Feeling so confused and angry about my ex girlfriend

What do you mean?

As horrible as this is, I don't think you should blame yourself for this. It just sounds like she wasn't a good friend to you, a good person in general for that matter to you. You also say you were naive when in the relationship which isn't something that is your fault. It's okay to not know what will happen next even when you want to know. I really feel bad for you man, but it does get better in time. Just know that you have the right to feel that anger and distress you feel about the whole thing.

@BigGip09 Thanks man for the advice. Yeah tbh I have been finding it hard just seeing her with someone else that isn’t me and 3 weeks before we broke up she told me she only ever wanted me for the rest of her life and we were planning our future together and then 2 weeks later she had sex with someone else. I did think she was THE ONE the bond we had was so special and we had so much in common but one thing that makes us so opposite is loyalty and that’s one of my biggest morals and traits is loyalty

@anonymous98 You must feel so hurt, man. Don't blame yourself for having high hopes for something that could have made you happy. There still is hope too. Don't dwell on this either. I know it happened it makes you feel terrible and you just wish that you could turn things around if it were possible. You can also look at it this way: You may have learned something when going through this. You know what to look for and what not to look for in a partner and your naivety may not be as strong as before.

@BigGip09 Yeah I am hurt man. In a way regardless of what she has done to me, I still feel a sense of protectiveness over her and worry about her being with this new guy because I don’t trust him or his intentions. I’m 22 and she’s 21 but the new guy she’s dating is 27 and I overheard he used to wait outside her job in his car to see her leaving work and then he supposedly hangs around with girls a lot younger than him

@anonymous98 You sound like a respectful guy who even under negative circumstances is still able to really care for people. Perhaps the two of you can be friends if something like this bothers you too much. It does seem the older dude is a little aggressive in terms of trying to get with her. That last part is a little yikes but it may just be rumors I can't say much about that

@BigGip09 Thanks man yeah I suppose so but bare in mind when we broke up, I was still in love with her and prob still am in a way I always had her best interests at heart even though it seems she hadn’t got mine? I do think it’s true about him though because I heard some stories about him before I ever knew she was dating him

@anonymous98 It may seem like right now you don't know what to do or what to feel but in the future you will be able to handle it when the time comes. OCD can make it seem like you won't handle it but you will know what to do and what's best for the situation. I know it's hard for you not to dwell on something like this, but you shouldn't. I wish you and her to best, dude.

@BigGip09 Thanks mate I really appreciate you taking the time to talk to me because my family and friends don’t like her because of what she done to me so I’ve no one to really open up to about the situation. I just wish I could go back and do things differently