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1. I hate to sound redundant, but if you seek out reassurance and they told you there’s nothing to worry about then you really should focus on your recover work and disregard the thoughts. It’s really not easy, not at all, but that’s part of the process to reduce these intrusive thoughts. 2. Not sure what the protocol is on this board. That would be a question for the OCD advocates (where ever they are....) but if you want help in your recovery, people of all walks of life (despite age or gender) are willing to support and encourage you here. I really think keeping an open mind will be better for you, but that’s your decision to make.
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1. Any tips to reduce the thoughts in general? Especially since everyone has been saying the event isn't anything to worry about and something I shouldn't worry about. Maybe agreeing with the thoughts or exposing myself to things relating to it. 2. I think it's because of my OCD that I asked this question, since I'm not comfortable with talking with others below my age very closely. They are very much a big help for me though
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@BigGip09 1. What’s consistently worked for me in situations like that is to re-enforce disregarding my thoughts. Like saying to myself,” I’m okay, there’re no problems, I’m good, I’m disregarding the intrusive thought”. Sounds simple but it isn’t. I have to tell myself that over and over again until my OCD brain realizes how unimportant the thought is. I also listen to this podcast from Ali Greymound that helps me a lot. 2. I understand that. If you want to talk, I’m here to help!
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And a lot of times this reassurance can make matters worse. Take it from someone who seeked reassurance constantly. Everybsingle thought afterwards gets more and more entangling. I just try to live life despite the false guilt and thoughts. Sooner or later they just fade away and dont bother me as much. I hope to get help for my OCD soon
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@RaeStruggles 1. I kind of want to reassure the event so you could understand what I'm worrying about but at the same time I won't. Maybe that could work in the long run since I've already did the same to my friends and they told me it's nothing. So maybe if I just tell myself that it's not important over and over and over it'll eventually disappear?
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@Link Alright. Maybe I'll just accept that it isn't as bad as I think despite the constant doubts that may seem endless.
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@RaeStruggles We can gladly talk! I feel like I can learn a lot from you!
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@BigGip09 Yea just accept that it is OCD and that the thoughts will most likely continue. Have you tried to get any help? Like a therapist or someone along those lines? Especially if this theme is impacting your daily life negatively
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@Link Sometimes it impacts my thinking, other times it doesn't. It's an on and off cycle for me. I'll either be feeling really good about it all and be genuinely happy but other days it really gets to me like it did yesterday. I'm also really not trying to do compulsions. I watch OCD coaches online for help and try to do research but not too much
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So one day a couple months ago I saw some posts on threads pop up on instagram and they said I’m 17 and horny and 18 and horny or I think I even remember see a 16 year old one. I’m 20 and I remembered that when those popped up I clicked on them and I don’t know if I did it out of true attraction or out of the urge to make my anxiety go away. I feel like often times if I see something that says any number under 18 even if it has nothing to do with age it could be talking about season 17 of a tv show my mind immediately goes what?? 17??? And then I click on it to make my anxiety go away. So when I remembered all of this I downloaded the threads app because I wanted to see if I could get reassurance and see if I could rekindle how I felt in these moments. When I opened the app all I saw was posts like that but everyone claimed to be 18. The only problem is none of the girls looked 18 they looked like 14-16 so I started to panic I and worry that because I clicked on the threads in the past it popped up more and I was a pedophile for that. All of the accounts all pretty much had only fans links so at that point I was like well they have to be 18 then but now I’m worried that maybe it’s a scammer and they are using underage pictures of girls and putting them on onlyfans. Which I know is out of my control but I just feel like a Pedo and like I did something wrong. Does anyone have any advice? Or have any similar situations/ similarities with this?
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I have no idea anymore. I guess this all started with me worrying about whether I was gay, then whether I was a P, then worried about being just attracted to teenagers. After that I started freaking out about not feeling “grown up” enough. Like “I’m an adult wtf is wrong with me for seeing someone who is probably younger and thinking they’re physically attractive. Then I started overthinking not finding older adults (like 30 or 40) very attractive. Like ofc I’m probably not gonna find them attractive, they’re not anywhere close my age. Maybe the desires are half real. Maybe as a 21 yr old young adult I do find older teenagers (16+) somewhat physically attractive. I still think it’d be weird to date one. Maybe that’s the normal reaction I’m supposed to have. If not, please let me know. I just don’t wanna do anything illegal one day and I’m super scared I will. I can’t tell if the fear is my just being afraid of the law though, in which case I might actually just be a bad person. I hate that my brain is just rationalizing thoughts now. I feel like I can’t do the ERP thing of “just accept that the thoughts are there but don’t engage.” Like what? How can I just think a thought that might be so integral to my identity and just ignore it? If it’s all true and I don’t like people my age anymore then I have to know and plan around that, that could change my entire life. I’m rambling, my b.
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I made posts worrying about age gaps, and I continue to worry. But I'm thinking about just looking at what I believe and what I currently think is moral, and saying whatever to what anyone else says and thinks. About me or others. I think at 18 someone is an adult, and I don't care about age gaps past that. If you're 18+, it's whatever who you date and it's not wrong to be attracted/have sex with someone much younger as long as they are 18+. I worry my thinking is wrong especially because of how many people are against this mindset, but I can't find myself agreeing with them and when I look this up online many opinions vary on what age gaps are okay and what age you become an adult. So, I'm thinking about just saying screw it and not caring about it for myself and other people. If I'm 30 and am sexually/romantically attracted to an 18-year-old, whatever. If someone is 20 and dating a 50-year-old, whatever. Not wrong and not bad.
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