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okay. deep breaths. try and calm down. your okay. if you don’t want to be gay then you feel distressed thinking about it. try and relax and (ik it’s easier said than done) but try not to overthink it. say this to yourself for low level acceptance. “if i’m gay, then i am gay. there’s nothing i can do to change that. but i just don’t feel like i am gay right now. so i’m going to continue living a straight person”. this way your acknowledging that you COULD be gay, buttttt you don’t feel like you are. but please try not to overthink about it too much. it’s going to be okay ✨
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but what if you do feel like you’re gay?
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@lolashewas it depends. if you’d feel happy giving it a go with the same gender. try it. if that triggers you then it means you don’t like it
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@animal35353 i don’t like it i would never
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@lolashewas then don’t. you don’t have to. but notice how repulsed you were by the idea ?
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@animal35353 i wasn’t repulsed i was just scared
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@lolashewas you don’t have to think about it now but i’d recommend if u feel like you didn’t like it. try and relax
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what post was that?
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It could be a back door spike? Try to educate yourself more on that. The more I have been doing ERP, there are many things that don’t trigger me like they used to. That doesn’t mean I’m gay. Sometimes you not being bothered could also be you’re finally accepting your thoughts. NOT ACCEPTING THEY ARE TRUE. But just accepting the presence of them and it doesn’t bother you as much. In general try to educate yourself more on OCD, it helps you understand what you’re feeling or sometimes not feeling.
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I’ve had hocd for around 11 months now. It’s gotten to the point where I’m just convinced that I am bi. I still like boys like I always have, but I feel like I like girls too. I have no anxiety either or active thoughts. It’s just kinda there like yep I’m bi and ok with it. Anyone else? Just curious.
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I feel like I'm lying to myself, like I just don't accept that I'm gay, I don't want to be gay, I don't want to feel any kind of attraction anymore, I want to go to a psychologist to find out if I really have hocd or if it's just an excuse, because it feels like I really am gay, but nothing was authentic, it all started with thoughts that made me panic extremely hard and I felt like crying and I had delusions, I don't understand why this is happening to me, I didn't like any boys before the thoughts appeared, but exactly one day after they appeared, all the boys were attractive, of all ages, I want to recover :( I'm only 17 years old, for about 2 months I've been having thoughts, I don't know what to do, I can't go to a psychologist, I need help :(
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I feel like the thoughts and feelings are getting stronger, to the point where they feel like they are my own and that I want them and want them to happen. Recently I’ve even had feelings of ‘wanting to be gay’ and that I ‘don’t want to be straight’, or that being with a woman would be nice even though that’s literally the one thing I don’t want otherwise I wouldn’t be constantly thinking about it day after day surely and if I wanted it I would just know? I feel numb and sick and terrified that I’ll just be what I’ve feared all this time. Why does my brain do this. I feel like I’ve lost so much already, I couldn’t concentrate on university work and I’ve had to delay my degree for a year, I’ve lost my purpose, and I feel so ashamed that I can’t tell anyone the real reason for it (I just told everyone the course was too much stress and was causing me anxiety) and it just feels like it’s getting worse to the point that it’s actually coming true, and I’m going to have to leave my boyfriend because I can’t be with him anymore. Why do the thoughts sometimes feel good? Why does it feel like real attraction? Why why why does it feel like DISAPPOINTMENT with the idea of never being with a woman wtf this is literally what I don’t want and never have? Even just writing that out my brain is telling me ‘it is’ and ‘I’m lying’ and I just can’t even believe myself anymore. I’ve tried telling myself the whole maybe maybe not but it just doesn’t work. It feels like if I accept I like woman I’ll want to be with one and leave him. Why does the idea of being with a man not fill me with excitement like it used to why do labels terrify me I genuinely just want to give up I still haven’t even told anyone about this cause I just feel like they won’t understand and that they will just think I’m struggling with my sexuality and the worst thing is I don’t even know what I want anymore cause of the thoughts and feelings I don’t know what to believe what if I am actually just struggling with my sexuality cause nothing feels right anymore
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