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1. I hate to sound redundant, but if you seek out reassurance and they told you there’s nothing to worry about then you really should focus on your recover work and disregard the thoughts. It’s really not easy, not at all, but that’s part of the process to reduce these intrusive thoughts. 2. Not sure what the protocol is on this board. That would be a question for the OCD advocates (where ever they are....) but if you want help in your recovery, people of all walks of life (despite age or gender) are willing to support and encourage you here. I really think keeping an open mind will be better for you, but that’s your decision to make.
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1. Any tips to reduce the thoughts in general? Especially since everyone has been saying the event isn't anything to worry about and something I shouldn't worry about. Maybe agreeing with the thoughts or exposing myself to things relating to it. 2. I think it's because of my OCD that I asked this question, since I'm not comfortable with talking with others below my age very closely. They are very much a big help for me though
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@BigGip09 1. What’s consistently worked for me in situations like that is to re-enforce disregarding my thoughts. Like saying to myself,” I’m okay, there’re no problems, I’m good, I’m disregarding the intrusive thought”. Sounds simple but it isn’t. I have to tell myself that over and over again until my OCD brain realizes how unimportant the thought is. I also listen to this podcast from Ali Greymound that helps me a lot. 2. I understand that. If you want to talk, I’m here to help!
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And a lot of times this reassurance can make matters worse. Take it from someone who seeked reassurance constantly. Everybsingle thought afterwards gets more and more entangling. I just try to live life despite the false guilt and thoughts. Sooner or later they just fade away and dont bother me as much. I hope to get help for my OCD soon
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@RaeStruggles 1. I kind of want to reassure the event so you could understand what I'm worrying about but at the same time I won't. Maybe that could work in the long run since I've already did the same to my friends and they told me it's nothing. So maybe if I just tell myself that it's not important over and over and over it'll eventually disappear?
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@Link Alright. Maybe I'll just accept that it isn't as bad as I think despite the constant doubts that may seem endless.
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@RaeStruggles We can gladly talk! I feel like I can learn a lot from you!
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@BigGip09 Yea just accept that it is OCD and that the thoughts will most likely continue. Have you tried to get any help? Like a therapist or someone along those lines? Especially if this theme is impacting your daily life negatively
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@Link Sometimes it impacts my thinking, other times it doesn't. It's an on and off cycle for me. I'll either be feeling really good about it all and be genuinely happy but other days it really gets to me like it did yesterday. I'm also really not trying to do compulsions. I watch OCD coaches online for help and try to do research but not too much
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18+ people with this thread please. I just want some advice from people who have experienced this. Its been almost 2 years since my real event and i can confidently say that i feel a bit better about that and my thoughts. (We still have bad moments but we recover.) but, ever since then and before, i feel nasty and gross whenever i engage or interact with adult content. Like this nasty guilt or feeling like i cant interact with it because then my ocd says “this proves that your thoughts are true and your perverse” and after i always feel empty and disgusting. Besides things like that, i read adult fan fiction sometimes or even write stories for my original characters. And yesterday i shared these stories with a close in person friend of mine. (Were both in college) and they were fine about it we laughed about it but then after i felt guilty-my brain was telling me “you traumatized her she just doesn’t wanna tell you” obliviously this isn’t true but im having a hard time believing it and this morning i woke up with a deep dread that i hurt a friend and im horrible. I can say that they’re more positive about these things then me and i think thats why we got into the conversation and i felt comfortable to share these stories but i just can’t get over it. I have a strong urge to ask for reassurance but i know it wont help. I literally have no one else to talk to about this. Ive spoken to my therapist about this guilt with adult content and we have yet to expand on it especially how it goes hand in hand with my asexuality. My therapist tells me its human to feel things like this and its ok to perform self care like that and again-im a human person its usually normal for 19 year olds to be like this especially for someone my age but i dont feel normal. I feel nasty. Does anyone else feel this way? How did you confront this guilt and how did you feel comfortable again interacting with these feelings and actions again? I dont really have a desire to do s*xual things often (im on the asexual spectrum) but when i do i dont want to feel like this. Especially when my ocd types effect it. Advice is needed and appreciated thank you for your help.
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So one day a couple months ago I saw some posts on threads pop up on instagram and they said I’m 17 and horny and 18 and horny or I think I even remember see a 16 year old one. I’m 20 and I remembered that when those popped up I clicked on them and I don’t know if I did it out of true attraction or out of the urge to make my anxiety go away. I feel like often times if I see something that says any number under 18 even if it has nothing to do with age it could be talking about season 17 of a tv show my mind immediately goes what?? 17??? And then I click on it to make my anxiety go away. So when I remembered all of this I downloaded the threads app because I wanted to see if I could get reassurance and see if I could rekindle how I felt in these moments. When I opened the app all I saw was posts like that but everyone claimed to be 18. The only problem is none of the girls looked 18 they looked like 14-16 so I started to panic I and worry that because I clicked on the threads in the past it popped up more and I was a pedophile for that. All of the accounts all pretty much had only fans links so at that point I was like well they have to be 18 then but now I’m worried that maybe it’s a scammer and they are using underage pictures of girls and putting them on onlyfans. Which I know is out of my control but I just feel like a Pedo and like I did something wrong. Does anyone have any advice? Or have any similar situations/ similarities with this?
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when I was 15 soon to turn 16, I met this girl in a IG group chat made by our mutual friends. We started talking and eventually we started flirting and talking sexual towards each other, though eventually we stopped talking because she was being really weird. A couple months later In July of 2024 my friend found out that she was actually 13 and that she lied to me about her age. It's been 10 months since l've found out and I still feel so disgusted in myself. I had my suspicions at the time but I let them go since she said she was 16 turning 17. I was completely oblivious trusting someone I only knew online especially since i've never seen their face either. i'm struggling on what to do since i've been suffering with POCD since I was 15. Till this day I still feel weird and disgusted in myself because of that. But it feels ironic since i'm sexualizing someone that's 2 years younger than me and I waited to confirm she was around my age range to sexualize her. I feel so weird and guilty about it idk what to do
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