njjjjjj
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ss
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What they mean by “agreeing with the thought” is to agree with the fact that you’re thinking it, acknowledging the fact that you’re thinking about the fact. It doesn’t mean for example, “yes I am contaminated and will get AIDS”, “yes I will do a hit and run with my car” - that’s not the point of ERP, it’s mainly just accepting that the thought is there in your mind, and that you’re going to choose to not argue with it, to not do any compulsions. There are some CBT worksheets that can help with these types of OCD, but it would be better to see a OCD specialist for guidance and focus on doing a OCD self-help booklet (Mindfulness Workbook for OCD by Jon Hershfield is really good!)
njjjjjjnjjjjjj
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Okay that makes sense. Thank you so much! That’s helped:)
ss
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@njjjjjj No problem! also to clarify on a typo earlier, I meant “acknowledging the fact that you’re thinking about the thought”
_juliaszigethy_juliaszigethy
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I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND ITS SO CUNFUSING SOMETIMES
Evelyn4416Evelyn4416
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You don’t necessarily agree with the thought in a sense, you more so acknowledge it. So the thought pops up and you would notice it’s there, but then not do any of the compulsions to rid yourself of it. When it comes to the challenging thoughts idea with agreeing however, I can see it being where the thought comes in of “what if I hurt my family”, you challenging it by agreeing “yup totally gonna do that” - the OCD expected you to go the other direction and say you would never do that, do other various compulsions, but instead you challenged it. Hopefully that makes some sense!
njjjjjjnjjjjjj
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Thank you so much! That’s made so much sense and helped me understand it now! Thank you:)
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