my pocd is really bad right now :( i’ve been going on discord a lot lately just to talk to ppl and socialize because it helps me take my mind off the ocd and i just think it’s fun overall. So i talked to this guy on there and we had a nice convo and he said he was 17 and i was like ok that’s cool since i’m 18. However while talking to him i did doubt that he was lying cause his voice sounded a bit too high pitched for a 17 year old and some of his jokes were a bit immature so i asked him again to make sure and he promised that he was 17, i ended up texting a bit with him and then i spoke to him again on the phone. Today i found out that he actually was lying and he’s 14 :/ i blocked him right away and told him it’s not cool to lie about your age. I feel really horrible because he was being borderline flirty with me and said he liked my voice and my accent and stuff like that and i didn’t mind because i thought he was 17, i feel stupid for not realizing he was lying earlier and not blocking him right away when i had my doubts. I feel so anxious and guilty i don’t know what to do, i’ll never be that careless and naive again ever again. I feel like a horrible person i just need some guidance what do you guys think of this? am i terrible for not blocking him right away

no because i questioned if he was lying but chose to believe him, i feel like i should’ve just blocked him the moment i had the doubt

@cherryCAKE Well, it happens. That's kinda like perfectionism, because you feel guilty that you should've realized earlier but actually maybe even a normal person will never realize that. The fact is, it happens to me too things that normal people will take as just normal I'll take it as I wasn't good enough or I should've done this done that and looking down upon oneself, it's really horrible and we have to do something. First of all don't keep blaming yourself for most things just relax the fault is sometimes from the others or people around you.

Yes, that's it. Take it easy on yourself, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't be a little hard on yourself. I sometimes go hard on myself to be a better person or do the best next time but I know it's me and myself, I know the consequences so I don't have to feel bad about myself or complaing to others about it.

thank you! i really needed to hear this

@divine47 i feel like ocd always magnified the mistakes i make and makes them seem worse than what they are so it’s really hard to see it from another perspective but i do understand it’s not entirely my fault and i shouldn’t be so hard on myself, thank you for the advice!

@cherryCAKE You're most welcome.