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i saw somewhere from an ROCD counselor that love isnât always just a feeling, itâs also a choice, and this advice really helps me when i suddenly get scared that i donât love my boyfriend. because i know i truly do love him so much but when i donât feel it 100% sometimes it doesnât mean i donât love him anymore
^Exactly this
Iâve been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years and trust me, as an ROCD sufferer, you do not need feelings to stay in a relationship. If I went off feelings, my girlfriend and I would have broken up so long ago. Itâs the fact that I choose her. Because no matter what, feelings come and go, and you donât get to control them, but you do get to control who you love. And thatâs your choice. Stay well my friend
Thank you, its so hard to deal with OCD especially when its about your relationship :(
I donât have ROCD but following what Iâve experienced from SO OCD, OCD can make you lose feelings. It can make you feel like youâve lost attraction and feelings to people you want to be with. I highly suggest you try to overcome your ROCD first. If you can get better, it becomes easier to know what is real and what is fake. Then you can make a decision. I just donât want you to make a decision youâll regret because of OCD brain.
What is SO OCD
@Anonymous Sexual orientation OCD
I see you are looking for reassurance! I commented on you previous post last night about your relationship. I think the best thing to do is ask for advice from your family and friends or a therapist if you have one. Dont look for answers from people online, especially from reddit posts, because those people dont totally understand or know your relationship. Especially if this is your ROCD talking, it's best to not seek reassurance on this app! đ
I'm trying to find a therapist in my area but don't know if they do ERP, it says CBT
Yeah if u don't have any feelings for him what kind of life is that?
just letting you know thatâs really harmful to say to someone who suffers from ROCD
Donât reply if you donât know anything about ROCD
But really think it through love
I feel numb towards my partner? I know I dont want to leave him but I havr no anxiety anymore, and I just feel numb and a little weird towards him. I want this to stop
I broke up with her this morning because I couldnât feel what I was supposed to feel all I felt was anxiety. I wasnât excited to see her anymore, I felt sick all of the time and I couldnât think of being in the relationship anymore without being nervous and anxious.. two weeks ago I was absolutely in love with her. We talked and I held her while she cried. And for some reason I felt closer to her then, then I had all week this week. I donât know whatâs wrong with me. I canât make it past 4 months.
I no longer get reactions to testing my feelings⌠Right now I am just sitting here thinking have I ever been truly happy with him? Do I actually just wanna break up?⌠I am sitting here believing I donât love him romantically anymore thinking I am only with him to avoid hurting him⌠that deep down I know I donât love him anymore⌠that I donât wanna admit it.. thatâs all I am thinking about⌠I am worried I donât love him enough to move forward with him⌠đđ˘ I love him a lot I really do and just sitting with theses feelings are difficult enough. Itâs affecting my work performance since I always walk off and hide. To read about ROCD. I even had my hours cut short so I donât have to be there long like this. But I think I just hate my job to be honest⌠itâs burning me out⌠so I think I need a new one⌠I just donât know what to do⌠I donât wanna break up with him but then this thought comes in and makes me think I am with him for the wrong reasons. Canât have sex as much as I would want to bc then I think I am not attracted to him enough⌠I still touch him but then I stop⌠My 12 year relationship is gonna die⌠how can I sit here and let this feeling passâŚ
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