my ocd has been really convincing lately. it’s convincing me that i’m just questioning my sexuality and that i’m bi and just don’t know it yet. i can’t help but think “what if these thoughts and feelings are real” i’m so lost i just feel like all of this has changed who i was. the worst part is that i barely have a reaction to these thoughts so it’s hard for me to tell if it’s ocd or not. how do i know if it’s ocd or i’m just questioning my sexuality??

@nicolep123 it’s just a thought. Don’t entangle with it. Don’t look for reassurance because it won’t help you. Trust the uncertainty. It may seem like you are “questioning” or even want to know what “questioning is” so you can eliminate that’s what this is. It won’t matter. Your anxiety and OCD will still come back. Trust me. I know. Accept and trust the uncertainty that this OCD and NOT you “questioning.” Im here if you need to talk.

I get it. I really do. The amount of hours I’ve spent researching to make myself feel better, I’ve lost so much time but energy and all it did was delay the thoughts for a few hours. For now, if you really want a way to cope, imagine yourself walking a plank on a pirate ship, when a thought comes in, you have 3 options to answer, you’re uncertain of the answer, but if you’re wrong or don’t answer, you’re pushed off the plank, if you’re right, you’re spared. The wise part of your brain will come into play.

I know. I’m in the same boat. But you have to trust the uncertainty. Don’t stop dating. Live your life the way you did before this happened. I’ve been going through this for 4 months now. I have felt so much better in the last month to month and a half so tonight I decided to do some ERP and go on a date. I’m freaking out. I haven’t been on this app in like 4 weeks until today. But I have to trust the uncertainty.

Yes. It means you are just letting it be and not putting any stock into it because it’s not you. But I bet when you notice it doesn’t give you any reaction, you start to panic wondering if you like those thoughts now? Which in turn is another thought.....

Which by definition is an intrusive thought because it makes you feel like hell.

i am someone who in the past suffered from hocd and recovered. it was only after my recovery did i begin to feel true feelings of attraction, and i realized i am bi. but the way i feel about both men and women are so different from what my ocd made me feel. hocd is painful, and it’s so upsetting. my real attraction has never felt this way. so what i’m trying to say is, questioning your sexuality does not feel like what you are experiencing, i am sure of this. maybe one day you may question your sexuality, but that is not what is happening now. right now you are experiencing ocd

well i’m scared that what happened to you will happen to me. i don’t want to be bi or gay i just want to be straight. i just can’t stop doubting i have ocd

before you had hocd were you ever super attracted to me ?

like i don’t want to question my sexuality

@Jake12. thank you so much that really helped i just barely have a reaction to these thoughts so it’s hard for me to know if it’s my hocd or not

The question to answer is “Is this real or one of those thoughts that aren’t real and causes me anxiety.”

thank you @Jake12. i really hope this is all ocd and not me. now i’m obsessing that after i recover from this that i will become bi or gay.

so if i don’t have a reaction to these thoughts is that a good thing?

yes i always worry that i enjoy them and stuff like that