18+ only. Someone please help! My mind is racing right now. My partner is into true crime but I tend to avoid it bc of its triggering nature. Anyways, today she was watching a video about this guy who did bdsm needling and was also a murderer. (The two aren’t intertwined, ik) I’m not a kinky person bc ocd makes that very difficult for me. I did not know what needling was. She said she has watched needling porn and enjoyed it. I looked it up and am very concerned about the state of our relationship bc I would never engage in that practice.

Hey you guys have different preferences about that. That’s all you need to really know.

Close your eyes and take some deep breaths. Imagine theres a ball in the center of your chest. As you breath in it expands and as you breath out it contracts. When you breathe out imagine there is a dark mist leaving you. That dark mist is your stress at this current momment. After each breathe notice less and less mist exaling from you intill it has dissapated. Now that your hopefully calmer put in perspective this. Imagine stress and your OCD a river of black water. This river is flowing the vally that your your head. This vally is beutiful, each tree is a good memory, each rock is a nice thought, each animal is something that makes you....you. What does this vally look like too you? Its pretty but this river treatens to flood this vally of mind and uproot your paridise. The more stress you have the stronger the river grows. Now think about this, can anything stop a river from entering the vally? Perhaps with a wall? No...the water would simply build intill it goes around the wall. So intead of trying to stop the river out right combating the river head on, redirect it. Slowly curve the river around the vally. you may not control the river but you do control the earth it flows on, so imagine bending the land. Bend the land and carve a path away from your vally and let the river flow away, into a deep ocean of blue water where the darkness of the river slowly dillutes into the water, never to be seen again. My point in this perspective is you cant fight your stress or thoughts with a wall. Resitaince starts with small changes that mounts over time. You must let these thoughts come and go at there own pace. As the thought roll through you dont ignore it, but dont give it the importance it wants you to give it. Give it a second of thought but dont give it any more inportance in your head then what your gonna have for dinner tonight then let the thought take its due course out of your mind. Youll notice the same thought keeps coming over and over but as long as you dont give it the importance it so demands you give it and let simply wash past you like every other thought youll notice that one day these thoughts come more and more quiet. You are NOT your thoughts, You dont control what toughts enter your head but you do control how long they stick around. Remeber this: Dont stop the river, simpy redirect it. As for your partner you should let her know calmly what it like to like with OCD. Be calm about it and dont exaggerate anything. Be calm about it a simply let her know what it can be like. She doesnt need to understand it complety but she does need to know that sometimes, no matter how illogical it may seem to a normal person certain actions or topics can cause you alot of stress.