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i saw somewhere from an ROCD counselor that love isnât always just a feeling, itâs also a choice, and this advice really helps me when i suddenly get scared that i donât love my boyfriend. because i know i truly do love him so much but when i donât feel it 100% sometimes it doesnât mean i donât love him anymore
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^Exactly this
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Iâve been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years and trust me, as an ROCD sufferer, you do not need feelings to stay in a relationship. If I went off feelings, my girlfriend and I would have broken up so long ago. Itâs the fact that I choose her. Because no matter what, feelings come and go, and you donât get to control them, but you do get to control who you love. And thatâs your choice. Stay well my friend
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Thank you, its so hard to deal with OCD especially when its about your relationship :(
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I donât have ROCD but following what Iâve experienced from SO OCD, OCD can make you lose feelings. It can make you feel like youâve lost attraction and feelings to people you want to be with. I highly suggest you try to overcome your ROCD first. If you can get better, it becomes easier to know what is real and what is fake. Then you can make a decision. I just donât want you to make a decision youâll regret because of OCD brain.
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What is SO OCD
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@Anonymous Sexual orientation OCD
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I see you are looking for reassurance! I commented on you previous post last night about your relationship. I think the best thing to do is ask for advice from your family and friends or a therapist if you have one. Dont look for answers from people online, especially from reddit posts, because those people dont totally understand or know your relationship. Especially if this is your ROCD talking, it's best to not seek reassurance on this app! đ
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I'm trying to find a therapist in my area but don't know if they do ERP, it says CBT
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Yeah if u don't have any feelings for him what kind of life is that?
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just letting you know thatâs really harmful to say to someone who suffers from ROCD
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Donât reply if you donât know anything about ROCD
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But really think it through love
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