- Username
- OCDiva
- Date posted
- 6y ago
Hey. Don’t worry. It is not just you. I find myself more regularly mistaking a person’s sex for the opposite. More people nowadays are intentionally dressing and creating a gender neutral appearances for themselves. It is a trend and a sign of the times. Also, I wouldn’t stop doubting your sexuality. Thoughts are just thoughts and feelings are just feelings. People with OCD sometimes obsess about their sexuality. You are fine.
^ see but with ocd we need to stop the intense doubting bc it’s hurting us. And once we do we are able to be our straight selves, or if they’re originally gay or bi, they can be themselves if they have straight ocd. Telling someone they shouldn’t stop doubting it can be not helpful or harmful to the person suffering.
But trust me honey Ik what you’re going through and mine is getting better but it’s just switching from gay to bi recently. Hang in there ❤️
I just read this again. I meant to say I wouldn’t “start” doubting. I got the impression that the anxiety was leading to the doubt. I am not sure if that makes a difference to anyone but that is a correction I need to make. Thank you for pointing it out.
@JABones no problem, I was a little confused myself so I figured I’d point it out ?
Thank you for your responses, before when I saw girls that looked like guys I got an uncomfortable knot in my stomach and it wasn’t a good knot, like the kind I got for guys if that makes sense. And whenever a girl tried to hit on me and flirt with me I wouldn’t get excited, just uncomfortable. Now I just get this rush of thoughts that come into my head. I miss my attraction to guys (it’s there sometimes, but not where it used to be) and I still get uncomfortable even when I do things I enjoy :///
@OCDiva the best advice I can give is by someone who helped with my ROCD and she said that during these times of anxiety you’re gonna feel Aversive and uncomfortable around things you’re into ( which was my partner) but the same applies to HOCD too. So hang on! You’ll be okay ❤️
Does anyone else avoid people of the same sex when their HOCD flares up??? I’ve always unfollowed girls on my instagram that I thought were attractive because I was scared of liking them / and I didn’t want to see them because it made me think I found them attractive and stuff. Is this normal or is it just me being scared of admitting i’m gay? HOCD is so frustrating and confusing sometimes. Am I just scared of my truth☹️?
Okay so I have been struggling with HOCD for so fucking long. I never felt like I had crushes on boys growing up but I wasn’t attracted to girls either (this was through 5th grade). Until 6th grade hit. I remember it like it was yesterday. I had the thought walking up the stairs and it was “You’re lesbian.” And ever since that thought was there and I fought it I have been dealing with all types of OCD ever since (been going on for 7 years). And only this year I found it was OCD. But it’s hard because I don’t know if I’m actually gay or I convinced myself I’m gay because I gave up and gave in. Now whenever I see I pretty girl I feel tingling. And I wanted to prove to myself that I wasn’t a lesbian so I look up pretty pictures of girls with their boobs out and I loved it. And I wanna make out with a girl so intensely. But then at the same I don’t wanna be in a relationship with a girl and I wanna marry a guy and I just desperately wanted to be like by a guy. But I get so horny whenever girls are in bikinis and stuff. But I have OCD and I’m so confused.
All ocd is horrible to go through but there’s something about hocd that’s really difficult. It feels like your lying to yourself when u know your not. I know I’m straight because when I don’t have these intrusive thoughts I feel myself again. Does anyone else with hocd like panic if they see like another woman in say like lingerie or something on say Instagram ? Sounds stupid but I’ll see a girl like that on Instagram and it’s like a part of my brain that I don’t want saying you are attracted to that you want a woman you are gay. I know it’s ocd but then does anyone else have moments were they panic and just think shall I just give up maybe I’m just in denial? But then if I say okay I’m by that’s fine I just feel like I’m lying to myself cause I know I’m not. It’s like you can’t win. If I see like a woman’s chest like I can appreciate that boobs are pretty which I do think they are but I’m not attracted to them the same way I am with male body parts if you get me. But it’s like a part of your brain that’s convincing you you do. Like I’m scared
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