i was having this with a mate about crime and it got to the point saying that men are disgusting (not all of them. i don’t mean this to offend anyone) and it’s made me think that i now hate all men. like i see a man and i’m like “if you dated him he would hit you”

This was really well said. Sometimes there can be bad jokes like that on the internet, with "bitches ain't shit" being another one. I don't know what context people say those things under but it can be triggering for me too. Especially as someone who would love to see experience with romance but hasn't yet. Don't feel bad about things you want your life, which is being with a man that you love. Phrases shouldn't take away the true enjoyment you seek for your life.

@BigGip09 I try to ignore the jokes, but I’ve always struggled with not taking jokes too personally or seriously. I just don’t take jokes well because I’m very sensitive. This is a problem I had before the OCD. I agree with you though. Those phrases are soooo triggering. But thank you I will try my best to live in spite of these phrases!

@stop. As for me, social media has brought out more anger in me, so I'm taking a break from it. I don't want to see anything on it. I'm sick of always seeing sexual things or something really inappropriate because it'll just make me ruminate about it all. Everybody gets sensitive one way or another the way I see it. And yeah those phrases are triggering. I hate seeing people talk down to genders as a whole or relationships

@BigGip09 Social media makes me angry too! I’m usually not the arguing type of person or anyone to start any conflict, but I used to get into so many arguments on social media. It was making me very bitter and I didn’t like it. I feel like the older I get the more I hate it. I’ve realized social media has almost come as a detriment to younger generations. I regret getting it at a young age and being so consumed with it. Then you have all the toxicity on it and it’s horrible. I feel like I can think clearer and be nicer without it.

@stop. Yeah I highly agree. I'm beginning to see why older people don't use it and see it as a danger for younger people. Ever since I first got it when high school started back I'm 2015, I noticed I was less happy with it at times and it made me cry rarely. I definitely feel like I can be better off without it, or at least greatly limiting myself from it. I regret the things I did curiously on social media. I wish I explored things differently.

@BigGip09 I noticed you suffered from real event OCD like me. If you want to talk about it elsewhere we can. Only if you want though. You know..

@BigGip09 Oh yeah 100%. I definitely regret watching and learning certain things online as a young teen. I also regret spending so much time on social media because it was so bad for me.

@BigGip09 Yeah sure.

@stop. Yeah. I hate all the porn that I've watch when I was younger in high school. I sometimes wish I was never exposed to it in the beginning. Social media is bad for me and I'm just.. kinda glad that I'm realizing that now rather than never

it was both of us. we arent talking about all men. it was this specific man that was a rapist and it just got into a deep conversation of reasons why we might not want to be with men or in a relationship with men. it triggered me

@animal35353 Sorry to hear that. It's okay for you both not to be ready to be in a relationship with men. I don't know when I'll ever be ready to be in a relationship with a women or any with this OCD holding me back. It sounds like it was just an unplanned conversation that escalated.

@BigGip09 i know thank you. it just scared me into thinking i never want to have a relationship with men

@animal35353 OCD is just shitty like that tbh. Right now it's trying to convince me of false memories that I know for a fact didn't happen so I'm just trying to sit through it and label it for what it is.

@BigGip09 i wish you luck ✨

@animal35353 Thank you for being there for me. I wish you the best too. :)

@BigGip09 thank you. i’m absolutely thrilled is i helped even slightly. thanks a ton