- Username
- shuichi
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Don't tell them not to compulse. I would see if you could gently talk them into getting help. If they have ocd and have never sought treatment they probably have a hard time not doing so. They have to be ready to take on ERP. What you can do is refuse to give in to compulsions if they involve you (if they keep asking "is this true" for something they are obsessing about, gently tell them you cannot answer that. Etc). If they decide to seek help DO ask your partner how you can help. Let them know you are there for them, if you can join them in a therapy session to ask questions and find out what they are going through. Iocdf.com should have some resources if you want to research it. If you actually think their life is in danger, call emergency services or the national suicide hotline. Hope this helps.
please help
do they have physical or mental compulsions?? or both??
i think only mental!
okay hold on
do they know they could have ocd? do they know that they're having intrusive thoughts and stuff or do they know nothing abt ocd
id suggest taking a look and on the other articles from this site they're very educational for people with mental compulsions
thank you so much!! ily <3 /p
@shuichi no problem i hope your partner is okay!! :)
@shuichi lmk if you need anything else
I’m so sorry about that. Here are some articles and links that may help. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Vl2V_mYuLc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Vl2V_mYuLc https://iocdf.org/ocd-finding-help/ And here’s a link to the calm app becuase I think it’s awesome, and everyone should use it in moments of panic. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/calm/id571800810 Also get your partner to use this app to learn more about OCD and use the SOS function on here for moments of extreme intrusive thoughts. Don’t nessesaily diagnose them, but tell them you believe they may be struggling, and that there are other people who are feeling the same way. If they are suicidal, they absolutly should be in therapy, but OCD specialist are very different than regular therapists. Regular therapists are not usdually schooled in OCD. So if your partner is willing, help them seek out a specialist for ERP.
(PLEASE HELP IM BEGGING!) Hey guys, right now I’m having suicidal OCD and it’s really fucking scaring me because I know I want to live but it’s feeling like I’m going to end my life any second or any day now and that I’m going to die soon, and I’m afraid that I’m going to come up with a plan and go through with it, or say fuck it, I don’t care about recovery, be selfish and just do it. I’m SO scared I don’t know what to do anymore, I don’t know if these are real suicidal thoughts or just my OCD attacking me and I’m genuinely scared for my life. It’s like every second of the day I get a stupid intrusive suicidal thought and it makes me feel like I’m really suicidal and that I don’t want to live anymore, for ANYTHING positive I hear, I twist it and make it negative and tell myself, you’re going to die soon, or you’re gonna kill yourself anyway, you don’t have a future, you don’t care anymore. I even feel a lil bit down and sad when I get these thoughts and I start to feel depersonalization, I almost feel depressed when I get these thoughts all day and it makes me feel like I’m genuinely gonna get depressed and the suicidal thoughts will become REAL I’m so scared. Even when my parents tell me that I’m going to be ok and not do anything, I tell myself in my mind that I’m still going to go through with suicide and just kill myself. I don’t have a set plan and I’m afraid that I may develop a plan and want to go through with it. IM SCARED FOR MY LIFE! IM SO FUCKING SCARED PLEASE HELP PLEASE! Anyone that has gone through this PLEASE HELP! Going into a hospital won’t help because I’m not ACTUALLY suicidal but these thoughts make me FEEL like I am and it’s just SO confusing I don’t know what’s real and what’s not!!! PLEASE HELP ANYONE!!!! I’m so fucking scared ??
TW// SUICIDE im gonna be really honest. i am not doing good. this is the worst ocd theme i have ever had. it feels SO real to me. i look at my self in the mirror and mourn the happy girl i used to be before december of 2019 when my ocd first hit. the fact that i will never be the same scares me and haunts me more than anyone can understand. everyday gets harder and harder no matter how much progress i make. i cant afford therapy right now but i need it so badly. i am genuinely in so much pain. i feel so guilty, and ashamed, and sad all the time. i cant focus on school work or anything anymore. i have had thoughts about suicide because i just want some relief. it hurts so much. i love my boyfriend beyond belief. it makes me so angry that ocd would attach to and manipulate something so pure and beautiful to me.
Hello everyone! I am not the one having OCD, but my boyfriend does, and it is combined with depression. He hides it pretty well (he doesn't want to make me or any other person sad) and acts like everything is normal most of the time (makes everyone laugh etc. - like many other depressed people) even though I know he suffers a lot. We know each other on a very deep level and I am the only person who he has told about having OCD and depression, and I just want to help him as much as I can. The thing is that he has a lot of negative thoughts most of the time and if he doesn't do something, for example, claps his hands 8 times, he believes 100% something bad is going to happen to me, like I'm gonna get hurt or something. At the moment it is not possible for him to talk to specialized OCD therapist as there is not one in the area where we live in, but I am confident that I can help him or, even better, guide him, so he helps himself, so that he, at least, suffers less from this. What advice would you give me? I know that I shouldn't be too pushy or telling him what I think he should do. I just want him to know that I'm there for him and that, even though I cannot understand what he's going through, I can at least educate myself about OCD (I've seen some self-help books you posted here) and talk to him about what I've read, because I think it is better to talk about it rather than him hiding it and suffering in silence.. This is how I thought I could help him: When I see or when he tells me that compulsions are happening or going to happen, I'm gonna let him know that he is not going through this alone and that he can trust me. Then I will ask him to tell me what kind of thoughts are going through his mind at the moment, and if he, for example, tells me that he thinks something bad is gonna happen to me I'm gonna tell him to try not to do any compulsive behaviour and try to, no matter how hard it is at the moment, accept that thought and repeat after me: You are safe. I am safe. We are always going to be safe. Only good things happen to us and always will. I believe that if this is done constantly that it will make his OCD more managenable (and depression as well). I would really appreciate any comment, expert or from a person having a similar experience that my boyfriend has. I really want to help him. Thank you! ❤
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