendous I even considered this? I just want my life back.
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I won’t explain this again if you’ve been or going through it you know what I’m talking about. I felt good about women about an hour ago and now I’m worrying again I’m anxious and the groinals are back and it’s so annoying because I can’t study. And honestly I’m so sick and tired of this. I’ve been a girl crazy my whole life and my mind randomly decides “well what if you are gay” like bro. I’ve never seen a guy that way and in general IT WAS NEVER SOMETHING I THOUGHT ABOUT OR ASSOCIATED MYSELF WITH. IVE NEVER FELT ANYTHING TOWARDS A MAN AND NOW IT FEELS LIKE IT RANDOMLY FLIPPED. I CANT DO THIS BRO. WHY WOULD THIS HAPPEN IVE BEEN GOING THROUGH INSECURITIES ALREADY AND MY ATTRACTION WAS THE ONLY REAL THING I HAD LEFT AND NOW THIS. HOW MUCH DO YOU HATE ME GOD.
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I’ve recovered from HOCD before and got my attraction and my usual actual identity back. I was recovered from end 2022- start 2025 until I got triggered UGHHH😭 My HOCD is REALLY trying to convince me and it’s SO annoying cause I genuinely don’t want these thoughts. I know I naturally like men and always have done so. I can’t wait for my first therapy session in two days Omg! I need your advice, not necessarily reassurance, but more advice? My HOCD is throwing random “proof” I did/ saw as a child in my face, which back then had no meaning in my life and I continued to live a perfectly heterosexual life. I’ve educated myself about arousal non concordance / child’s play, but it still doesn’t remove the HOCD. I’ve read therapists great explanations on how it’s not a sexuality issue, BUT ITS AN OCD BRAIN ISSUE. So basically I’ve been straight and i will die as straight. But my ocd is still continuing with the intrusive thoughts/flashbacks. I’ve had some moments where I haven’t done as many compulsions and had less anxiety but still had those damn thoughts and I DO NOT want those damn thoughts. I have so much proof and factual/logical explanations but HOCD is still continuing to thrive. I absolutely hate this and I feel so alone. I wish there was a reset button cause I don’t want these thoughts to happen. I want a man and I stand by that. How do y’all deal with these situations? Cause sitting with the thoughts is clearly not helping.
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