This May sound a bit crazy lol, but my girlfriend loves horses and animals. Like more than people almost (she’s one of those kinds of girls haha). My ROCD points out every “bad” thing about her and so I get very anxious/annoyed/resentful anytime I see a horse... is this connected to my ROCD at all? I’m going to see a doctor this Wednesday and am making a list of my triggers. Anyone else have any thoughts on this? Thanks!

Does your “heh” work? Did a therapist or someone tell you to try it out? @PalmTree

@Love Some ocd therapists on YouTube say to use phrases like, “Nice try!” and things like that to combat the thoughts. My therapist also told me to focus on the uncertainty of whether or not I should really stop being someone’s friend. So the “heh” is my way of acknowledging the thought is there and just letting it be until it goes away.

Good luck! Hope it helps :)

Urges to break up with someone are pretty common with rocd. Try to focus on the uncertainty of whether or not the horses are a big deal to you

@PalmTree Okay I gotcha. So how do you know if you really want to break up with someone or not? Like know what’s real and what’s your ROCD?

@Love A lot of times with my OCD I wish a knew what’s real and what’s not. But my therapist always says to go for the uncertainty that it may be a real thought about something you want to do or it may not. With OCD you can never find the certainty of “this is 100% what I truly feel,” so beat it at its own game by aligning yourself more with the idea of “I don’t know, moving on.”

@PalmTree Okay, that makes sense. Are you doing the therapy through the app?

@Love Yup!

@PalmTree How do you like it? I personally think I may like in person therapy more but I’ll find out more after I visit my regular doctor on Wednesday what I’ll be doing

@Love I like it a lot! It’s nice doing teletherapy at home and in some ways feels less intimidating than in-person. But I suppose it all depends on personal preference. I recommend getting an OCD specialist though since sometimes regular therapists don’t understand OCD thinking.

@PalmTree I gotcha! I agree, my parents (I’m 22) don’t quite understand it but I don’t expect them too haha. Did you ever meet with a Normal doctor first to discuss your ocd when it first began?

Okay I gotcha, yeah I didn’t know I had it till like a year after my thoughts started lol. I’d prefer to not try medication and do it through therapy. It seems like a deeper growth than medication

@Love Yeah, they say that erp therapy is the “gold standard” for OCD therapy because it gives you the skills to deal with the thoughts. Medication, from what I know, may make the thoughts go away, but they’ll come back if you stop the medication.

@PalmTree Exactly, we’ll see how it goes! I just hope my doctor understands it and doesn’t misdiagnose me

@Love Good luck! I’m sure it will be fine :)

@PalmTree Appreciate it! I’ll update you on what happens lol

@PalmTree About to go in palm tree, don’t think I forgot about ya! Lol

@Love So he diagnosed me with depression and a little bit of OCD. He prescribed some medication because since there’s been no real trauma or anything going on in my life he thinks it’s mainly biochemical.

@Love Glad to hear you got some help. Are you going to try therapy?