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You don’t need to be straight to have HOOCD. You can be asexual or aromantic or whatever and still be afraid of something you’re not.
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Sounds like HOCD.
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But I feel like my experiences are so different from everybody. I get anxiety attacks over the thought of being married to men - idk if it’s trauma or what - but ever since I was small I think I didn’t want to get married. I never really wanted to date either. I do feel like I’m aromantic, or at least on the spectrum, but the only thing holding me back is this fear of what if I’m just a lesbian instead? It’s turned my life 180, I feel terrible all the time
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If ur asking what if questions it’s probably OCD
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I feel so sick. I never wanted to get married and I wanted to live alone once I got my career figured out and do a lot of volunteer work and travel and have lots of dogs but now I’m afraid I’m a lesbian and that all has to change. I valued my friendships so much because they honestly saved me when I was in a really tough spot but I’m afraid I’m in love with one of them. I used to get thoughts about whether or not I wanted to kiss one of my friends two or three times but I always brushed it off bc no I didn’t and it made me uncomfortable and now I’m afraid that that means I actually wanted to? All my dreams for the future feel like a fake now. I’m afraid I’m going to start wanting to date women, and I’ve questioned myself a thousand times that if I feel so comfortable around my friends why wouldn’t I want to date them but I just want to stay friends, I don’t want to fall in love with a woman in the future but I keep getting these feelings that make me feel like I like the thoight? Even though I feel sickly at the same time?
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OCD thoughts aren’t real. You don’t need to date a woman if you don’t want to even if your brain is saying you should!! Have you had other themes before??
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@emma123 I’ve been on this app for a few months now and I get intrusive thoughts about being trans but I know those are fake, but I can’t say that about this. I don’t think I’m straight bc I don’t want a relationship with men but I don’t think I’m gay either but I’m stuck thinking if I don’t want that with men then I have to want it with women, and it makes me cry. I feel like a fake on this app all the time because everyone knows they want their opposite gender and I can’t even say that. I don’t want to be alone forever, but I don’t want to date women, but I’m afraid that I do?
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I never used to balk at the thought of living with my girl friends for a few years until I could go off on my own. I really enjoyed the thought of living alone, kn a farm maybe, working in healthcare and holistic healing. I wanted a lot of dogs. I wanted to adopt. I still want all of those things but now I’m afraid I want to marry a woman. I’ve never been interested in them like that. I am very comfortable with them, but I know it’s not romantically. My old therapist didn’t believe me when I said I wanted to just be on my own, start a family on my own, she told me I needed a man and I know I didn’t want that, which scared me even more.
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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hi i’m a lesbian! and i have known im a lesbian for a really long time and i have a sweet girlfriend of 1 year. it all started when i saw this masc lesbian come out as straight, after that i had my guy friend over and he’s a sweet guy and he was flirting with me (he didn’t know i was gay) im not sure but i panicked and my brain froze and i was like “do i like him”, ever since my brain has been over worked 24/7 for 2 months now and it’s spiralling constantly. im trying to control it but all these thoughts are so disgusting and my brain tries to put him and i in scenarios that make me uncomfortable and i feel panic and i hate it. i have always been comfortable being a lesbian and i still am comfortable as a lesbian, but i dislike these thoughts i have about him and men and i want it to be over. i do not want to experiment with men even tho my brain is telling me i do, i find it disgusting and i dread it, i have a sweet girlfriend and i want to be with her forever, i do not imagine anything with any men and i hate these thoughts. im scared of becoming bisexual/straight one day and i hate hearing sexuality is fluid. its a whole mix of comphet and so-ocd
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Hi everyone, I’ve been really anxious lately, and I just need to get this out of my head. Someone recently told me that maybe I’m bisexual — that I might be more sexually attracted to women, but more romantically attracted to men. That bisexuality is not 50/50. And ever since I heard that, I’ve been spiraling. The thing is: I don’t want this to be true. It scares me. I don’t feel romantic attraction to women, I’ve never wanted to be in a relationship with one. But yes, I get aroused by fantasies involving women — and that makes me feel broken or like I’ve been lying to myself. I love my boyfriend deeply, I don’t want to lose him. I want to feel fully connected to him, physically and emotionally. But now I’m stuck in this obsessive loop of questioning: “What if I’m just in denial?” “What if I’m not really straight?” “What if this is why my libido is low?” It’s exhausting, and I don’t know if this is OCD, anxiety, or if something is fundamentally wrong. Has anyone else felt this split — romantic feelings for one gender, sexual feelings for another? I feel so alone and scared. Thanks for listening.
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