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Idk if it's normal but i am having this too. It feels like i want that or like i get urges and feels like i want that so you are not alone
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It's hard tbh...
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yes i have this too. it all started when i would obsess over the questions “would i be happy if i were bi?” and “would dating this person make me happy?” and so i obsessed over if i would feel that way until eventually i did start to feel happy
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So you think you are bi now?
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@Lleonesss what do u mean?
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@lmaocd🍓🥰 You wrote that you did eventually feel happy...I'm sorry I didn't mean to upset you
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@Lleonesss no u didn’t upset me i’m just confused by what ur trying to say so i don’t know how to answer u
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@lmaocd🍓🥰 You wrote that you obsessed over the thought until you eventually felt happy about it ..so that's what I was asking...since they make you happy do you think you're bi now?
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@Lleonesss i don’t really know tbh. i don’t really feel like any sexuality rn; my brain feels like mashed potatoes all the time hehehe;(. but i do often obsess over things enough that i convince myself i’m bi & it feels really real and true deep down. but then later i won’t feel it anymore. and then the cycle repeats. so i don’t really know what i think if that makes sense. what about u?
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@lmaocd🍓🥰 I agree to the "mashed potato" part lol...my head's all messed up...I'm just so so confused...I have zero clarity and I can't just get my head straight...this goes on for days
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@Lleonesss i relate lol. do u feel like u know who u are or does ur perception of urself constantly change ? for me it keeps changing but then my anxiety gets worse
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@lmaocd🍓🥰 I don't for one second feel like I know myself anymore... I've lost my identity..idk what I want anymore and that drives me nuts
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@Lleonesss yes! i just want to go back to before when i was washing my hands all the time 😭 it was so hard but this so-ocd is the hardest for me
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@lmaocd🍓🥰 This is my first theme so I've never known anything easier than this 😔but yes I do wish to go back to being the person I was before this shit just took over my life
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@lmaocd🍓🥰 Wait I really relate to this. I feel so confused all the time. My perception is constantly changing. Mashed potatoes is exactly how I feel. For the longest time I was like of COURSE this is ocd I’m so sure that I’m straight and now I’m like ???? I’ve been suffering for so long idek anymore shoot
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Sorry hope its ok to butt in on this, but as a life long ocd sufferer, I can give you my take on this . I had this theme years ago. Trying to establish your sexual identity with certainty, like most things in life, is a waste of time. Why feel the need to label yourself ? Just do what feels good for you. Sexual orientation is like a scale of 1 to 10 with 1 being heterosexual and 10 being gay. All people fall somewhere along that line but trying to establish exactly where you are on that scale is a waste of time. Everyone can tell an attractive male or female, which suggests a level of attraction in itself, does this mean that all people are potentially gay ? Who knows, there is no certainty for anyone. Most people just assume their orientation, based on what makes them happy. For ocd sufferers, they feel a need to be absolutely certain, which is pretty much impossible with most things in life. You cannot get better until you stop looking for certainty, trust me on this, I suffered badly for decades, before I learned this.
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have u recovered from the sexuality theme?
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Thank you and if you don't mind me asking how did you recover from this?
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Yeah I did years ago, although it had gone on for about 3 years, till I realised I'd never know for certain and knowing that, when I gave up trying to be certain, the anxiety wanes and you stop caring about it. As I say, no one really knows for certain, people just assume their sexuality and follow what ever makes them happy. But you HAVE to stop trying to prove it to yourself, to get better.
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I've had many other ocd themes since, but they almost always, revolve around this search for certainty and the more I worry, the worse they get, until I remember, to stop trying to figure it out and live with being uncertain. Then the anxiety, gradually lowers and it stops being important to me. Dont try to escape the fear of not knowing, sit with the fear for a few minutes, say 3 times a day , let it scare you, till the anxiety starts to drop, dont try to reassure yourself, by saying its not true, or anything similar. A good therapist will help you with ERP as it can be hard to deal with it on your own. Read up on dealing with Pure ocd or watch podcasts on it. You will recover, as long as you dont give up🙂
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The more i think about the more real it gets
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Absolutely!
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I know...
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i’m scared i’m bi and in denial and trying to convince myself im straight.
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Hi everyone, I’ve been really anxious lately, and I just need to get this out of my head. Someone recently told me that maybe I’m bisexual — that I might be more sexually attracted to women, but more romantically attracted to men. That bisexuality is not 50/50. And ever since I heard that, I’ve been spiraling. The thing is: I don’t want this to be true. It scares me. I don’t feel romantic attraction to women, I’ve never wanted to be in a relationship with one. But yes, I get aroused by fantasies involving women — and that makes me feel broken or like I’ve been lying to myself. I love my boyfriend deeply, I don’t want to lose him. I want to feel fully connected to him, physically and emotionally. But now I’m stuck in this obsessive loop of questioning: “What if I’m just in denial?” “What if I’m not really straight?” “What if this is why my libido is low?” It’s exhausting, and I don’t know if this is OCD, anxiety, or if something is fundamentally wrong. Has anyone else felt this split — romantic feelings for one gender, sexual feelings for another? I feel so alone and scared. Thanks for listening.
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I wouldn’t really say I have SO-OCD, but it manifests in some areas of my TOCD. Like if I see a woman for example my thoughts will go “what if I like her but as a man?” like my thoughts say I’m a straight man instead of a straight woman. And it’s really bothering me. If I see an attractive woman my brain will re-wire and imagine myself as a man looking at an attraction woman and it gets super uncomfortable that I have to like shake my head and say “no no no no no” multiple times to get the thought out. I know that counts as a compulsion but it’s hard to not do it because it’s so triggering. Now I don’t mind if I like women, however I’m really scared that I’m actually a straight man who likes women (or at least a bisexual man, considering I like men) and I hate it because I don’t want to be a man. Like I’ll think of my desired relationship as a woman dating a man but my OCD will switch it up to me being the man dating the woman, which is the opposite of what I want. I don’t want to be a man at all and I don’t want to date a woman, both of those are the opposite of my desires, but I’m still so scared. I’ll accept myself if I actually like women and am a bisexual woman, however I heard that being bisexual can mean being trans which scares me (for the record it was said in reddit by a sub which is mainly focused on a pseudoscientific phenomenon, that is still believed by the members to be true, so it’s definitely not a trustworthy statement, but my OCD will use anything to work against me) Does anyone here relate a little? 🥲
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