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Good luck to you and especially to Kane ☺️. I've been in psychotherapy for years ( not ERP TYPE ) I personally think , just myself , that it's very hard to see positive in especially negative experiences but with effort we can find something good and positive out of practically anything . I'm concerned that because you are feeling so overwhelmed ( rightfully so !!!! ) you might not see that anything positive came of your/ your son's therapy but it has ! You and Kane are better informed , you know what doesn't work and maybe more .. please be sure not to identify this experience as " failure " . I say this particularly because I'm concerned Kane might see himself as the " failure " which is completely untrue , right ? I'm a mother too . I have several psych issues and have taken on the role and identity of " the failure " in some situations and now I can see these experiences as just stepping stones to health and progress , to peace ☮️ I'm glad you wrote in and honestly shared too . Sounds so frustrating and I'm thinking about you and how exausted you feel . I have a son ( grown up now , very successful ) who struggled with high functioning autism and depression diagnosed at two years old . I know that frustration , fatigue , the ENDLESS IEP NAVIGATION ! and the guilt I took on personally because I felt like I could not protect/help my child . It was horrible , BUT he is doing good now . If I could offer one thing , one bit of advice in retrospect of my experience ? Take really good care of yourself 💖 Love and nurture you . Good luck with all
Sorry to hear of such a rough time. You guys are trying your absolute best for your son and he is trying his best too! Sounds like you can clearly see this isn't working. I would cease any more meetings, no need for it to continue and only frustrate you all as family any more. Have a chat with a nocd therapist here, it sounds like a great place to have therapy! And it is covered by most insurances 😊 May God direct your sons help and recovery. Pray to God about it too and He will direct the steps 😊
That sounds terrible! If he hasn’t gotten help this far and you’ve given the program multiple weeks, I’d pull him out for sure! (I’m no professional, though) What is your son dealing with? I’d recommending trying NOCD therapy again too. I’m so sorry to hear that you’re dealing with this. I know the disheartening struggle of trial and error. But don’t give up! There IS hope! Keep searching for answers for your son until you find them. He’s so blessed to have a family that cares! 💖
I appreciate this! Sometimes you have to just “call it” when it isn’t working. You lifted my spirits. Thank you!
Thank you! That’s good advice on the language we use. Agree it’s not a total failure in reality. I just feel so dumb giving this program a try when there were so many red flags. You get desperate as a parent. And who knows—what if it were great. I just realize that so much of this journey you have to handle on your own as a family. Nobody is going to save the day here. It’s a long long long journey and the most we can hope for is slight improvement, maybe his whole life. I’m glad your son is doing good now. I am scared to have hope. It’s been so hard.
You’re the first person to listen and care. This response means so much to me. And hearing your input on ending the meetings is helpful. Agree on leaning on God. He will direct the steps. I’ve been awake all night and yiur post might help me fall asleep. I just wanted someone to care. You did that. Thank you. <tears>
Aww wow. Well the God of all comfort, wanted to send you that comfort because He cares so much about you and your family. You've done the absolute best! And one day you will be able to help someone in a similar situation. All the best for the next steps, Prehaps here on Nocd 😊. Rest well, all is being taken care of.
Just as I put my phone down I thought of this song.. So maybe it will help you. This helps in my the pits of distress: https://youtu.be/eyHn_KPm3uk 😊
@ButterflyStar Wow that is so lovely and perfect and simple. Just pray. About everything. Yes.
@ButterflyStar I NEEDED " Your Song " today ...so many days .. sharing this with my loved ones , all. Thank you ❤️ . Everyone needs hope and others and we all need to know there is something much greater than us , or our thought and fears . This song so touches my heart ... again much thanks 💖
@cricketbooboo Aw I'm so glad it was helpful. God wanted to encourage you! 💟
Hi there. This post may be a little lengthy so apologies in advance! I’m relatively new to NOCD. I’m currently on my 3rd week of counseling for ROCD. I’ve been dealing with ROCD on and off since the summer of 2020. My initial dealings with ROCD in 2020 left me bed-ridden for weeks, not wanting to eat or drink anything - just wanting to sleep it all away. It got to the point where I couldn’t decipher if what I was thinking were my true thoughts or my anxiety. From the moment I woke up until the moment I fell asleep. I was truly a prisoner of my own mind. It was such a painful and heartbreaking experience not only for myself, but for my fiancé and mother to witness as we didn’t know anything of ROCD then. It got to the point where for the first time in my life I voiced aloud wanting to die - just so I could shut my brain off and have peace. Since then I’ve been placed on medication and have been in and out of therapy. Until finding NOCD, I always felt therapists in my town (a small, southern part of the US) just didn’t quite understand what I was dealing with. I’m happy to be here on NOCD and giving ERP a try. It’s definitely different from any other therapy I’ve received in the past… but sometimes the sessions can be triggering. I’m currently dealing with a “flare up” right now. I constantly feel as if I have one foot out the door in my relationship. I constantly think of people from my past. Two in particular. I chalk it up to never having closure (maybe?)… but then I’ll have intrusive thoughts. Playing out scenarios in my mind, making myself anxious and doubting my current relationship - knowing that the odds of these scenarios actually happening in real life are practically non-existent. I’m triggered by topics of marriage, couples that we’re friends with being on the outs, etc. It’s so painful to deal with. I say ALL of this to say, other than meeting with my NOCD therapist, I’ve considered doing the group ROCD therapy that meets every Wednesday via the app… but I’m really anxious about it. All because of this belief that if I speak what I’m going through into existence, then it’s true. I’ve also never shared my story face to face with people in a public setting like that before. I tend to be pretty private. I’m able to post this because for those who see it, you don’t know who I am and you cannot see me and vice versa. So, if anyone’s ever sat in on a group NOCD therapy session - would you be so kind as to give your girl some relief or tips to approaching it for the first time? I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you!
Hi, I have a 15 year old son who is an identical twin and both boys suffer from OCD. With one it’s under control, the other one is kind of in a crisis, every single thing that the boy does is built around his rituals. He is late to school, he hardly sleeps, and is up all night, he avoids touching things, washes his hands all the time, refuses to sit down, or sit on a certain chair, or walk through the kitchen a certain pathway, or even enter the living room. He does this ritual in the morning with his sneakers before he puts them on and has been late to school so far 4 times this year even though his alarm is set for 45 minutes earlier than it was last year. He told me a while ago he’s scared, and he wants to talk to somebody, and the psychiatrist recently put him back on sertraline. It’s killing me to see my kid like this & the family (6 of us, me & my husband & 4 kids) has no patience for him anymore.
My first post here. Background: I’m a 29 year old child therapist with autism, anxiety, & OCD. Finally felt brave enough to navigate dating for the 1st time & within 2 weeks developed ROCD. Was getting to know an amazing guy. He’s been nothing but kind, has autism, & is also a Christian like me. I’ve had the most horrible intrusive thoughts about him. In the past week, I’ve had 2 days where I didn’t sleep for over 24 hours. I experienced paranoia & felt so disconnected. Last night, I had a reoccurring intrusive thought that he’s a narcissist or has antisocial personality disorder. I didn’t sleep and cancelled our date and ended things. Such self-sabotage but I literally couldn’t go because I hadn’t slept all night. I’m so sad because I couldn’t last more than 2.5 months. He’s confused and thankfully he’s open to talking but I’m not sure how to let him now about my ROCD. My fear is that he’ll be understanding (and I know he will be which makes me sad) and my OCD will tell me that he’s doing that to manipulate me or do something bad to me. I want to be his friend SO badly but I’m scared. Is being is friend the exposure? Idk what to do??? Any advice or kind words are appreciated ☹️
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