Okay so this may just be me. I sometimes mistake girls for guys and my instinct was never “she’s hot” it was always “he’s hot” because I thought they were male and when I found out they were female I got extremely uncomfortable, I didn’t have any desire to do anything I just thought they were hot guys. Now with this HOCD I’ll think “oohh he’s hot” and freak out and I’d have to examine and MAKE SURE they’re male because I’m PETRIFIED they’re female. But now it’s like when I find out they’re male I feel relief but I’m still extremely anxious about it. I still get the annoying groinal responses when I look at some women and it’s very annoying. I just want to be my normal straight self again.

Hey. Don’t worry. It is not just you. I find myself more regularly mistaking a person’s sex for the opposite. More people nowadays are intentionally dressing and creating a gender neutral appearances for themselves. It is a trend and a sign of the times. Also, I wouldn’t stop doubting your sexuality. Thoughts are just thoughts and feelings are just feelings. People with OCD sometimes obsess about their sexuality. You are fine.

^ see but with ocd we need to stop the intense doubting bc it’s hurting us. And once we do we are able to be our straight selves, or if they’re originally gay or bi, they can be themselves if they have straight ocd. Telling someone they shouldn’t stop doubting it can be not helpful or harmful to the person suffering.

But trust me honey Ik what you’re going through and mine is getting better but it’s just switching from gay to bi recently. Hang in there ❤️

I just read this again. I meant to say I wouldn’t “start” doubting. I got the impression that the anxiety was leading to the doubt. I am not sure if that makes a difference to anyone but that is a correction I need to make. Thank you for pointing it out.

@JABones no problem, I was a little confused myself so I figured I’d point it out ?

Thank you for your responses, before when I saw girls that looked like guys I got an uncomfortable knot in my stomach and it wasn’t a good knot, like the kind I got for guys if that makes sense. And whenever a girl tried to hit on me and flirt with me I wouldn’t get excited, just uncomfortable. Now I just get this rush of thoughts that come into my head. I miss my attraction to guys (it’s there sometimes, but not where it used to be) and I still get uncomfortable even when I do things I enjoy :///

@OCDiva the best advice I can give is by someone who helped with my ROCD and she said that during these times of anxiety you’re gonna feel Aversive and uncomfortable around things you’re into ( which was my partner) but the same applies to HOCD too. So hang on! You’ll be okay ❤️