Had my first date with a guy today! I think it went well, we were really chatty and comfortable with each other! However I am worried as I didn’t feel “sparks” with him (maybe because we went on a walk so spent less time looking at him kinda thing) and don’t really really fancy him, so obviously all the ocd thoughts are kicking in (especially the HOCD ones) and now I’m starting to really panic, should I see him again and see if the fancying feeling grows? :(

Ooo I’ve never considered this tbh you might have a point! I’m guess I’m worried because I met this guy from tinder and don’t fancy him straight away, maybe it’ll take me time?

@MelodyOCD You shouldn't fall in love at first sight girl, people gain it with time. You just will see if you are attracted at all or not. But don't check for it

@Daria Alexandrovna I think that the fact that you are worried about it means that you like him. :) Why would you worry otherwise?

@Daria Alexandrovna Very true, I’ll deffo see him again and just see how things go I guess! I never had a big sister or anything so never had anyone to teach me about boys and feelings haha, it’s nice hearing this advice from actual proper rather than romcoms for a change lol

@MelodyOCD People* not proper

@Ope I think they’ve contributed to mine too Ope! It’s a shame because I love romcoms so much but maybe I need to ease off

@MelodyOCD Don't bee too suspicious about what you feel bc that made me struggle in my relationship though I really love the person I am with. I was suspicious from the very beginning

@MelodyOCD You are going to see him. Actions speak before OCD does

@Daria Alexandrovna Yeah I tend to over analyse and be suspicious like you said, I really wish I was a “go with a flow” kinda person, but nahhh instead I have OCD 😂

@MelodyOCD very true!!

Maybe I’ve just been watching too many movies haha! Bit tmi but it might be relevant: ive never been in a relationship before and in a virgin so maybe I just have unrealistic expectations haha!

@MelodyOCD Yeah 100%, I still have them and that's why my ROCD blew up.

@Daria Alexandrovna Awh I’m so sorry to hear that, I hope you’re doing okay! It’s why mine have blown up too, that and lack of people being honest with me about sex and relationships!

This^

@MelodyOCD I am a little bit better, thank you

@MelodyOCD Yeah, I romanticized relationship a lot and made it the sense of life lol.

@Daria Alexandrovna Glad to hear you’re doing better, you’re smashing it!! And I do too! I guess that’s why my ocd is about relationships and sexuality haha, it was something I really valued!

@MelodyOCD Yes, absolutely. I feel good that we can understand each other. I see myself in you, measuring my feelings, thinking about how it's all supposed to be. Then, worrying if I thought or missed him enough. My first triggering thought was very stupid. I didn't think of him for an hour, doing my homework, and I got a thought 'Don't you miss him or worry about him?'. Felt really anxious, numbness in my body. Lol. Stupid OCD