is there some thing wrong with me? i’m a straight girl with hocd. and i don’t know if this is normal: every since i got it i literally haven’t been able to watch any sort of porn without ruminating about what i watch after. but i can’t watch straight porn anymore because i get all theses intrusive thoughts that are based off of what complaining women who can’t tell their partners that they aren’t satirised with their sex life so they instead bitch about it online...and it’s really fucked with me. when i watch it i think “he’s not pleasing her” “he’s hurting her” “she’s just faking it” but then if i imagine the couple being two guys i’m able to get off to it better. or just gay porn in general. i guess i just assume that they understand each other psychologically i dunno, that must be a reason why i was les porn sometimes but i do have a liking towards gay porn. what i’m getting at is, before hocd i never analysed my poem habits. like it didn’t matter i’d watch what i wanted and it meant nothing, it was just something that helped me sleep better. but now, since hocd has made me question everything about men and how they can’t please women, according to women on twitter, it’s really messed with me psychologically. im so scared that i’ll never be able to be aroused properly by men in the future. i’m scared that i’ll have a horrible sex life. i’m scared that i won’t feel pleasure because a lot of girls talk about how they don’t feel anything and a lot of guys talk about how complicated it is to please a woman. i just feel like a robot. like what’s complicated about my pleasure and why do girls always bitch about their boyfriends not pleasing them when they can just tell him straight up. it’s really messing with me. it’s like ever tweet i’ve read on twitter has turned into an intrusive thought and i now i can’t feel fully satisfied with porn unless it’s gay porn or maybe les porn but not preferably. i feel like this made no sense but someone please help me to understand my mind. i’m not asking for reassurance or anything. i’m just a teen girl who wants some advice and answers and understanding on my psychology. thanks you :)

helplesslime...

Date posted: 4y

ugh so many typos too, so sorry

Nzz

Date posted: 4y

Hey! Continue to remember that watching gay porn means nothing. It’s not a hint that you are gay. A lot of straight women like gay porn even though they aren’t gay. Boys usually don’t figure out or care about pleasing their partner until they’re usually in their mid twenties. Don’t give up on them lol. I’m 25. There are plenty of men who care and some who don’t. Choose the ones that care

helplesslime...

Date posted: 4y

by gay porn i mean two guys

helplesslime...

Date posted: 4y

im not in my mid 20s in 17. how is it ok if i just wait it out that doesn’t even seem fair. ugh i fucking hate this shit

Nzz

Date posted: 4y

@ocdear Yup. I picked up that it was two men and that you’re still a teen. Watching two guys isn’t abnormal. And I had no idea what I was doing at that time either. So it’s not all up to the guy to figure out how to please the girl. It takes time to learn what you like. Every time you get in a new relationship, you two have to learn how to make it pleasurable for both of you. There’s no one formula for guys to use on all women that works. But if you’re worry is that no guy is going to please you so you should just give up, then I’m telling you don’t worry about that. Bc it’s not true.

cnv

Date posted: 4y

I think you are in a more favourable position than me, because I used to watch lesbian porn, but rarely, more frequently I watched women masturbating because I was masturbating too. But at some point, it has become like a habit and I was bored with every new video I played and didn’t even bother to watch it fully. Up untill I compared my arousal to lesbian sex and to straight sex and realized that I was more turned on my les porn. Of course I panicked but then I found o bunch of articles about how straight women prefer les porn and that it is normal. I got calmed down for a while but the obsession didn’t stop there. Soon I began to fear that in the future I won’t be able to get any satisfaction from sex with a man and that I’ll have to think about a woman to get turned on

helplesslime...

Date posted: 4y

btw to anyone who reads it. i differentiated between gay and les porn; gay porn = two guys, les porn = two girls

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