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Welcome, though we all have differnt shades of OCD we get you. We are all here to help each other. Ask us anything, we are all in this together
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I would be really thankful to know how I can enjoy my relationship carefree again? How do other people in a relationship act? When you feel like you‘re not the right person for you partner, who deserves the best? Or worse, like in my case, when you have the gut feeling, that you did awful things to him or loved one‘s of him.?
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@Jaxiju Well i would constiter myself knowledgeable in OCD (Consitering i have it) but im also not a therapist so take my advice with a grain of salt. That said i have over come simular challeges. 1. Fear is the root of all OCD, think about it, when did you have OCD over something you genually want to do or happen. The more you fear feeling these feeling the more stronger they will become. This is the truth for OCD, in a way it is its food source. 2. Learning to live in a choatic world: The world is full of uncertanty and anything can happen. The world is entirely made of "What ifs" Youll always be thinking "What if" about everything. I cant tell you how to accept this, for its a scary thought to us all but i will say is try to learn to have confidence in what you feel deep down and try to realize when your in a what if senerio. Realizing it is step 1 to addressing it. 3. This is the hardest one and i reccomend chatting with your therapist before trying this one: Center yourself, be calm and genuinnly explain to your boyfreind your problems with doubt OCD. Dont over hype it or say anything you might regret. Genuinly let him know what its like to "Think" with a OCD mindset and make sure he knows its not just a mindset but a geniune disorder your struggling with. Lastly ill let you in on a perspective i follow: Imagine i have a coin in my hand and i tell you its a magic coin that lands on heads everytime. Would you belive me? No of course not there is no such thing as a magic coin and im most defintly lying to you.......unless......what if it is magic? What if the coin IS magic and DOES land on heads everytime. Now lets say i hand you the coin.......do you have to flip it to make sure if i was telling the truth or not......just to make sure? Or will you not flip the coin, because your already confedent in your conclusion that im lying to you and the coin isnt magic Evetully the goal of all this is to get to the point where you dont have to flip the coin. To get to a point where you can have confedence in your conclusions without saying "What if"
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@Carto40 Thank you so so much! I really appreciate your answer! I think my main problem is, that I lost my own „deep down“ feeling. For now on, „deep down“ becomes just an illusion for me. I talk with my boyfriend A LOT about it. Nearly daily. I try my best to make him understand what I‘m going through and he is very supportive. But at the end, I‘m keep fighting alone, every day is a battle at the moment
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I’m a good man and I know that. My OCD revolves around relationships. While dating someone a truly enjoy, I find myself needing to compulse everything on my mind or else I feel like I’m being a liar or keeping secrets. I also am pretty confident I suffer from false memory ocd. I don’t like to put a label on things but I’m 99.9% sure I do. My compulsions a lot of times come from things I’m not even sure are real. The more thought I put into them, the more I start to believe they are real. One of the worst compulsions I had in my relationship was I had a thought “what if I find my ex more attractive” and “what if I thought the sex with them was better”. I ended up compulsing these things to my gf. After lots of time to think and get a ahold of myself I was able to remind myself that these things weren’t true and I was just in a downward spiral. There was a 2-3 month period where every time I was relieved of something then I would instantly think of something else. These compulsions have caused insecurity in my gf and I feel like a terrible person. Never meant to hurt her at all and was just trying to find a sense of relief. While I know it is not true, I can’t fix things with words and I feel terrible. I would love to hear from people with tricks and strategies that can help. I love my gf and want to fix things and understand this is not a relationship fixer app but I would like to know what are some ways you are able to deal with these kind of things.
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I am diagnosed with OCD, ADHD, and mild depression. But my OCD symptoms are so prominent in my daily life where it feels debilitating. It comes in waves, there will be months with very minor symptoms and other times where it comes in random hitting me like a truck making me rethink life. I grew up having intrusive thoughts of all types, and a lot of them sent me over the edge because I couldn’t understand why things of such sort would cross my mind, things that I’m sure to this day that I’m incapable of or would never want to actually do. Yet I find myself in a constant cycle of trying to dig deep in the past and trying to figure out if I ever acted on any of the intrusive thoughts I can remember, yet ofc have no recollection of acting on them because they most likely didn’t happen. However, not having concrete proof of these things makes me not want to see another day sometimes. It is so hard to move into daily basis like this. I’m also in a happy healthy relationship and sometimes I get these thoughts of “what if I’ve done something awful during the relationship (for example, cheat, dishonesty, etc.) and can’t remember?” I know I would never do anything intentionally to harm my relationship and I think that maybe the idea of not having my partner sends me down a rabbit hole to think all these things. This mental fight is getting harder and harder. It feels unbearable. Does anyone have some fruit for thought, relate, or have any tips?
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So I have been struggling with the same theme of ocd for 4 months now. My ocd centers around past events/false memories that ocd skews to make seem bad or it twists my thoughts on what my intentions were. this is related to cheating or being weird while I have been in my amazing relationship. I have never cheated on my partner and never will and I believe it is wrong. But my ocd is telling me other wise. I love my partner so very much and I would never want to hurt him but my brain is getting to me. I was getting better. I was trying “maybe I did, maybe I didn’t”, I have been back on meds and in therapy and I stopped confessing random interactions from years/months ago about 1.5 weeks ago and it really helped. But now I woke up this morning and feel the pit in my stomach again. I feel extra critical and like why would you do this? What does this say about you? What was your intention with this? And I’m just stuck mentally reviewing and ruminating on everything you could imagine. I know my personality and I know in the moment maybe I did find them attractive but mainly I was just being nice or funny or even just a good friend, but looking back now I’m like “was it flirting?” “Why did I still snap this person” “why would I even talk to them” and stuff like that. I feel this intense sense of guilt. I have told my partner everything that I keep getting stuck on and he didn’t care, he said he understands or “that’s a little weird but it’s okay” and hasn’t missed a beat. He said eveything I’ve told him is normal and I’ve heard that from my friends too. I just really need help. I don’t know what to do anymore. I am so disappointed because I thought I was gonna be done with this, so why am I still so worried and caught up in this.
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