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Hey. Don’t worry. It is not just you. I find myself more regularly mistaking a person’s sex for the opposite. More people nowadays are intentionally dressing and creating a gender neutral appearances for themselves. It is a trend and a sign of the times. Also, I wouldn’t stop doubting your sexuality. Thoughts are just thoughts and feelings are just feelings. People with OCD sometimes obsess about their sexuality. You are fine.
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^ see but with ocd we need to stop the intense doubting bc it’s hurting us. And once we do we are able to be our straight selves, or if they’re originally gay or bi, they can be themselves if they have straight ocd. Telling someone they shouldn’t stop doubting it can be not helpful or harmful to the person suffering.
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But trust me honey Ik what you’re going through and mine is getting better but it’s just switching from gay to bi recently. Hang in there ❤️
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I just read this again. I meant to say I wouldn’t “start” doubting. I got the impression that the anxiety was leading to the doubt. I am not sure if that makes a difference to anyone but that is a correction I need to make. Thank you for pointing it out.
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@JABones no problem, I was a little confused myself so I figured I’d point it out ?
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- 7y
Thank you for your responses, before when I saw girls that looked like guys I got an uncomfortable knot in my stomach and it wasn’t a good knot, like the kind I got for guys if that makes sense. And whenever a girl tried to hit on me and flirt with me I wouldn’t get excited, just uncomfortable. Now I just get this rush of thoughts that come into my head. I miss my attraction to guys (it’s there sometimes, but not where it used to be) and I still get uncomfortable even when I do things I enjoy :///
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@OCDiva the best advice I can give is by someone who helped with my ROCD and she said that during these times of anxiety you’re gonna feel Aversive and uncomfortable around things you’re into ( which was my partner) but the same applies to HOCD too. So hang on! You’ll be okay ❤️
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- 23w
Has anyone experienced where you love woman everything about them, even to the point where you still can get erections watching normal porn, lesbian porn etc. but you find your self still admiring a good looking man. I’ve went through the groinal responses when seeing a man but honestly after watching porn and realizing it’s not about sex it went away. On the other hand even when there’s a male and a female in a picture I can’t stop looking at the male and judging, but the minute they’re naked I’m fine and looking at the woman. I started watching porn at a very young age so I’m wondering do I only sexualize woman and admire the man so in everyday life I don’t see her as beautiful because she’s not naked ? I understand as a straight male I can still think guys are attractive but why do I constantly notice them more than women? I also can admire and see when a girl is beautiful in the face but then if a dude that’s more attractive than me pops up in staring at him. Has anyone experience this?
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I don't know for sure if I have HOCD, but it seems like I do, I tried to accept the idea that I'm gay, I felt calm, and then I started to get scared because I didn't feel anxiety anymore, I still feel attracted to my girlfriend, both physically and emotionally, but I feel an attraction to boys, sometimes I panic when I feel attracted and sometimes I don't (but most of the time I do) and I don't want to break up with my girlfriend I want to get back to normal
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- 12w
I really need help understanding what I’m going through. For a long time now, I’ve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental ‘pull’ toward certain women — it’s not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I can’t explain — sometimes I think it’s just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: “You felt something, so you must be gay,” or “You’re hiding something.” I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they don’t feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself — I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didn’t. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I don’t want to lie to myself or live in denial, but I’m exhausted. It feels like I’m being mentally forced to feel something that isn’t mine. I’m 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? I’m so scared that I’ll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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