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i saw somewhere from an ROCD counselor that love isnât always just a feeling, itâs also a choice, and this advice really helps me when i suddenly get scared that i donât love my boyfriend. because i know i truly do love him so much but when i donât feel it 100% sometimes it doesnât mean i donât love him anymore
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^Exactly this
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Iâve been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years and trust me, as an ROCD sufferer, you do not need feelings to stay in a relationship. If I went off feelings, my girlfriend and I would have broken up so long ago. Itâs the fact that I choose her. Because no matter what, feelings come and go, and you donât get to control them, but you do get to control who you love. And thatâs your choice. Stay well my friend
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Thank you, its so hard to deal with OCD especially when its about your relationship :(
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I donât have ROCD but following what Iâve experienced from SO OCD, OCD can make you lose feelings. It can make you feel like youâve lost attraction and feelings to people you want to be with. I highly suggest you try to overcome your ROCD first. If you can get better, it becomes easier to know what is real and what is fake. Then you can make a decision. I just donât want you to make a decision youâll regret because of OCD brain.
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What is SO OCD
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@Anonymous Sexual orientation OCD
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I see you are looking for reassurance! I commented on you previous post last night about your relationship. I think the best thing to do is ask for advice from your family and friends or a therapist if you have one. Dont look for answers from people online, especially from reddit posts, because those people dont totally understand or know your relationship. Especially if this is your ROCD talking, it's best to not seek reassurance on this app! đ
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I'm trying to find a therapist in my area but don't know if they do ERP, it says CBT
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Yeah if u don't have any feelings for him what kind of life is that?
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just letting you know thatâs really harmful to say to someone who suffers from ROCD
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Donât reply if you donât know anything about ROCD
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But really think it through love
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He loves me and complimenta me and saya beautiful things and does many things for me, he says he loves me and he is there for me, but me.. i cant even say i love you without doubting, i am doubting my feelings my atractuon for him, everything, i feel so bad, i dont want to be like this, i hate myself . He is precious and genuine and im scared im not, i have moments when i am happy ⌠but rn i am sad. I saw him today. i dont know what i felt but as im writing this i feel guilt amd fear. Scared that i may be pretending. I want to be happy, what if im not happy with him.. it cant be.
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When my boyfriend and I are apart, it honestly feels like I've lost all feelings for him. I start questioning everything, wondering if I even love him at all. Then, when we're finally together again, the memory of those earlier doubts creeps in and completely ruins the moment. I get so caught up in overthinking and analyzing my feelings that I can't even enjoy being with him. It's like I'm constantly second-guessing myself. The worst part is, sometimes later, when we're still together, I do feel the love. But then the anxiety kicks in again! I start worrying that I'm just faking it because I had those doubts earlier in the day. It's this endless cycle of questioning, doubting, and overthinking, and it's exhausting. I'm really struggling to stay present when we're together, and it feels like this constant cycle is preventing me from truly connecting with him. We have been together for three years and we love together, and I just started feeling this way about a month ago; itâs been almost every day since. One day, I randomly thought about breaking up with him. Our relationship is healthy, especially compared to my previous toxic one, where I was anxiously attached for two and a half years. My boyfriend is very supportive of me. I have talked to him about my doubts and everything Iâm experiencing, and he continues to support, care for, and help me through it all. I am very grateful for that. One aspect of my current relationship that I would like to improve is our communication, but we are both willing to work on it together. I often find that my overthinking leads me to question whether I really want to try to fix things or if Iâd rather just continue as we are. This creates a constant push and pull in our relationship. Has anyone else experienced something similar? Any advice on how to break this cycle and just be present in the moment? I'd love to hear from anyone who's been through something like this.
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every one even my therapist is telling me that its not the end of the word if i dont live my bf of two years anymore, that we cant control what we feel and that i should not be so scared of this, that im lying to myself, this is what my family says, my therapust told me other things that pressed on to my fears, making them feel even more real. i cant do this i dont understand anything. My therapist told me that im not supposed to feel disgust when i talk to him when he is touching me, but i feel like this bc of what im thinking, im scared i cant accept the truth vecause i dont want to hurt him and that i put too many expectations on this relationship. Im scared all if this is real. Even my only friend, told me its ok if i dont love him, but its not ok, its not , no one understands.
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