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Hey. Don’t worry. It is not just you. I find myself more regularly mistaking a person’s sex for the opposite. More people nowadays are intentionally dressing and creating a gender neutral appearances for themselves. It is a trend and a sign of the times. Also, I wouldn’t stop doubting your sexuality. Thoughts are just thoughts and feelings are just feelings. People with OCD sometimes obsess about their sexuality. You are fine.
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^ see but with ocd we need to stop the intense doubting bc it’s hurting us. And once we do we are able to be our straight selves, or if they’re originally gay or bi, they can be themselves if they have straight ocd. Telling someone they shouldn’t stop doubting it can be not helpful or harmful to the person suffering.
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But trust me honey Ik what you’re going through and mine is getting better but it’s just switching from gay to bi recently. Hang in there ❤️
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I just read this again. I meant to say I wouldn’t “start” doubting. I got the impression that the anxiety was leading to the doubt. I am not sure if that makes a difference to anyone but that is a correction I need to make. Thank you for pointing it out.
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@JABones no problem, I was a little confused myself so I figured I’d point it out ?
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Thank you for your responses, before when I saw girls that looked like guys I got an uncomfortable knot in my stomach and it wasn’t a good knot, like the kind I got for guys if that makes sense. And whenever a girl tried to hit on me and flirt with me I wouldn’t get excited, just uncomfortable. Now I just get this rush of thoughts that come into my head. I miss my attraction to guys (it’s there sometimes, but not where it used to be) and I still get uncomfortable even when I do things I enjoy :///
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@OCDiva the best advice I can give is by someone who helped with my ROCD and she said that during these times of anxiety you’re gonna feel Aversive and uncomfortable around things you’re into ( which was my partner) but the same applies to HOCD too. So hang on! You’ll be okay ❤️
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- 23w
straight girl suffering from hocd, okay so when i was younger i looked at like a girl corn star insta for like 2 weeks and like did get aroused by it, didn’t think much of it still fancied boys, girls were like ew no to me, but its triggering my hocd so badly, like is it normal that i could look at a sexy pic of a girl n get aroused by it, but like a shirtless pic of a boy i wouldn’t, however i have insane attraction to men irl, i love my boyfriend, i love the idea of being with a man and hate the idea of being with a woman, this really freaking me out!
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I keep having this weird feeling none stop that it’s most likely not HOCD and most my feelings. Like I’ve suffered none stop distress and unwanted thoughts the past few days. But those thoughts after a bit just feel weird not the kind of discomfort but are just their and stale. When I look at a guy I don’t feel anything but my thoughts sometimes compliment his looks or personality which makes me doubt my sexuality. I’ve never felt this weirded out. Because I’ve always been straight and still believe I am but I’ve never even had an emotional connection to someone of the opposite gender in fact. My view of the female body has been ruined with none stop pornography addictions. I don’t believe I’m gay but I feel like it may just be denial instead of HOCD but all my symptoms are literally HOCD. I don’t hate the idea of gay people but I can’t imagine or see my heart going off to like someone of the same sex. I haven’t really had any meaningful real life friends besides online but that also ended a few months ago. My only friend ever online that was my friend for the longest of time was a queer but I never really cared about what he liked. Like yes at some point I did try to challenge him with his own feelings but that didn’t last long I just accepted what he liked and moved on. I’ve never even touched let alone held a long conversation with a female. I’ve always been timid and shy around them but I can just say that towards male as well. The gay feelings feel so real. The thoughts feel a bit natural to me but I don’t want this. But I hate how I can’t just move on and be myself and love women when those thoughts demand attention and an answer. It won’t quit it. If I try to do a compulsion it calms down but it quickly becomes a problem again. I’m lonely I don’t have any friends or past relationships I can even think of helping me with the emotions. I still believe I’m straight and I just can’t see myself with a guy. It just doesn’t feel right for me despite my lack of experiences. I just wanna go back to how I was happy and loving girls and not having to question if it was a real feeling or just my natural timid nature. Everytime I think these distressing thoughts I always just wanna sit down and close my eyes and sleep. Because that’s where I can have peace of self. It sucks but I’m so exhausted of having to deal with emotional distress and I can’t even focus on my job as much. I want to meet new people discover my love for women again but I’m scared in the process I may discover I may be gay. Because deep down I know I wouldn’t ever be happy with myself if my greatest fears where confirmed. My dream of always being a father with a loving women and kids would be torn away by something I never asked for. Yes I’m religious, yes I come from a place that homosexuals are usually seen in a bad light. I just hate feeling this emotion that I may not be what I thought and having my dreams torn apart maybe true. I’ve read MUTIPLE articles about HOCD and seen MUTIPLE videos. I’ve come to the realization that I most likely have it. But it’s still hard when the feelings of maybe being gay maybe true you know? I hope I get better I hope I don’t suffer. I just wanna be happy with myself and loving females and I don’t wanna hate myself for feeling an emotion that never occurred to me more then a few times.
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- 19w
Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
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