- Username
- shuichi
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Don't tell them not to compulse. I would see if you could gently talk them into getting help. If they have ocd and have never sought treatment they probably have a hard time not doing so. They have to be ready to take on ERP. What you can do is refuse to give in to compulsions if they involve you (if they keep asking "is this true" for something they are obsessing about, gently tell them you cannot answer that. Etc). If they decide to seek help DO ask your partner how you can help. Let them know you are there for them, if you can join them in a therapy session to ask questions and find out what they are going through. Iocdf.com should have some resources if you want to research it. If you actually think their life is in danger, call emergency services or the national suicide hotline. Hope this helps.
please help
do they have physical or mental compulsions?? or both??
i think only mental!
okay hold on
do they know they could have ocd? do they know that they're having intrusive thoughts and stuff or do they know nothing abt ocd
id suggest taking a look and on the other articles from this site they're very educational for people with mental compulsions
thank you so much!! ily <3 /p
@shuichi no problem i hope your partner is okay!! :)
@shuichi lmk if you need anything else
I’m so sorry about that. Here are some articles and links that may help. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Vl2V_mYuLc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Vl2V_mYuLc https://iocdf.org/ocd-finding-help/ And here’s a link to the calm app becuase I think it’s awesome, and everyone should use it in moments of panic. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/calm/id571800810 Also get your partner to use this app to learn more about OCD and use the SOS function on here for moments of extreme intrusive thoughts. Don’t nessesaily diagnose them, but tell them you believe they may be struggling, and that there are other people who are feeling the same way. If they are suicidal, they absolutly should be in therapy, but OCD specialist are very different than regular therapists. Regular therapists are not usdually schooled in OCD. So if your partner is willing, help them seek out a specialist for ERP.
Hello everyone! I am not the one having OCD, but my boyfriend does, and it is combined with depression. He hides it pretty well (he doesn't want to make me or any other person sad) and acts like everything is normal most of the time (makes everyone laugh etc. - like many other depressed people) even though I know he suffers a lot. We know each other on a very deep level and I am the only person who he has told about having OCD and depression, and I just want to help him as much as I can. The thing is that he has a lot of negative thoughts most of the time and if he doesn't do something, for example, claps his hands 8 times, he believes 100% something bad is going to happen to me, like I'm gonna get hurt or something. At the moment it is not possible for him to talk to specialized OCD therapist as there is not one in the area where we live in, but I am confident that I can help him or, even better, guide him, so he helps himself, so that he, at least, suffers less from this. What advice would you give me? I know that I shouldn't be too pushy or telling him what I think he should do. I just want him to know that I'm there for him and that, even though I cannot understand what he's going through, I can at least educate myself about OCD (I've seen some self-help books you posted here) and talk to him about what I've read, because I think it is better to talk about it rather than him hiding it and suffering in silence.. This is how I thought I could help him: When I see or when he tells me that compulsions are happening or going to happen, I'm gonna let him know that he is not going through this alone and that he can trust me. Then I will ask him to tell me what kind of thoughts are going through his mind at the moment, and if he, for example, tells me that he thinks something bad is gonna happen to me I'm gonna tell him to try not to do any compulsive behaviour and try to, no matter how hard it is at the moment, accept that thought and repeat after me: You are safe. I am safe. We are always going to be safe. Only good things happen to us and always will. I believe that if this is done constantly that it will make his OCD more managenable (and depression as well). I would really appreciate any comment, expert or from a person having a similar experience that my boyfriend has. I really want to help him. Thank you! ❤
Tw: Anyone out there go through Suicidal ocd ERP? Mind mentioning some of your erp that you did with an ocd therapist ?! Anyone out there who has suicidal ocd have tips for dealing with intrusive thoughts ?
Hello, I do not have OCD but my boyfriend does. We’re both in our early 20s, we have been together for almost a year. I’m making this post seeking advice , thank you for taking the time to read. He’s always had issues obsessing over my past and asking me questions and things of that nature. I talk to him about it and answer when he wants to ask me stuff, but the problem is i don’t want to talk about these things because it’s really traumatic for me. He tends to obsess over my past romantic history which brings up bad feelings for me (SA, DV trauma etc) I want to help him but it’s VERY hard to stay patient when it’s triggering me. Every time he asks me about these things i either end up having a panic attack or getting so upset with him which ends up making him feel worse because he can’t control his obsessions and it’s a really hard cycle for both of us. I don’t understand much about OCD and it confuses me how one minute everything is fine and the next he is upset. and he hasn’t been diagnosed yet but is working on getting into therapy. He has his own trauma which i think is where this all stems from. But in the meantime I want to find better ways to help but also keep my own mental health in check. I’m willing to do whatever I can to help him with his issues. It’s also really isolating because it’s a difficult situation and i’m having difficulty finding anyone who relates and can help. Thank you for reading this. 🥺 And anyone who has advice would get greatly appreciated.
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