- Username
- BubbaBoo12
- Date posted
- 3y ago
- Username
- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I am going through this exact thing right now and it has put me in one of the toughest periods of severe depression that I have gone through in quite some time. The hardest part is that I know my OCD does this to me, but then I question if it’s actually my OCD this time... like what if I’m so used to my OCD “crying wolf” that there is an actual wolf this time and I’m consciously trying to ignore it. I keep feeling that my relationship is toxic and I need to get out, but then I think it’s probably just my OCD... but like what if it isn’t and I’m actually in a toxic relationship..? My reassurance seeking has lead me to consider finding someone of the opposite sex who’s my age and having them evaluate my relationship to tell me if it’s actually toxic or if it’s just my OCD, but I’m fairly certain that would only feed it and make things worse.
- Username
- BubbaBoo12BubbaBoo12
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I question if my relationship is toxic too! It’s truly scary! Relationship doubt is awful!
- Username
- MylifeNotOCDlifeMylifeNotOCD...
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I am and its driving me nuts....my husband and I have been married almost 8 years but been together 17 years. This has been the hardest OCD subtype ive ever gone through. Everyday is a struggle, I keep trying to make things better but in his eyes there was not a need to discuss certain things in our relationship that I'm perceiving are an issue for him but they are not. I now worry everyday when I look at him that he is sad and anxious but won't tell me whats on his mind. I don't know how I got to the place I'm in now but it feels like hell. We were the perfect couple and I loved (still love) Joe unconditionally never dreaming I would have a fucked up thought one day that would give me so much fear and panic in one day to totally change my life. Its hard because in all this I'm trying to get him to understand my OCD but could never tell him about the ROCD for fear he wouldn't understand and it would just make things worse. Im literally sad all the time. I could also use some advise.
- Username
- BubbaBoo12BubbaBoo12
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I wish I could give you advice but I am in the same boat! Hang in there <3
- Username
- tealdinosaurtealdinosaur
- Date posted
- 3y ago
OCD makes you feel like you have to solve or do something IMMEDIATELY or RIGHT NOW. It makes your “fight, flight or freeze” act up. ROCD is a hard subtype because you value your relationship with others and it makes you question what you value. I’m sorry you’re going through this right now :( <3 it is scary sometimes, best of luck
- Username
- BubbaBoo12BubbaBoo12
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Thank you so much! I am doing a little better! I just have to remember it’s a thought and ocd targets what you love and care for the most
- Username
- tealdinosaurtealdinosaur
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@BubbaBoo12 It absolutely does target what you care about the most. You have to think of it as your evil twin sometimes because it knows everything about you, so it tries to misconstrue everything and make you doubt yourself and search for that certainty . Glad you’re doing better (:
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- Username
- Shannon
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Has anyone gotten to the point with ROCD whether you question if the relationship is actually want you want anymore ? I can’t tell if this feeling/thought is OCD anymore or if I genuinely need to leave. I really don’t want to feel this way but I don’t know if wanting to be with my partner or wanting to love him is enough. I’ve had all the extreme anxiety before but no longer. It just feels off, numb like something is missing that I can’t put my finger on. My mind is saying that maybe it just is my time to leave and move on. I can’t figure out if this is just another OCD tactic or true 🤷🏻♀️
- Username
- kathr
- Date posted
- 2y ago
rocd and break ups
i have rocd and am in a long term relationship. i have a hard time differentiating between obsessive/intrusive thoughts about my relationship comingfrom OCD and actual gut feelings. for 2 years I’ve thought that i need to break up with my partner but i usually dismiss it because i think its rocd. now im worried that it actually means i should break up but i know that after i do i’ll be obsessing whether it was the right decision … does that make sense? don’t know how to separate rocd from “real” feelings
- Username
- cam1724
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Please help, rocd
I genuinely concerned. I have relationship ocd and see all these posts more so of partner focused, it being attracted to other people. I don’t have this at all. All my ocd is relationship focused and I’m starting to think it’s not ocd anymore!! Every single second I feel like I want to or should break up with him. I don’t feel that spark or infatuation and haven’t since the beginning. What if we just aren’t a good match? Even though he thinks we are. He’s my first healthy relationship. I feel sick. I feel like I’m prolonging the breakup because I just don’t wanna be alone or hurt him 😢
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