Anonymous
- Date posted
- 4y ago
TerrtugaTerrtuga
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I honestly don’t recommend being on Reddit when dealing with OCD because a lot of the people say some dumb stuff.
TerrtugaTerrtuga
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I of course wouldn’t want you to avoid it but it’s okay to lay off the forum whilst trying to recover from OCD (assuming you’re doing ERP and therapy) but yea not the best place sometimes.
Recoverer Recoverer
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I understand the feeling of wanting to talk to someone about hocd just to get it off your chest...only them responding by confirming your fear. I told one of my closest friends about my story with it and his first response was, “maybe it is denial man” obviously that sent my anxiety through the roof. As I explained it a little further though, he said he started to see where it might just be all in my head versus me actually being secretly gay. Regardless though, OCD about homosexuality is still misunderstood by a lot of people today. It can be easily misinterpreted as “people being homophobic” because they get the impression that the sufferer is claiming that “being gay is a disease”, so they feel offended. At the end of the day though OP, just like everyone has said above, the only thing that matters is what you know and feel about yourself. Similar to what I described with my friend, I still knew my situation was and still is OCD. Biggest thing I tell people on here is this: if you’re confused about anxiety vs actual attraction, ask yourself this: do I feel more comfortable sexually around women or men? Which one do I want to go up and talk to versus which one makes me want to get away and be on my own? That doesn’t always work because, again, your mind may tell you still you want to go talk to the sex that your fear is about. But in the end, you know deep down who you’re most attracted to.
BeachedMermaid BeachedMermaid
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Great points, there is always this feeling that I know my true sexuality which is good. I know I’m straight, I know this, but I am starting to accept that the HOCD/SOOCD give me doubts.
Recoverer Recoverer
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@BeachedMermaid Again it goes back to which sex you feel most comfortable being around, that’s the biggest differentiator for me when I do some reflection.
stop.stop.
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Even people with OCD often times misunderstand HOCD. Even certain people with HOCD misunderstand others. It’s such a complex form. I think it’s kind of dumb and ignorant that they told you that. 1) they’re not you and they don’t know what’s going on in your head and 2) I feel like they should’ve known that would’ve triggered you but they said it regardless. It’s just something you have to disregard and try to use maybe as a little erp.
Dothewalkoflife. Dothewalkofl...
- Date posted
- 4y ago
realistically. no one else can tell you what your going through because they aren’t you. only a specialist is going to have the best understanding. don’t think too much about it. because they just don’t know.
NickerinoNickerino
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Reddit is a cesspool. Plese avoid.
TerrtugaTerrtuga
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Don’t try to convince yourself. Use this as an exposure, write it down. Tell yourself that! fear and do not give in to any compulsion as your anxiety will eventually go down.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 4y ago
It’s like I’m not even anxious about it
TerrtugaTerrtuga
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Then if you’re not, nothing to worry about or pick at. Let the thoughts pass.
BeachedMermaid BeachedMermaid
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I don’t know why people say stuff like that, they have no idea becuase they aren’t you. Hang in there, hope you are in therapy! Try and let your thoughts pass without judgement.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 4y ago
The chick from earlier sent an article talking about what internalized homophobia is. For fucks sake. I don’t want to be gay or bisexual and I keep getting this feeling in my chest. Like this sensation that makes me feel like I want to be gay or bisexual when I dont want to be.
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Mt2019
- Date posted
- 11w ago
Question about HOCD
Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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