Spiraling. An ocd chat group im in ended up excusing and supporting people who like to see pedophilia and abuse and incest romantically in fiction. And I shared a lot about my struggles there esp with ocd and pocd and my nsfw themes and now I feel weird and uncomfortable and all the advice they gave me with my struggles knowing their viewpoints. Im now questioning and second guessing everything. Especially since I'm really passionate against that sort of thing. And I've felt gross all after noon like im the one who condones it and I've had to resist compulsively checking my messages over and over. Please help

pureolife

Date posted: 4y

You can disagree on this personal value AND their advice in regards to ocd and treatment can still be valid. One does not invalidate the other. I’m sure many of us on this app disagree on a wide variety of values. But we still used evidence based treatment like erp and CBT to treat our ocd.

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Date posted: 4y

Yeah..I think it just kinda messes up the factor of reassurance. Which is prolly not a good factor to rely on in the first place.

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Date posted: 4y

@OpposumTreehouse Its kinda like. Knowing something like that i feel passionate about,my ocd turns it into "oh my God! What if the whole time you've been saying really horrible bad things and they've never pointed it out bc of that but in reality by morals I go more by its really terrible and eventually people are going to find out abt my obsessions and hate me"

pureolife

Date posted: 4y

@OpposumTreehouse So it invalidated your compulsion. That’s actually a good thing! Now do yourself a favor and don’t seek any more to replace it. Instead, allow for the uncertainty and don’t engage in any more compulsions. It will suck at first. And then it will get easier to tolerate this.

Isabella

Date posted: 4y

I was in an ocd support group on discord (I also have pocd) and it traumatized me. Too many people exusing pedophilia and I feel like a horrible person for taking advice from them/ associating myself with them. Like one time I said hearing about micheal Jackson and how he abused kids really triggers me and they started defending him? I left that chat because it was really toxic and harmful to my recovery. If you haven’t already I would leave that chat too. ❤️

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Date posted: 4y

I'm hesitant bc my ocd keeps going "what if someone you know joins and sees all the messages abt ur obsession and uses it against you" which i realize is a bit unlikely and silly,but ocd doesn't. I have found a better server and now I just lurk on occasion. Mine was also on discord too. Its put me in a really weird spot reassurance wise I think.

snva

Date posted: 4y

I understand how you feel because there’s a very thin line between literally excusing that kind of behavior versus helping you recover from actual ocd. Try not to keep checking the messages because you definitely do not excuse that stuff because you’re so anxious about it. Take care

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Date posted: 4y

I'm trying. Do u have any tips?

snva

Date posted: 4y

@OpposumTreehouse Just don’t look at the messages no matter how much anxiety that gives you. The anxiety will subside eventually. And try to just put away your phone for a bit and listen to some relaxing music or white noise it helps when I’m in that situation

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