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- 3y ago
i saw somewhere from an ROCD counselor that love isnāt always just a feeling, itās also a choice, and this advice really helps me when i suddenly get scared that i donāt love my boyfriend. because i know i truly do love him so much but when i donāt feel it 100% sometimes it doesnāt mean i donāt love him anymore
^Exactly this
Iāve been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years and trust me, as an ROCD sufferer, you do not need feelings to stay in a relationship. If I went off feelings, my girlfriend and I would have broken up so long ago. Itās the fact that I choose her. Because no matter what, feelings come and go, and you donāt get to control them, but you do get to control who you love. And thatās your choice. Stay well my friend
Thank you, its so hard to deal with OCD especially when its about your relationship :(
I donāt have ROCD but following what Iāve experienced from SO OCD, OCD can make you lose feelings. It can make you feel like youāve lost attraction and feelings to people you want to be with. I highly suggest you try to overcome your ROCD first. If you can get better, it becomes easier to know what is real and what is fake. Then you can make a decision. I just donāt want you to make a decision youāll regret because of OCD brain.
What is SO OCD
@Anonymous Sexual orientation OCD
I see you are looking for reassurance! I commented on you previous post last night about your relationship. I think the best thing to do is ask for advice from your family and friends or a therapist if you have one. Dont look for answers from people online, especially from reddit posts, because those people dont totally understand or know your relationship. Especially if this is your ROCD talking, it's best to not seek reassurance on this app! š
I'm trying to find a therapist in my area but don't know if they do ERP, it says CBT
Yeah if u don't have any feelings for him what kind of life is that?
just letting you know thatās really harmful to say to someone who suffers from ROCD
Donāt reply if you donāt know anything about ROCD
But really think it through love
I no longer get reactions to testing my feelingsā¦ Right now I am just sitting here thinking have I ever been truly happy with him? Do I actually just wanna break up?ā¦ I am sitting here believing I donāt love him romantically anymore thinking I am only with him to avoid hurting himā¦ that deep down I know I donāt love him anymoreā¦ that I donāt wanna admit it.. thatās all I am thinking aboutā¦ I am worried I donāt love him enough to move forward with himā¦ šš¢ I love him a lot I really do and just sitting with theses feelings are difficult enough. Itās affecting my work performance since I always walk off and hide. To read about ROCD. I even had my hours cut short so I donāt have to be there long like this. But I think I just hate my job to be honestā¦ itās burning me outā¦ so I think I need a new oneā¦ I just donāt know what to doā¦ I donāt wanna break up with him but then this thought comes in and makes me think I am with him for the wrong reasons. Canāt have sex as much as I would want to bc then I think I am not attracted to him enoughā¦ I still touch him but then I stopā¦ My 12 year relationship is gonna dieā¦ how can I sit here and let this feeling passā¦
I have been so stressed and confused as of recently over a guy l've been getting to know and I don't know what to do. I can't trust my own emotions anymore. He's a great guy and as l've been getting to know him I've found that we have a lot of common and he's very sweet, but have so many doubts and feelings that I don't like him. And I'm worried and confused. I don't know what to do. There isn't inherently anything wrong with him in terms of morals and character, he just acts goofy and sometimes dumb. And it makes me think negatively of him and itās frustrating that I do. It keeps pushing me farther and farther away And I don't want to let these thoughts bug me or overshadow the good things. I'm so confused. I canāt tell if these thoughts and feelings mean I should leave. I donāt want to leave. But now Iām also worried that maybe I just donāt want to leave because Iām scared. I don't want to be irrational about it. I donāt know what to do
My bf and I of one month spend a lot of time together. but recently I feel relieved when heās gone and prefer to be alone. The love I show him feels forced. I hate feeling this I donāt want to. He reassures me that itās just OCD and I do love him and then I feel better and in love but then it happens again. Iām scared deep down I am losing feelings but am in denial. Heās such a great guy I donāt wanna feel this. But I feel like I want to push him away or do my own thing a lot of times and I HATE IT!! Iām so sad and frustrated. Can OCD cause this? Or should I break it off ):
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