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- garden
- Date posted
- 3y ago
The key to self confidence lies within you and only you. One time, I had a friend tell me that she wished she could be like me, and do all the hobbies that I do and be confident like me. Little did she know that I suffer with OCD every day, and every day I struggle with something. She had no idea that behind all the things that she thought was "perfect" about me, there was a very fragile, perfectionist girl. And I've grown from that day by day. It has taken me considerable time to learn how to love myself and give myself proper care and respect. Even as an adult now, I still have to work on it. Bottom line is if you begin to treat yourself as you'd treat your friend, you would begin to realize just how special and unique you truly are. We take ourselves for granted, and that's okay. The goal is to show ourselves compassion and grace. You're braver and smarter and more beautiful than you think :)
thank you 💛
I know how you feel. I also often compare myself to my friend, she's funny, and pretty, and guys are all over her. But, just think your you! And your important to them. Am I pretty like my friend? Maybe, am I funny? sorta, do I have guys all over me? Hell no, but is that ok? YES!!! because even if you think there's nothing that makes you, you, your mistaken love, because we're all unique and beautiful. Like a snowflake! I understand your situation, and I hope you can start to feel better😊
thank you, that meant a lot💜
I read one of your posts before and girl, aren't you the same person as me? 😂
twins :’) 👯♀️
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