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I can definitely relate big time. Either I’m worried that he stopped loving me, or I’m afraid I stopped loving him. It’s all just intrusive thoughts. Kind of like a seesaw for me, where I look for the negative in every situation. It’s hard to remain present and realistic when these thoughts arise, but remind yourself to enjoy each moment with him end wherever the road takes y’all will be fine in the end :)
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not reassurance seeking but from ur pov the “ why isnt he texting me “ thoughts intrusive and making me believe that my fear is becoming reality?? bc i feel secure in my relationship its just these thoughts that are making me question myself bc i KNOW he loves me and wouldn’t “ leave me “ i worry more i’ll have to leave him bc i’ll become “ obsessed “ and my fear of “ obssesive love disorder “ will become reality. im just rlly scared of thoughts.
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@steph I totally understand. The only way to get over the “why isn’t he texting me” thoughts is through acceptance. Know that even in the worst case scenario, you’d be okay. Don’t play into the storylines ocd creates. I used to have this same worry about family members and friends until one point they purposely didn’t reapond, in attempt to show me that it’ll be okay either way. Accept and invite the present moment into your mind.
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@steph Uncertainty feels really bad, especially to individuals experiencing ocd. You need to sit in the uncomfortable feeling of not knowing when he will text back or why he hasn’t responded. Try to focus on the present moment. Tell yourself it’ll be okay even if he is purposely avoiding you (which he clearly isn’t)
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@steph You got this. I wish you the best of luck with your relationship. Trust the path that you two are on and enjoy all of your time with him!! You’re young happy, so much to be grateful for :)
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@joseymagosey thank you sm! its not the fact that hes not texting me, its the fact that im having that intrusive thought. bc i feel like im becoming obsessed/getting obsseive love disorder. which is my fear. i do agree with u! i think im gonna deal with the uncertainty if these are my real thoughts are not. i still get the “ why isn’t he texting me “ even AFTER he texts me, especially in the morning when i have a bunch of thoughts. i reply to him hours later.
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@steph Oh I understand what you’re saying. Maybe try focusing on accepting yourself even if you find yourself performing obsessive behaviors. We all have obsessive tendencies sometimes. Rule of thumb is that if you’re afraid of being a certain way, chances are that you are not actually that way. Hence why you’re afraid of it. You’re afraid of BECOMING obsessive. Which is a future situation that doesn’t exist. Present moment is the key to happiness :)
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@joseymagosey ur so right! i actully had a session with my therapist and i mentioned what u told me, she said you’re definitely correct!!! thank u sm this helped me so much
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@steph I’m so glad I could help. I wish you the best of luck, you’re doing great :) !!!
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yes!! i feel like this. im tired in my relationship. trying to keep myself is so hard.
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@soup keep myself together * ! lol
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@soup thank you too!! wish u luck
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just wanna vent. if anyone can relate pls dont be afraid to add something!
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