Good Friday To You Folks: I am a 28 year old man with HOCD, POCD, and ROCD. Here’s some of my thoughts and feelings. I have been struggling with this my whole life, and as I begin to grasp this, who care attitude, things slowly start to become muddly more clear. First off, “who cares” is not the right attitude to go towards things. I had a previous therapist tell me to take that attitude, and because I have an obsessive mind, I obsessively devalued, degraded, and disavowed my values. This sent me into a manic and depressed state that I hope no one has to go through. Values are subjective to those that hold them, and by others telling you their values are right and wrong, especially when they and society feels they have the moral high ground, it can get real confusing. Everybody has values that they developed with, and that what makes you who YOU are, so as long as your values are hurting others than your values are right, regardless of social standards of your own values. Not to reassure, but as far as sexual standards or your own sexual interests, If your interested in women and a male or vise versa, or any interests that don’t negatively affect the other party THATS OK! It seems like a societal norm to not have traditional views on sexuality, and that if your curious in swimming in the new formed views on sex that if you try it or even imagine it, than your OCD tells you that is what you have to be. That’s your all or nothing thinking and that’s not the truth. As far speaking for males, I myself can warp anything into a sexual situation because I’ve been so obsessed with sex. Now that I begin to calm, I begin to realize. It doesn’t make those feelings developed in my manic moments go away, but it makes some of the pieces of the puzzle connect better. Kick today’s ass so tomorrow doesn’t kick yours, try to stay calm, and love each step. Best wishes