- Username
- OCDiva
- Date posted
- 6y ago
Hey. Don’t worry. It is not just you. I find myself more regularly mistaking a person’s sex for the opposite. More people nowadays are intentionally dressing and creating a gender neutral appearances for themselves. It is a trend and a sign of the times. Also, I wouldn’t stop doubting your sexuality. Thoughts are just thoughts and feelings are just feelings. People with OCD sometimes obsess about their sexuality. You are fine.
^ see but with ocd we need to stop the intense doubting bc it’s hurting us. And once we do we are able to be our straight selves, or if they’re originally gay or bi, they can be themselves if they have straight ocd. Telling someone they shouldn’t stop doubting it can be not helpful or harmful to the person suffering.
But trust me honey Ik what you’re going through and mine is getting better but it’s just switching from gay to bi recently. Hang in there ❤️
I just read this again. I meant to say I wouldn’t “start” doubting. I got the impression that the anxiety was leading to the doubt. I am not sure if that makes a difference to anyone but that is a correction I need to make. Thank you for pointing it out.
@JABones no problem, I was a little confused myself so I figured I’d point it out ?
Thank you for your responses, before when I saw girls that looked like guys I got an uncomfortable knot in my stomach and it wasn’t a good knot, like the kind I got for guys if that makes sense. And whenever a girl tried to hit on me and flirt with me I wouldn’t get excited, just uncomfortable. Now I just get this rush of thoughts that come into my head. I miss my attraction to guys (it’s there sometimes, but not where it used to be) and I still get uncomfortable even when I do things I enjoy :///
@OCDiva the best advice I can give is by someone who helped with my ROCD and she said that during these times of anxiety you’re gonna feel Aversive and uncomfortable around things you’re into ( which was my partner) but the same applies to HOCD too. So hang on! You’ll be okay ❤️
Does anyone else avoid people of the same sex when their HOCD flares up??? I’ve always unfollowed girls on my instagram that I thought were attractive because I was scared of liking them / and I didn’t want to see them because it made me think I found them attractive and stuff. Is this normal or is it just me being scared of admitting i’m gay? HOCD is so frustrating and confusing sometimes. Am I just scared of my truth☹️?
Okay so I have been struggling with HOCD for so fucking long. I never felt like I had crushes on boys growing up but I wasn’t attracted to girls either (this was through 5th grade). Until 6th grade hit. I remember it like it was yesterday. I had the thought walking up the stairs and it was “You’re lesbian.” And ever since that thought was there and I fought it I have been dealing with all types of OCD ever since (been going on for 7 years). And only this year I found it was OCD. But it’s hard because I don’t know if I’m actually gay or I convinced myself I’m gay because I gave up and gave in. Now whenever I see I pretty girl I feel tingling. And I wanted to prove to myself that I wasn’t a lesbian so I look up pretty pictures of girls with their boobs out and I loved it. And I wanna make out with a girl so intensely. But then at the same I don’t wanna be in a relationship with a girl and I wanna marry a guy and I just desperately wanted to be like by a guy. But I get so horny whenever girls are in bikinis and stuff. But I have OCD and I’m so confused.
so i’m straight, but one thing that’s always bothered me was i was never the type to look at a guy and automatically think dirty thoughts about them like some girls do i would think they’re good looking and move on. but lately i have been looking at guys and think ways i never have before because i don’t really care for sex but this time i actually think about it when i find someone attractive and it started to worry me because i was like i never thought that much sexually before so why am i now? and then i get thoughts in my head that say why are you worried aren’t you straight why are you worried to think sexual about guys? and it’s the anxiety about the fact that i actually think dirty thoughts when i see a cute guy and before i never would and then hocd coming in to play making me wonder that i shouldn’t be anxious if i was always straight but it’s not that i get anxious because i never thought that sexually before but ocd makes me think i’m worried about liking a guy but that’s not true sorry if it’s a bit confusing
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