I’ve always been terrified to ask for help. I’m been dealing with mental health stuff of years and haven’t been able to tell my parents. I really want to but I don’t want to ruin what we already have, I don’t want them to view me differently if I get diagnosed. I know they’ll still love me but they are also extremely judgmental and I think it would really hurt me. Just thinking about telling them that I think I have ocd and maybe adhd makes me panic and want to die. It’s so scary and I always think “when I’m better I’ll tell them” but I don’t. I’m also afraid bc I don’t really know if services would really help me and I don’t want them to force me to go on medication or anything. I’m full of shame and embarrassment and I really don’t know how to gain the courage to speak my truth. I don’t know how to tell them about intrusive thoughts without them freaking out, thinking I’m lying, or not taking it seriously. If I told them what I’ve been dealing with they wouldn’t take it well and I don’t want it to cause me to get worse

I think that you should show them this message. I don't think they're gonna judge you, they'll rather feel sad for you and if they really love you they'll do their best to try to help you out. OCD is no joke, it's one of the most difficult mental disease. But it's also saved for people with a good heart thinking more than common people. If all is fucked up, at least you're smart 👍.

I agree that I think you should show them this message, I do not think they will judge you. Having a mental illness of any sort is really hard too deal with, and I think the last thing they want too do is judge you, I am sure they will try too help you the best they can.

My first all-consuming obsession was in 2017 and I confessed it to my father after diagnoses of OCD, major depressive disorder, GAD, social anxiety, and a sleep disorder. He was pretty supportive at the time. He is a real hardass, very critical. I think if he could be decent to me, there is hope that your parents could be decent, too. He is back to his prior ways of invalidating and condescending lol so I know he doesn’t truly understand, or want to, but I think you owe it to yourself to free yourself from any burden of shame or secrecy.

Yeah, that does make it harder. Hopefully if you do tell them, it will open their hearts and minds to compassion for people suffering instead of judgement.

... also, it is the parent’s job to love a child unconditionally; not a child’s job to earn the parent’s love. Their response to your struggle is on them, not on you 💯