I know this is going to seem like reassurance seeking which it 100% is but I’ve been struggling on the same thought for a long time now. The thought of breaking up with my significant other has been going through my head for months now and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to break up with him but my OCD is making me feel like I have no choice to and it’s starting to make me feel like that’s my only option to happiness, it’s all starting to feel so real. Any thoughts or advice? Or anyone else go through this or something similar?

I am going through this exact thing right now and it has put me in one of the toughest periods of severe depression that I have gone through in quite some time. The hardest part is that I know my OCD does this to me, but then I question if it’s actually my OCD this time... like what if I’m so used to my OCD “crying wolf” that there is an actual wolf this time and I’m consciously trying to ignore it. I keep feeling that my relationship is toxic and I need to get out, but then I think it’s probably just my OCD... but like what if it isn’t and I’m actually in a toxic relationship..? My reassurance seeking has lead me to consider finding someone of the opposite sex who’s my age and having them evaluate my relationship to tell me if it’s actually toxic or if it’s just my OCD, but I’m fairly certain that would only feed it and make things worse.

I am and its driving me nuts....my husband and I have been married almost 8 years but been together 17 years. This has been the hardest OCD subtype ive ever gone through. Everyday is a struggle, I keep trying to make things better but in his eyes there was not a need to discuss certain things in our relationship that I'm perceiving are an issue for him but they are not. I now worry everyday when I look at him that he is sad and anxious but won't tell me whats on his mind. I don't know how I got to the place I'm in now but it feels like hell. We were the perfect couple and I loved (still love) Joe unconditionally never dreaming I would have a fucked up thought one day that would give me so much fear and panic in one day to totally change my life. Its hard because in all this I'm trying to get him to understand my OCD but could never tell him about the ROCD for fear he wouldn't understand and it would just make things worse. Im literally sad all the time. I could also use some advise.

OCD makes you feel like you have to solve or do something IMMEDIATELY or RIGHT NOW. It makes your “fight, flight or freeze” act up. ROCD is a hard subtype because you value your relationship with others and it makes you question what you value. I’m sorry you’re going through this right now :( <3 it is scary sometimes, best of luck