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- 「sickmindhuman」
- Date posted
- 3y ago
- Username
- kimhopekimhope
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I think the stereotypes of what it means to be a "feminine women" and "masculine man" can contribute to TOCD. The important thing is that if you've never questioned your gender before then why should you question it now? OCD makes you question, not you yourself. I think sometimes feeling neutral about your gender doesn't make you trans or non-binary. It just means you put more importance on other parts of yourself than just gender.
- Username
- 「sickmindhuman」「sickmindhuman」
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I can't stop question myself.Also ı suffer from HOCD too.And ı suffered from other OCD themes before.I hope it is not gender dysphoria :(
- Username
- ScooterinoScooterino
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I don’t think there is an answer to that question, which is why OCD latches onto it. I think you have to make your own meaning for what it means to be/feel like a girl/woman.
- Username
- Gevelyn Gevelyn
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Only you can decide your gender identity, and as unhelpful as it is, only you can determine what feeling like a girl is to you. If it’s not related to your tocd, how do you feel comfortable being addressed? How do you want the world to view you and how do you view yourself? As a cis girl I can’t tell you about the experiences of non-binary or trans people but femininity is what you believe it is. Look at what makes you happy, not at what society deems should make a girl a girl, if that makes sense. Good luck and if it is your ocd causing the questioning, I wish you all the best in recovery!
- Username
- 「sickmindhuman」「sickmindhuman」
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Before TOCD I always felt comfortable as a girl.But ı don't know who ı am anymore.I feel so depressed.
- Username
- Gevelyn Gevelyn
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@miragunes I’m so sorry you’re going through this, it sounds really hard. If you always felt comfortable as a girl, it’s likely ocd invalidating your identity by presenting to you a narrower view of femininity than what is actually the truth. When you think about it, there are so many women out there who identity as female and yet display a vast range of qualities: the way you dress, your interests, your behaviours now have less impact on the way you identify. We have women in STEM and politics, positions that were previously thought to be interests off limits for us, but we also have women in more stereotypically ‘feminine’ roles. We have women that dress in what used to be ‘menswear’ and others who don’t - I guess what I’m trying to get at is that your definition of what it means to be a girl doesn’t have to be dictated by what society claims it is.
- Username
- whatadooowhatadooo
- Date posted
- 3y ago
There is a gender identity called non binary. I'm a female but I've never felt a full feminine or masculine Identity, but im fine with being referred to as a woman because that is what I want to be.
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- 「sickmindhuman」「sickmindhuman」
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I don't want to be non binary.This is my most biggest fear :(
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- Girlski Girlski
- Date posted
- 3y ago
What does tocd mean
- Username
- kimhopekimhope
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Transgender OCD
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- Username
- idont241
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Have I always been suppressing my actual gender? I have in no way desire to be a guy. But am I a girl tho? I am honestly not sure. Like all of the sudden I don’t want to be anything? I loved being a girl. But do I want to still be one? I honestly don’t know. I am too anxious. I guess my tocd isn’t really about having thoughts of being a guy, but just about not being a woman.
- Username
- aprilmava
- Date posted
- 3y ago
people with TOCD, please lmk if you feel like this I’ve always been happy with the gender I’ve been. Female . A girl. Doing girly girl things such as makeup , fashion , doing nails, and etc and have never once thought about switching my gender . I like my body and have been comfortable with whom I’ve been. And I’ve always been comfortable with my she/her pronouns and all that stuff . But ever since I got TOCD it’s like “do you?” And I think it’s creating false feeling and false thoughts. Like I’ve never thought about being the opposite gender and I’ve never liked male items but now every time idk I try to do an “ exposure “ I’m like “a dress or a suit” and my brain would pick a suit but I’ve never wanted to wear a suit . I would want to wear a dress and it makes me feel like I’m in denial. I feel like I’m already a man?? Like I’m not sure :( but it makes me feel uncomfortable but I already got used to it and I’m like “wow I severely need a therapist now to help me” I don’t want a penis but I get intrusive thoughts about you do and coming out to my family and stuff like that’. I don’t like or want to look masculine but I think my brain wants to but I don’t :( that’s why I feel like I’m in denial but I really don’t want to :( It feels like my personality just completely switched like that In an instant . I don’t want to be a man but I got used to this feeling :( My friend also did a tarot card reading on me and told me I’m in some sort of denial which I don’t wanna believe since she’s absolutely new .
- Username
- JackieFroST
- Date posted
- 1y ago
TOCD or just trans/nonbinary?
I've been struggling with my gender identity since about 2018 and have reached the point where I am currently on hormones. For a little bit I thought I was a woman but as time has gone on I've settled more into nonbinary as an identity. Now that I am on hormones, I'm noticing that some changes are positive in my mind and some give me a pretty decent amount of distress and doubt. I then discovered that TOCD is a thing and it's kind of thrown me for a loop since I already know I have OCD. I already had doubts but now I'm like, "Could I just be lying to myself and I actually have TOCD?", "Is this just a transphobic diagnosis that keeps people from living as they want?", "Is it possible for me to have TOCD and still be trans/nonbinary?". I'm going to have to talk to my therapist about it but in the meantime I would love some help understanding this whole issue. Thank you.
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