BubbaBoo12
- Date posted
- 4y
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 4y
I am going through this exact thing right now and it has put me in one of the toughest periods of severe depression that I have gone through in quite some time. The hardest part is that I know my OCD does this to me, but then I question if it’s actually my OCD this time... like what if I’m so used to my OCD “crying wolf” that there is an actual wolf this time and I’m consciously trying to ignore it. I keep feeling that my relationship is toxic and I need to get out, but then I think it’s probably just my OCD... but like what if it isn’t and I’m actually in a toxic relationship..? My reassurance seeking has lead me to consider finding someone of the opposite sex who’s my age and having them evaluate my relationship to tell me if it’s actually toxic or if it’s just my OCD, but I’m fairly certain that would only feed it and make things worse.
BubbaBoo12BubbaBoo12
- Date posted
- 4y
I question if my relationship is toxic too! It’s truly scary! Relationship doubt is awful!
MylifeNotOCDlifeMylifeNotOCD...
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 4y
I am and its driving me nuts....my husband and I have been married almost 8 years but been together 17 years. This has been the hardest OCD subtype ive ever gone through. Everyday is a struggle, I keep trying to make things better but in his eyes there was not a need to discuss certain things in our relationship that I'm perceiving are an issue for him but they are not. I now worry everyday when I look at him that he is sad and anxious but won't tell me whats on his mind. I don't know how I got to the place I'm in now but it feels like hell. We were the perfect couple and I loved (still love) Joe unconditionally never dreaming I would have a fucked up thought one day that would give me so much fear and panic in one day to totally change my life. Its hard because in all this I'm trying to get him to understand my OCD but could never tell him about the ROCD for fear he wouldn't understand and it would just make things worse. Im literally sad all the time. I could also use some advise.
BubbaBoo12BubbaBoo12
- Date posted
- 4y
I wish I could give you advice but I am in the same boat! Hang in there <3
tealdinosaurtealdinosaur
- Date posted
- 4y
OCD makes you feel like you have to solve or do something IMMEDIATELY or RIGHT NOW. It makes your “fight, flight or freeze” act up. ROCD is a hard subtype because you value your relationship with others and it makes you question what you value. I’m sorry you’re going through this right now :( <3 it is scary sometimes, best of luck
BubbaBoo12BubbaBoo12
- Date posted
- 4y
Thank you so much! I am doing a little better! I just have to remember it’s a thought and ocd targets what you love and care for the most
tealdinosaurtealdinosaur
- Date posted
- 4y
@BubbaBoo12 It absolutely does target what you care about the most. You have to think of it as your evil twin sometimes because it knows everything about you, so it tries to misconstrue everything and make you doubt yourself and search for that certainty . Glad you’re doing better (:
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