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okay. deep breaths. try and calm down. your okay. if you don’t want to be gay then you feel distressed thinking about it. try and relax and (ik it’s easier said than done) but try not to overthink it. say this to yourself for low level acceptance. “if i’m gay, then i am gay. there’s nothing i can do to change that. but i just don’t feel like i am gay right now. so i’m going to continue living a straight person”. this way your acknowledging that you COULD be gay, buttttt you don’t feel like you are. but please try not to overthink about it too much. it’s going to be okay ✨
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but what if you do feel like you’re gay?
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@lolashewas it depends. if you’d feel happy giving it a go with the same gender. try it. if that triggers you then it means you don’t like it
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@animal35353 i don’t like it i would never
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@lolashewas then don’t. you don’t have to. but notice how repulsed you were by the idea ?
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@animal35353 i wasn’t repulsed i was just scared
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@lolashewas you don’t have to think about it now but i’d recommend if u feel like you didn’t like it. try and relax
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what post was that?
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It could be a back door spike? Try to educate yourself more on that. The more I have been doing ERP, there are many things that don’t trigger me like they used to. That doesn’t mean I’m gay. Sometimes you not being bothered could also be you’re finally accepting your thoughts. NOT ACCEPTING THEY ARE TRUE. But just accepting the presence of them and it doesn’t bother you as much. In general try to educate yourself more on OCD, it helps you understand what you’re feeling or sometimes not feeling.
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I've always found women pretty and admired them since I was younger, never wanted to be with them or anything. I always pictured having a boyfriend and my crushes were always boys. I have a boyfriend now but because this has happened I feel nothing towards him or any men. To be honest I'm so exhausted I don't feel much at all, there was so much anxiety at the start and now there is none. Does that mean I have accepted the thoughts. My mind keeps going you were suppressed all these years but I do find women pretty so that's what's making it worse. Am I just in denial and being delusional? I never doubted my sexuality before this I always considered myself to be straight but I feels like my mind has been twisted and can't remember any attraction to guys but can remember thinking girls are pretty? Does this mean it's all real? I don't know anymore
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Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
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it feels like i accepted being gay and thats part of who i am but i still feel that tension and fake attraction whenever i see a man and i feel like i could be able to have a sexual intercourse with a man even though i dont want it is it still hocd or just denial? like i am feeling okey but there is still that doubt that how can i know that im not gay if i dont get disgusted by gay things or gay personality traits and at the same time i want to feel normal again like before
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