bodhisattava
- Date posted
- 4y ago
OCDismyMiddleNameOCDismyMiddl...
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Take it a day at a time :) and I also second the opinion above; be very careful about reading self help guides. They force you to think about perfection. Self esteem is built through time, and it is not a linear process. Finding things you truly love to do, accepting things about yourself, and just doing your best each day (whatever your best looks like for you) is how I've personally grown. These things in life aren't meant to be so intense. In Western culture, we are constantly having these perfectionist ideals being shoved down our throats. But in reality, we're meant to take our time and fall a few times. Have a great day and keep going! :)
bodhisattava bodhisattava
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Thank you so much!!
Myke GMyke G
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Yea, I suggest the book the happiness trap. It would be really helpful.
bodhisattava bodhisattava
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Thank you
asdfghjasdfghj
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Or maybe not read books about it. If it is obsessive-compulsive treat it like any other obsessions and compulsions. If this is obsessive-compulsive reading books about it would only play into the compulsion of figuring it out, finding the "right" self esteem. Building self esteem is about doing esteemable things, getting good at something, claiming your opinions and doing good for others. Its not about reading yet another self help book (no matter how great it is).
bodhisattava bodhisattava
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Ah thank you
asdfghjasdfghj
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@bodhisattava Im not saying reading books is wrong, it can be very helpful. But it can also be compulsive. Been there, done that. I read so many of them, and did it all, I ended up in a locked psych ward. Not saying it was the books fault. But it made the OCD worse and worse and worse, because it was compulsive. I had an obsession about something about me being wrong and bettering it. I even took nice baths because "it would make me better".
bodhisattava bodhisattava
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@asdfghj Haha yeah it’s kind of like I need to be perfect and have a perfect life
asdfghjasdfghj
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@bodhisattava Yes, and reading about having a happy life plays into that! I wish I could go back five years and realise this. But I'm just grateful im finally getting help from an ocd specialist. Hope you are too!
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