Is this ocd? I few years ago I had a thought of a quality in my partner that wasn’t “perfect” or I viewed as a slight deficiency. Over time as our relationship grew it went from a random thought to something I fixated on and wished I could change. Then when we got engaged and more involved with my family, it actually began to send me into an anxiety panic frenzy. I feel a wave of anxiety and have even had a panic attack when seeing the “flaw”. It’s to the point now I just wish I could not have the anxiety, I don’t even care about the “flaw” anymore. It’s just the feeling I get from seeing it. Like a wave of anxiety, disappointment, worry, wanting to correct it, etc. I am confused if this is OCD or just me being an asshole about someone’s supposed imperfections. Idk what to do, I am driving myself crazy. Is it ocd?

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Date posted: 4y

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Anon22

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

You did? Part of my worry is that “well the thought was always there so you’re just using ocd as an excuse” But the intense anxiety I feel now was never there before. It was like a passing insecurity. Now it’s like a dreadful thing that makes me avoid my partner.

Anon22

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

@tired Wow thank you so much. That is good advice. Do you have an erp suggestion for when I see them? Upon seeing my partner I go into a frenzy of panic and over analyze. I want to just enjoy our time together. But I don’t know what a proper erp is since the expose is literally seeing my partner. If that makes sense. Thank you again!

pureolife

Date posted: 4y

Definitely ocd. Fixating on flaws is very common with ROCD.

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