rosecoloredgirl
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- 4y
long distance runnerlong distanc...
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- 4y
Explaining OCD to loved ones is tough. I also have a confession habit, but my friends, parents, my wife all stuck by me. Hell my wife said “yes” knowing I have ocd :) Use best judgement when explaining what you’re going through. If you think it’s too soon then go with your gut. Just remember the thoughts are all intrusive bullshit shit! *also is your handle a paramore reference? Love that song!
rosecoloredgirlrosecoloredgirl
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- 4y
My boyfriend knows I have OCD but I don't know if he knows how bad and fucked up it can get (from Harm OCD, to POCD) so far there's this stigma with OCD that it's just wanting things to be organized and having little ticks. When I explain things I have this habit (OCD related) that it needs to be detailed as possible or else it'll feel like i'm leaving things out and it could be a sign of me being a dishonest partner. It's most probably too soon in our relationship as we've only been together for months. As I said I don't think he knows how bad it can get but I'm hoping he understands that it's my sickness that makes me think of fucked up stuff like that especially that he's a nurse so maybe he has more of a scientific grasp on it. When I do explain OCD to him do you think I should go into detail? and yes! it's a paramore reference. after laughter really is the album of my life :) glad to see a fan here too
long distance runnerlong distanc...
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- 4y
I think you’re being hard on yourself. Most if not all people get intrusive thoughts, we just have a condition that runs it like a broken record. You’re not being dishonest in my opinion. You’re choosing how much of a private health matter you’re ready to share. It can be hard for others to understand. I’ve told a lot of close friends I have ocd, but have only gone into specifics with people I felt I could trust. I’ve also had really positive experiences where people have empathized and been like “oh I get weird thoughts too”. My wife was like oh yeah I’ve had weird sex dreams that I wanted nothing to do with. A friend told me of intrusive harm thoughts he’s had. They can just let them go, ours get stuck in a loop. We got shitty luck in that regard, but it’s treatable!! Use best judgement. Sharing can be a compulsion, so be careful there. You’ve told him you have ocd, I think that’s plenty open and honest! After Laughters incredible, and a great mental health record!!
rosecoloredgirlrosecoloredgirl
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- 4y
Thank you so much. One last thing, sometimes I find it hard to believe that he can actually love me without the knowledge of my OCD themes too. Like will he still love me if he knew? all that. It's really hard especially he's probably the first official relationship I've had and I've never felt this way about anyone before. I'm sure he'll understand intrusive thoughts, just not sure if he's accepting if it involves his family already. Trying not to confess since I highly feel it's a compulsion as well and i'm supposed to help myself. And yes! After Laughter's a great album, I'm an artist and it highly inspired my art 😊
whatadooowhatadooo
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- 4y
I wouldn't confess. Speak to a therapist.
rosecoloredgirlrosecoloredgirl
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- 4y
Will do. Thank you so much.
long distance runnerlong distanc...
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@rosecoloredgirl I agree, ocd attacks what we care about. The themes aren’t your fault. Confessing would give them to much power, and might damage your relationship. Talking to a therapist about them is definitely the right move.
thepapaofsimonthepapaofsimon
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- 4y
@long distance runner “OCD attacks what we care about” write this on my headstone plz
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 2y
what ended up happening? did you tell him? I’m in the same spot
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- 24w
Pls I need advice
I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
Anonymous
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- 19w
Confession need
I just got off my session today and after having a confession to my husband last night with a compulsion, he obviously is going to have more questions. My therapist says not to confess because I am growing my OCD . However, this is really OCD and is about something that actually happened. My husband said, that it sounds like I have someone in my life who is justifying withholding information or lying to him. Of course when I have my obsession compulsions, he makes sense. Can somebody help explain this to me? How is my husband not right or is he?
bubbsle
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- 14w
Tips for Anxiety
Hey guys! My boyfriend has said recently that he doesn't know if he's strong enough to continue with our relationship because of my OCD. He wants to see me overcome my symptoms and learn to live a healthy life with OCD, but my anxieties and obsessions are starting to really affect his life. I understand his reasoning, it's hard to see someone you care about struggle with OCD, especially when it starts to affect you too. I'm asking for tips to deal with my compulsions in the relationship. I HAVE to know the answer to things and sometimes that leads into arguments because even with apologies and discussions I can't let things go, even if they genuinely don't matter or are miniscule issues we have. It's a healthy relationship otherwise but I feel horrible because it's impacting him so negatively, that's the absolute last thing I want to happen. I care for him deeply and he cares for me too, so I don't want my OCD to be a reason we break up but I fear it's headed in that direction. I'm starting therapy soon, but until then what are some things I can do to stop my ROCD from impacting him? I know sitting in the guilt and anxiety of not completing my obsessions will help, but I'm wondering if there are other things I can do to maybe remedy some of the damage already done.
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