「sickmindhuman」
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- 4y
kimhopekimhope
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- 4y
I think the stereotypes of what it means to be a "feminine women" and "masculine man" can contribute to TOCD. The important thing is that if you've never questioned your gender before then why should you question it now? OCD makes you question, not you yourself. I think sometimes feeling neutral about your gender doesn't make you trans or non-binary. It just means you put more importance on other parts of yourself than just gender.
「sickmindhuman」「sickmindhuman」
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- 4y
I can't stop question myself.Also ı suffer from HOCD too.And ı suffered from other OCD themes before.I hope it is not gender dysphoria :(
ScooterinoScooterino
- Date posted
- 4y
I don’t think there is an answer to that question, which is why OCD latches onto it. I think you have to make your own meaning for what it means to be/feel like a girl/woman.
Gevelyn Gevelyn
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- 4y
Only you can decide your gender identity, and as unhelpful as it is, only you can determine what feeling like a girl is to you. If it’s not related to your tocd, how do you feel comfortable being addressed? How do you want the world to view you and how do you view yourself? As a cis girl I can’t tell you about the experiences of non-binary or trans people but femininity is what you believe it is. Look at what makes you happy, not at what society deems should make a girl a girl, if that makes sense. Good luck and if it is your ocd causing the questioning, I wish you all the best in recovery!
「sickmindhuman」「sickmindhuman」
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- 4y
Before TOCD I always felt comfortable as a girl.But ı don't know who ı am anymore.I feel so depressed.
Gevelyn Gevelyn
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- 4y
@miragunes I’m so sorry you’re going through this, it sounds really hard. If you always felt comfortable as a girl, it’s likely ocd invalidating your identity by presenting to you a narrower view of femininity than what is actually the truth. When you think about it, there are so many women out there who identity as female and yet display a vast range of qualities: the way you dress, your interests, your behaviours now have less impact on the way you identify. We have women in STEM and politics, positions that were previously thought to be interests off limits for us, but we also have women in more stereotypically ‘feminine’ roles. We have women that dress in what used to be ‘menswear’ and others who don’t - I guess what I’m trying to get at is that your definition of what it means to be a girl doesn’t have to be dictated by what society claims it is.
whatadooowhatadooo
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- 4y
There is a gender identity called non binary. I'm a female but I've never felt a full feminine or masculine Identity, but im fine with being referred to as a woman because that is what I want to be.
「sickmindhuman」「sickmindhuman」
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- 4y
I don't want to be non binary.This is my most biggest fear :(
Girlski Girlski
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- 4y
What does tocd mean
kimhopekimhope
- Date posted
- 4y
Transgender OCD
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aubreyvm
- Date posted
- 16w
TOCD
This is so extremely difficult, i’ve never experienced having thoughts of being a different gender. i’ve always been comfortable being a girl. i’ve always been a girly girl. this all started a couple months ago and it’s increasingly getting worse. i’ve had times where i didn’t like my body but i always thought i could just go to the gym and fix it, never did i think i wanted to be a man. ever since these thoughts started i hate looking at myself in the mirror, i hate looking at my body, i’m aware of my breasts all day everyday, i can’t look at pictures/ videos of myself. from the moment i wake up to the second i go to sleep i have these thoughts. i’m in a panic EVERYDAY. i don’t want to be trans but my thoughts are convincing me i do. i’ve never bat an eye when someone calls me a girl but now it’s like i’m aware of it which i hate. i hate that i’m having these thoughts & it’s convincing me that i want them & that i have to just come out and change. i want to be able to go back to being comfortable as a girl. this has left me feeling so hopeless and depressed, i can’t help but cry every day. has anyone else felt like their whole world was turned upside down?
vaiiolyn
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- 10w
Lesbian with Sexual Orientation OCD
I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
ermhiiii
- Date posted
- 8w
Hi
I just recently kind of was getting over my Constant spiral of “am I a lesbian or bi?”(im a lesbian) and now I’ve been tackled by “am I trans” even tho I’ve never questioned my gender ever, I love being a woman, and I never thought I’d ever be dealing with this since I’ve always been so sure of being a woman, anybody else?
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