- Username
- rosecoloredgirl
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Explaining OCD to loved ones is tough. I also have a confession habit, but my friends, parents, my wife all stuck by me. Hell my wife said “yes” knowing I have ocd :) Use best judgement when explaining what you’re going through. If you think it’s too soon then go with your gut. Just remember the thoughts are all intrusive bullshit shit! *also is your handle a paramore reference? Love that song!
My boyfriend knows I have OCD but I don't know if he knows how bad and fucked up it can get (from Harm OCD, to POCD) so far there's this stigma with OCD that it's just wanting things to be organized and having little ticks. When I explain things I have this habit (OCD related) that it needs to be detailed as possible or else it'll feel like i'm leaving things out and it could be a sign of me being a dishonest partner. It's most probably too soon in our relationship as we've only been together for months. As I said I don't think he knows how bad it can get but I'm hoping he understands that it's my sickness that makes me think of fucked up stuff like that especially that he's a nurse so maybe he has more of a scientific grasp on it. When I do explain OCD to him do you think I should go into detail? and yes! it's a paramore reference. after laughter really is the album of my life :) glad to see a fan here too
I think you’re being hard on yourself. Most if not all people get intrusive thoughts, we just have a condition that runs it like a broken record. You’re not being dishonest in my opinion. You’re choosing how much of a private health matter you’re ready to share. It can be hard for others to understand. I’ve told a lot of close friends I have ocd, but have only gone into specifics with people I felt I could trust. I’ve also had really positive experiences where people have empathized and been like “oh I get weird thoughts too”. My wife was like oh yeah I’ve had weird sex dreams that I wanted nothing to do with. A friend told me of intrusive harm thoughts he’s had. They can just let them go, ours get stuck in a loop. We got shitty luck in that regard, but it’s treatable!! Use best judgement. Sharing can be a compulsion, so be careful there. You’ve told him you have ocd, I think that’s plenty open and honest! After Laughters incredible, and a great mental health record!!
Thank you so much. One last thing, sometimes I find it hard to believe that he can actually love me without the knowledge of my OCD themes too. Like will he still love me if he knew? all that. It's really hard especially he's probably the first official relationship I've had and I've never felt this way about anyone before. I'm sure he'll understand intrusive thoughts, just not sure if he's accepting if it involves his family already. Trying not to confess since I highly feel it's a compulsion as well and i'm supposed to help myself. And yes! After Laughter's a great album, I'm an artist and it highly inspired my art 😊
I wouldn't confess. Speak to a therapist.
Will do. Thank you so much.
@rosecoloredgirl I agree, ocd attacks what we care about. The themes aren’t your fault. Confessing would give them to much power, and might damage your relationship. Talking to a therapist about them is definitely the right move.
@long distance runner “OCD attacks what we care about” write this on my headstone plz
what ended up happening? did you tell him? I’m in the same spot
Does anyone have any advice for sharing their obsessions with their significant other? I struggle with relationship and sexuality OCD. My boyfriend knows I have OCD, but we have never discussed it in detail. I think he is trying to respect my boundaries and I am terrified he won’t understand my obsessions and/or will take them personally. As a result I feel like I am hiding this horrible secret, and it is causing me so much anxiety. I want to talk to him about it, but I don’t know how to bring it up in a way that won’t hurt him.
So while I was washing the dishes and my mother came into the kitchen I decided to tell her about OCD and when I talked about it with her she said something to me that is now worrying me and I can’t stop thinking about. She said “what will your boyfriend think about it? He’s probably gonna think you’re too problematic and leave you” now I feel pressured to tell my bf about the OCD I may have but at the same time I’m worried that he’ll want to leave me and think I’m too sad for him. I don’t know what to do. 😓
I have an awful confession/reassurance compulsion and I do it to my boyfriend all the time and it’s always upsetting thoughts for him and he says it’s ok and he’s fine but I’m afraid he’s gonna realize I’m a bad person or get tired of it and leave me
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