「sickmindhuman」
- Date posted
- 4y ago
kimhopekimhope
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I think the stereotypes of what it means to be a "feminine women" and "masculine man" can contribute to TOCD. The important thing is that if you've never questioned your gender before then why should you question it now? OCD makes you question, not you yourself. I think sometimes feeling neutral about your gender doesn't make you trans or non-binary. It just means you put more importance on other parts of yourself than just gender.
「sickmindhuman」「sickmindhuman」
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I can't stop question myself.Also ı suffer from HOCD too.And ı suffered from other OCD themes before.I hope it is not gender dysphoria :(
ScooterinoScooterino
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I don’t think there is an answer to that question, which is why OCD latches onto it. I think you have to make your own meaning for what it means to be/feel like a girl/woman.
Gevelyn Gevelyn
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Only you can decide your gender identity, and as unhelpful as it is, only you can determine what feeling like a girl is to you. If it’s not related to your tocd, how do you feel comfortable being addressed? How do you want the world to view you and how do you view yourself? As a cis girl I can’t tell you about the experiences of non-binary or trans people but femininity is what you believe it is. Look at what makes you happy, not at what society deems should make a girl a girl, if that makes sense. Good luck and if it is your ocd causing the questioning, I wish you all the best in recovery!
「sickmindhuman」「sickmindhuman」
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Before TOCD I always felt comfortable as a girl.But ı don't know who ı am anymore.I feel so depressed.
Gevelyn Gevelyn
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@miragunes I’m so sorry you’re going through this, it sounds really hard. If you always felt comfortable as a girl, it’s likely ocd invalidating your identity by presenting to you a narrower view of femininity than what is actually the truth. When you think about it, there are so many women out there who identity as female and yet display a vast range of qualities: the way you dress, your interests, your behaviours now have less impact on the way you identify. We have women in STEM and politics, positions that were previously thought to be interests off limits for us, but we also have women in more stereotypically ‘feminine’ roles. We have women that dress in what used to be ‘menswear’ and others who don’t - I guess what I’m trying to get at is that your definition of what it means to be a girl doesn’t have to be dictated by what society claims it is.
whatadooowhatadooo
- Date posted
- 4y ago
There is a gender identity called non binary. I'm a female but I've never felt a full feminine or masculine Identity, but im fine with being referred to as a woman because that is what I want to be.
「sickmindhuman」「sickmindhuman」
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I don't want to be non binary.This is my most biggest fear :(
Girlski Girlski
- Date posted
- 4y ago
What does tocd mean
kimhopekimhope
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Transgender OCD
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I’m sick and tired of this .
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