「sickmindhuman」
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kimhopekimhope
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- 4y
I think the stereotypes of what it means to be a "feminine women" and "masculine man" can contribute to TOCD. The important thing is that if you've never questioned your gender before then why should you question it now? OCD makes you question, not you yourself. I think sometimes feeling neutral about your gender doesn't make you trans or non-binary. It just means you put more importance on other parts of yourself than just gender.
「sickmindhuman」「sickmindhuman」
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- 4y
I can't stop question myself.Also ı suffer from HOCD too.And ı suffered from other OCD themes before.I hope it is not gender dysphoria :(
ScooterinoScooterino
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- 4y
I don’t think there is an answer to that question, which is why OCD latches onto it. I think you have to make your own meaning for what it means to be/feel like a girl/woman.
Gevelyn Gevelyn
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- 4y
Only you can decide your gender identity, and as unhelpful as it is, only you can determine what feeling like a girl is to you. If it’s not related to your tocd, how do you feel comfortable being addressed? How do you want the world to view you and how do you view yourself? As a cis girl I can’t tell you about the experiences of non-binary or trans people but femininity is what you believe it is. Look at what makes you happy, not at what society deems should make a girl a girl, if that makes sense. Good luck and if it is your ocd causing the questioning, I wish you all the best in recovery!
「sickmindhuman」「sickmindhuman」
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Before TOCD I always felt comfortable as a girl.But ı don't know who ı am anymore.I feel so depressed.
Gevelyn Gevelyn
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@miragunes I’m so sorry you’re going through this, it sounds really hard. If you always felt comfortable as a girl, it’s likely ocd invalidating your identity by presenting to you a narrower view of femininity than what is actually the truth. When you think about it, there are so many women out there who identity as female and yet display a vast range of qualities: the way you dress, your interests, your behaviours now have less impact on the way you identify. We have women in STEM and politics, positions that were previously thought to be interests off limits for us, but we also have women in more stereotypically ‘feminine’ roles. We have women that dress in what used to be ‘menswear’ and others who don’t - I guess what I’m trying to get at is that your definition of what it means to be a girl doesn’t have to be dictated by what society claims it is.
whatadooowhatadooo
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- 4y
There is a gender identity called non binary. I'm a female but I've never felt a full feminine or masculine Identity, but im fine with being referred to as a woman because that is what I want to be.
「sickmindhuman」「sickmindhuman」
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- 4y
I don't want to be non binary.This is my most biggest fear :(
Girlski Girlski
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What does tocd mean
kimhopekimhope
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- 13w
Lesbian with Sexual Orientation OCD
I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
vaiiolyn
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- 13w
feeling helpless
As a lesbian with SO-OCD, I feel so helpless. It's truly exhausting because no one I know understands what I'm going through. The first response is always, "You're just confused" or "You don't have to know yet." But that's not the issue, I do know. I just never see any lesbians with SO-OCD so I feel so invalidated. These thoughts flood my brain constantly, forcing me to analyze my reactions to every man I see. I feel trapped in an endless cycle of "testing" myself, trying to prove that I don't like them. But my brain fights back, telling me I do want to love a man, making it feel real even though don't want it. It's terrifying. At this point, it's hard to even hold onto my identity as a lesbian because I'm so overwhelmed. I don't know if this is what real attraction is supposed to feel like, and that fear eats away at me. The truth is, when I think about being with a man, all I feel is disgust and fear-but my brain twists that into doubt. I hate it. I'm at the point where I'm scared I'm going to have to accept something I don't want because I don't know if this will ever go away. I miss who I was before all this.
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Those who suffer with SO-OCD and ROCD…
What’s your experience on: Losing opposite gender attraction? And, False attraction to same gender? I have both and I feel like I don’t know who I am. I can’t parent or be a husband due to the mass panic and anxiety. Just wanted to know if anyone has had both and regained theirself?
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