Loss of attraction is worse than ever, like I cant feel anything for female because of this shit. My libido is now non existent. Despite my mind throwing up all the bullshit it can (muscular dudes, images of a dude's junk etc), I've done enough exposures to fight it off. I can tell my mind, "hey, that's totally fine. Hey, you never know." But aside from mornings are so damn bad for me (I'm stuck in bed damn near every morning), the overthinking/overanalyzing has completely taken females from me. This shit has cost me so much. Its cost me relationships, money, friends, sex, love and time with my family. I'm convinced that I can beat everything else (though it can still get unbearably bad sometimes too the point of convincing) but it takes chicks from me. I would give anything to have it back. These past few weeks especially has been so bad with the given the triggers (mostly me triggering myself with too much thinking) but even after coming down and seeing there's nothing to fear, loss of attraction still rears its head and makes me doubt myself. It got so bad that yesterday I was obsessing about not feeling anything for old women. I wish OCD was a person so I could fucking kill it's family before torturing it to death.

Garrett Maguire

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

Jb you need to combine the exposures with stopping the ruminations. The only time you should give these thoughts your attention is during ERP. Sure they will flash up a lot, but you let them be there, without interacting, in any way with them. Stress will destroy your libido, as will ocd, with checking if you are still attracted to females, but it will come back when you stop the ruminations and use erp on all the things around ocd, given time.

Jbm421

Date posted: 4y

Ruminating is my worst compulsion probably by far. I'm in my head like 24 hours a day with this crap as a result. 😞

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

Bruh I feel you Lmaoo. We just gotta keep pushin. Also try NoFap....it’s helped me in regards to my erections. I still do get intrusive thoughts and doubts and what not but I know I’d never act on them in real life so just relax bud

Jbm421

Date posted: 4y

Dude, I'm actually No Faping now. I stopped pmo, and I barely even go on social media. My problem is that I've dealt with this on n off for 11 years with various degrees of intensity and I'm 38. So sometimes I fear my libido disappeared. Smfh...

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

@Jbm421 Brutal...I’ve been going through this for my 4 months and I’m 12 days porn sober. Sometimes I fear my libido is gone too and other days it makes a comeback. My only fear is intrusive thoughts when fantasizing. Sometimes I’ll close my eyes trying to think of a girl and it automatically transforms into some dude. The way this disorder operates is evil and wicked. Brother I’m gonna say a prayer for you. Let’s get thru this together

Jbm421

Date posted: 4y

@Anonymous God bless you. Hope you heal quickly. Dude that's one of the things that made this come back so bad. Intrusive thoughts while in a fantasy is a bone killer. It's one of the reasons I stopped pmo. I'm like a month in but I been really stressed.

Jbm421

Date posted: 4y

Loss of attraction is killing me 😭😭😭.

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