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i saw somewhere from an ROCD counselor that love isnât always just a feeling, itâs also a choice, and this advice really helps me when i suddenly get scared that i donât love my boyfriend. because i know i truly do love him so much but when i donât feel it 100% sometimes it doesnât mean i donât love him anymore
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^Exactly this
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Iâve been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years and trust me, as an ROCD sufferer, you do not need feelings to stay in a relationship. If I went off feelings, my girlfriend and I would have broken up so long ago. Itâs the fact that I choose her. Because no matter what, feelings come and go, and you donât get to control them, but you do get to control who you love. And thatâs your choice. Stay well my friend
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Thank you, its so hard to deal with OCD especially when its about your relationship :(
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I donât have ROCD but following what Iâve experienced from SO OCD, OCD can make you lose feelings. It can make you feel like youâve lost attraction and feelings to people you want to be with. I highly suggest you try to overcome your ROCD first. If you can get better, it becomes easier to know what is real and what is fake. Then you can make a decision. I just donât want you to make a decision youâll regret because of OCD brain.
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What is SO OCD
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@Anonymous Sexual orientation OCD
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I see you are looking for reassurance! I commented on you previous post last night about your relationship. I think the best thing to do is ask for advice from your family and friends or a therapist if you have one. Dont look for answers from people online, especially from reddit posts, because those people dont totally understand or know your relationship. Especially if this is your ROCD talking, it's best to not seek reassurance on this app! đ
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I'm trying to find a therapist in my area but don't know if they do ERP, it says CBT
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Yeah if u don't have any feelings for him what kind of life is that?
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just letting you know thatâs really harmful to say to someone who suffers from ROCD
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Donât reply if you donât know anything about ROCD
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But really think it through love
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Lately, Iâve been feeling extremely confused and guilty. My boyfriend has been really busy with exams, and we havenât talked much this past week. I donât really feel like I miss him, and that scares me. It makes me think maybe I donât love him anymore, maybe Iâve changed, and maybe this relationship doesnât feel right for me anymore. A few days ago, a friend invited me to go to a club with her and another girl. I know that if I went without my boyfriend, he would feel bad â not because heâs controlling, but because in our relationship, weâve always had mutual boundaries and respect. I decided not to go, but ever since, Iâve been spiraling. My thoughts keep going: âWhat if I didnât go just because of him?â, âWhat if I actually wanted to go, but I stopped myself because I donât really love him?â, âWhat if Iâm holding myself back and this relationship is limiting me?â All of this makes me think Iâm bored, that I donât like him anymore, or that Iâm staying out of habit. Itâs hard to tell what I really want or whether these thoughts are part of ROCD or some deeper truth. I keep wondering if Iâm just attached to him because heâs my first boyfriend and weâve been together for so long. Sometimes I even think I wouldnât care if we broke up, and that I donât feel anything for him anymore â and that absolutely destroys me, because heâs such a good person who truly loves me. He doesnât deserve to be treated with so much doubt and coldness. I feel miserable. I donât know whatâs real and whatâs just obsession. It hurts that I canât feel any clarity or peace. I just want to know if this is ROCD or if Iâm in denial and refusing to accept the truth
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It hurts so much to write that. Lately, every time I talk to my boyfriend â whether itâs through text or in person â I feel this deep irritation, like everything he says or does annoys me. Sometimes, it even feels like disgust, and itâs terrifying. I donât feel love. I donât feel excitement. I donât even feel sadness about not feeling anything⌠just numb. I look at him and I donât feel like I used to. I donât know what happened to me. I used to be so sure I loved him, and now I feel like a completely different person â cold, distant, empty. My brain keeps telling me: âYou donât love him anymore. You never did. Youâre only staying out of habit.â My mom told me that if I donât like him anymore, then Iâm hurting both him and myself by staying in this. And hearing that broke me. Because thatâs exactly what I fear â that Iâm faking everything, and I just donât want to admit the truth. I feel so lost. And I donât know how to separate my thoughts from reality anymore. All I know is that I want to feel something again â anything. Because right now, all I feel is guilt, fear, and confusion. i used to know these thoughts are just thoughts and that if i didnât have them i would be so happy but now, i cant think aboyr that bc the thoughts feel too real.
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I feel like Iâm falling apart. Iâve been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Heâs kind, loving, supportive â and I know he loves me deeply. But I canât feel anything anymore. I sit next to him, and I feel numb. I kiss him, and it feels empty. I remember how I used to feel, and now⌠nothing. It terrifies me. The worst part is that I donât even know whatâs real anymore. I constantly question if I ever loved him, if Iâm just forcing things out of guilt or fear. Sometimes I imagine breaking up, and I feel nothing â and that scares me even more. I keep thinking: if I really loved him, wouldnât I feel it? Iâve read about ROCD. I want to believe thatâs what this is. But the thoughts feel so real. And I canât stop spiraling. My therapist didnât help â she made me feel like maybe I was lying to myself. My mom either tells me to stop overthinking or gets angry. I have no one to really talk to. If anyone here has been through this â through the numbness, the âwhat if I never loved him?â thoughts, the feeling like itâs all fake â please tell me how you got through. Iâm exhausted. I just want to feel peace again.
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