- Username
- KrisH04
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Is she in therapy now?
Do not reassure her Don't change house rules to accommodate behavior If they don't ride in family car what do they ride in? Sounds like they need to ride in the family cat. Tough but compassionate love If they don't eat at home what and how do they get food? Make a rule on how much time can be spent in room. Just because their a teen and just because they have OCD it doesn't mean they don't have rules. What has therapist suggested? If no suggestions... or progress change therapist.
this used to be me. i would find out the reason she doesn’t like therapy first. it could be the actual therapist that’s aggravating her or maybe she feels like it won’t help.
You should try to show that you are for them, not against them. Maybe you could bring up how you see that OCD is affecting their life. And of course try to be kind and loving about it. Do you have OCD yourself? If so, let them know you know what it's like. If not, try to get educated on OCD if you haven't yet. NOCD has a few good articles on their website. And of course there are other good articles and videos to learn from. Knowing about OCD might also help you with showing how you are for them. Remind them that you are not trying to change them -- their OCD doesn't define them and they will be the same person in the end, but hopefully more free to choose what they want to do. Even if they for some reason want some sort of routine, it shouldn't get in the way of their life and you don't want them to feel forced into a routine, which OCD does. Also, you could suggest to them to use the community section of the NOCD app or join a support group for those with OCD on social media, but only if they wish to -- if they get upset about doing whatever is bothering them, they can talk about it there. Plus, I think it would help them overall to talk to others with OCD. And let them know they should be the one in charge of their therapy -- they know what is OCD in their lives and what should change, and they should be the ones taking back control of their lives.
I’m new to this community. My daughter is 14 and is suffering from what I believe is contamination ocd. She was just fine this evening and out of no where was crying uncontrollably. I’m so lost as a parent because I don’t know how to help her. I can’t even give a hug. I feel so bad just letting her cry.
My ten year old daughter is struggling with really bad OCD mental urges. It’s taking over her every day to day being. She’s unable to walk, or get an object without having to stop and touch things, tap things, open and close. It takes forever to get out of the house and bedtime is a complete nightmare. I try talking to her to help her ignore the urges but nothing is helping. She’s in tears daily saying how she wants it to stop, how she doesn’t want to live this way and wants to just be normal like everyone else. Nothing I try and do to help is working. She fights me saying she can’t stop, the urges are just too strong. I’m trying to be calm and sensitive but I’m losing my mind. I have two other children who it’s effecting too and I’m a single mom trying to navigate this on my own. PLEASE I need help.
I don’t have OCD but I think my son has it. Yesterday he totally snapped because I assumed a bag of chocolates could be shared by the entire family. This triggered so many reactions on him that evolved into him throwing the bag of candy to me….. I got upset and told him that his OCD didn’t give him the right to be disrespectful specially to a caring and understanding parent. Now he says he hates the whole family and that he won’t talk to us in 2 years. I don’t pressure him. He finished a GED but he hasn’t done anything in about a year and a half. I understand life is difficult for him and I give him time. It’s so difficult for me to understand why such small issues take priority over other life changing issues such as being productive, finding a job, friends, etc. He told me so many bad things yesterday . He also changed his name and has had different obsessions throughout the years like spitting, calories intake obsessions, exercise obsessions. Etc. Can somebody help me as to what to do? Should I ignore and wait for this to pass or try to communicate and possibly make it worse ? This situations also affect his brother and the entire family, I have tried everything but nothing seems to work. If I recommend this website to him I’m afraid it will unlock more obsessions that he currently doesn’t have…… I’m lost and my hope is almost gone Not even sure if his condition is OCD or something else ….. he won’t go to a doctor face to face (just via video call) nor take therapy and during the calls he completely disengages with the doctor…… I need yo do the talking.
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