Anonymous
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Anxiety **
AnonymousAnonymous
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Gay voice* sorry
SabrinaSabrina
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What do you mean by gay voice?
AnonymousAnonymous
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I have a voice in my head constantly saying “handsome guy, cute guy, you should be nervous, you’re attracted to your friends” It makes me want to pull my hair out. I feel so unnatural. My body is constantly in edge. It even says to me “you hate pussy, you never liked it” Which I can ASSURE you I always have ...not to get to graphic I’m sorry. But I am and always will be girl crazy. My mind is just so fucked up rn
SabrinaSabrina
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It sounds like you’re trying to argue with thre thought it reassure yourself the thoughts are not true. Those are compulsions. Doing compulsions does not help with OCD. Are you seeing an OCD specialist? Have you ever done ERP?
SabrinaSabrina
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*the
AnonymousAnonymous
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I’m trying ERP now
boobabooba
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I would advise you to challenge these thoughts by accepting the “what if” scenario. So what if I was gay? OCD might reply- then you don’t really know yourself, your family won’t accept you, your whole life has been a lie, etc.. Debate the OCD in your favor. OCD is lying to you. So what if I don’t really know myself? Aren’t people supposed to spend their lives figuring out what makes them happy and what works for them? Everyone is terrified of losing their family. Does that mean if I was gay I should torture myself? Is being gay so wrong to me? If I figured out I was gay, or attracted to men as well as women, would that really mean my life was a lie? Don’t all people learn new things about themselves every day, no matter what age they are? You are not your thoughts, they are a part of you. You can do this 👍
AnonymousAnonymous
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So what are you saying...Exactly. I will never enter into a relationship with a dude
boobabooba
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@Anonymous OCD is all about your mind avoiding the worst possible scenario. For you, the idea of you being gay is the worst possible thing that could happen. I would advise you to challenge this Worst scenario. What is it about homosexuality and being gay that makes it so distressing? Do you dislike gay people in general? Do you trust your ability to judge your own attraction and act on it? Challenge the OCD that is telling you to do whatever you can to prove to yourself you’re not gay. You know you’re not gay. If you were, I personally believe there would be nothing wrong with that. You can absolutely accept gay people without being gay yourself.
AnonymousAnonymous
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@booba I’m not homophobic I have gay family members and friends but that’s not who I am. I’ve always always been girl crazy. But my anxiety goes through the roof out of nowhere. I don’t get it
boobabooba
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@Anonymous I’m happy to hear that! So the questions to ask yourself would be questions that can only be answered in fact. It’s tricky because sexuality is a pretty diverse and personal thing, but I’m actually a lesbian, so I can give you a few things to remind yourself. When I realized I was a lesbian, I was SO HAPPY! It made so much sense and I was so relieved to finally stop pretending to be attracted to men. I’m like you, I’m just not attracted to men. Men are pretty gross. When you picture yourself being gay, it makes you uncomfortable, just like it makes me uncomfortable, because we are not attracted to men. If you were gay, it would be a relief to see yourself as gay. Also, you are not your thoughts. Even if you fully checked out a man and imagined having sex with him, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re gay. Brains just do stuff sometimes. You’re allowed to think whatever you want. If someone hits on you and you are not attracted to them, you can say no. You can trust the fact that you enjoy being with women, you will practice only being with women, and even if you were attracted to men, that would be okay, but you’re not.
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