Anonymous
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TerrtugaTerrtuga
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I honestly don’t recommend being on Reddit when dealing with OCD because a lot of the people say some dumb stuff.
TerrtugaTerrtuga
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I of course wouldn’t want you to avoid it but it’s okay to lay off the forum whilst trying to recover from OCD (assuming you’re doing ERP and therapy) but yea not the best place sometimes.
Recoverer Recoverer
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- Date posted
- 4y
I understand the feeling of wanting to talk to someone about hocd just to get it off your chest...only them responding by confirming your fear. I told one of my closest friends about my story with it and his first response was, “maybe it is denial man” obviously that sent my anxiety through the roof. As I explained it a little further though, he said he started to see where it might just be all in my head versus me actually being secretly gay. Regardless though, OCD about homosexuality is still misunderstood by a lot of people today. It can be easily misinterpreted as “people being homophobic” because they get the impression that the sufferer is claiming that “being gay is a disease”, so they feel offended. At the end of the day though OP, just like everyone has said above, the only thing that matters is what you know and feel about yourself. Similar to what I described with my friend, I still knew my situation was and still is OCD. Biggest thing I tell people on here is this: if you’re confused about anxiety vs actual attraction, ask yourself this: do I feel more comfortable sexually around women or men? Which one do I want to go up and talk to versus which one makes me want to get away and be on my own? That doesn’t always work because, again, your mind may tell you still you want to go talk to the sex that your fear is about. But in the end, you know deep down who you’re most attracted to.
BeachedMermaid BeachedMermaid
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- 4y
Great points, there is always this feeling that I know my true sexuality which is good. I know I’m straight, I know this, but I am starting to accept that the HOCD/SOOCD give me doubts.
Recoverer Recoverer
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- 4y
@BeachedMermaid Again it goes back to which sex you feel most comfortable being around, that’s the biggest differentiator for me when I do some reflection.
stop.stop.
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Even people with OCD often times misunderstand HOCD. Even certain people with HOCD misunderstand others. It’s such a complex form. I think it’s kind of dumb and ignorant that they told you that. 1) they’re not you and they don’t know what’s going on in your head and 2) I feel like they should’ve known that would’ve triggered you but they said it regardless. It’s just something you have to disregard and try to use maybe as a little erp.
Dothewalkoflife. Dothewalkofl...
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realistically. no one else can tell you what your going through because they aren’t you. only a specialist is going to have the best understanding. don’t think too much about it. because they just don’t know.
NickerinoNickerino
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- 4y
Reddit is a cesspool. Plese avoid.
TerrtugaTerrtuga
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Don’t try to convince yourself. Use this as an exposure, write it down. Tell yourself that! fear and do not give in to any compulsion as your anxiety will eventually go down.
AnonymousAnonymous
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It’s like I’m not even anxious about it
TerrtugaTerrtuga
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Then if you’re not, nothing to worry about or pick at. Let the thoughts pass.
BeachedMermaid BeachedMermaid
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I don’t know why people say stuff like that, they have no idea becuase they aren’t you. Hang in there, hope you are in therapy! Try and let your thoughts pass without judgement.
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 4y
The chick from earlier sent an article talking about what internalized homophobia is. For fucks sake. I don’t want to be gay or bisexual and I keep getting this feeling in my chest. Like this sensation that makes me feel like I want to be gay or bisexual when I dont want to be.
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Anonymous
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 23w
Pls I need advice
I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
Elliesmith
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- 20w
Is this a symptom of soocd
I’m 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Don’t get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you won’t prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you haven’t tried it: and it’s that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I don’t want I don’t want I don’t want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I don’t wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
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vaiiolyn
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- 13w
Lesbian with Sexual Orientation OCD
I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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