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okay. deep breaths. try and calm down. your okay. if you don’t want to be gay then you feel distressed thinking about it. try and relax and (ik it’s easier said than done) but try not to overthink it. say this to yourself for low level acceptance. “if i’m gay, then i am gay. there’s nothing i can do to change that. but i just don’t feel like i am gay right now. so i’m going to continue living a straight person”. this way your acknowledging that you COULD be gay, buttttt you don’t feel like you are. but please try not to overthink about it too much. it’s going to be okay ✨
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but what if you do feel like you’re gay?
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@lolashewas it depends. if you’d feel happy giving it a go with the same gender. try it. if that triggers you then it means you don’t like it
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@animal35353 i don’t like it i would never
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@lolashewas then don’t. you don’t have to. but notice how repulsed you were by the idea ?
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@animal35353 i wasn’t repulsed i was just scared
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@lolashewas you don’t have to think about it now but i’d recommend if u feel like you didn’t like it. try and relax
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what post was that?
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It could be a back door spike? Try to educate yourself more on that. The more I have been doing ERP, there are many things that don’t trigger me like they used to. That doesn’t mean I’m gay. Sometimes you not being bothered could also be you’re finally accepting your thoughts. NOT ACCEPTING THEY ARE TRUE. But just accepting the presence of them and it doesn’t bother you as much. In general try to educate yourself more on OCD, it helps you understand what you’re feeling or sometimes not feeling.
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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As a lesbian with SO-OCD, I feel so helpless. It's truly exhausting because no one I know understands what I'm going through. The first response is always, "You're just confused" or "You don't have to know yet." But that's not the issue, I do know. I just never see any lesbians with SO-OCD so I feel so invalidated. These thoughts flood my brain constantly, forcing me to analyze my reactions to every man I see. I feel trapped in an endless cycle of "testing" myself, trying to prove that I don't like them. But my brain fights back, telling me I do want to love a man, making it feel real even though don't want it. It's terrifying. At this point, it's hard to even hold onto my identity as a lesbian because I'm so overwhelmed. I don't know if this is what real attraction is supposed to feel like, and that fear eats away at me. The truth is, when I think about being with a man, all I feel is disgust and fear-but my brain twists that into doubt. I hate it. I'm at the point where I'm scared I'm going to have to accept something I don't want because I don't know if this will ever go away. I miss who I was before all this.
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I really dont know if it is ocd anymore I dont want certain sexual things with my bf anymore that i used to like When i envision it with a girl it is so easy to envision and it feels like i want that , that will give me the satisfaction This feeling is making me really question if i am still into men , desire men sexually Is this still ocd , i really dont know anymore , as it is a feeling it is too real
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