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- Nour04
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- 3y ago
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- Hi200Hi200
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- 3y ago
It’s important to note that a lot of people who are straight or sure of their sexuality don’t have a response like feeling disgusted or scared or anxious about being with the members of the opposite of their sexual orientation. They just know that’s not what they like and don’t prefer doing thing with that sex. It’s not a thought they spend a more than a couple of seconds on.
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- Hopeful8Hopeful8
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- 3y ago
Very good advice!
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- Hi200Hi200
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- 3y ago
@Hopeful8 Thanks!!
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- Nour04Nour04
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- 3y ago
thank you infinitely!! such great advice lol you're right stuff has been going on pretty well for the past 4 days so i guess that's why everything suddenly changed and i started worrying about the lack of anxiety
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- coccoroccococcorocco
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- 3y ago
Trying to get a definite answer to whether it’s OCD or denial is a compulsion. I know it’s hard, but trying to figure out the answer will only make your ocd worse. Even if you get reassurance, the relief will be only temporary. The only way out of the cycle is to tell yourself maybe it’s hocd or maybe it’s denial and sit with the discomfort and uncertainty. Eventually the anxiety will subside. It’s very difficult but it gets easier the more you practice. You have to train your brain that this obsessive question doesn’t need a definite answer.
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- Nour04Nour04
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- 3y ago
i know this is the best advice you could give but i feel really down like i thought i was doing better
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- Hopeful8Hopeful8
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- 3y ago
When the ocd isn't acting up, who are you genuinely most attracted to?
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- Nour04Nour04
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- 3y ago
men i've always wanted to be with men and never imagined myself with a woman i do find some women pretty attractive but not anything more then my mind goes like "imagine sleeping with her do you like it??" or "what if you like kissing her imagine kissing her what's your reaction" always had crushes on men though
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- Hopeful8Hopeful8
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- 3y ago
@Nour04 You're obviously a girl right ? I mean, I have pretty bad ocd and for a while I was dating a girl. I am a female myselfx I tried so hard to figure out if I was gay or not, Now I'm married to my husband. Looking back it didn't matter. It was a phase and fun while it lasted. I still sometimes fantasize about being intimate with a woman. Because it's a turn on for me. Maybe this is ocd. Maybe it's that I'm bi . Maybe you are bi curious or bi sexual. Try not to focus on it too much. If you want to try it our with a woman, do it!
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- Nour04Nour04
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@Hopeful8 i don't want to and that's exactly the theme of my ocd at first the thoughts were so disgusting and disturbing but now they're not so disturbing anymore and it alarms me more because i thought i was doing better i don't want to try anything with a woman and given the chance i wouldn't either i'm just so worried my thoughts are true
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- Hopeful8Hopeful8
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- 3y ago
@Nour04 Then the reason they're probably so intense is because you don't want it!
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- MelodyocdMelodyocd
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- 3y ago
Hi! I get the exact same worries as you, I’m also a woman who fears they’re gay/ bi, I’m so sorry you’re going through this it’s really scary, I’m personally really struggling right now too. I saw you said that you get scared because the thoughts don’t disturb you anymore, I also experience this which then gives me anxiety about not having anxiety, I think this is called a back door spike? Naturally when we’ve had certain themes for so long the reparative thoughts/ images won’t be as anxiety inducing because you’ve thought about them so much (kinda what erp is!), but we still have these theme because we worry about the theme, but just the disgust/ fear isn’t there as much anymore because you’ve been thinking about it so much!
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- Nour04Nour04
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- 3y ago
thank you for your reply the thing that is bothering me more is that sometimes i get groinal responses and it feels like i actually like and want the thoughts someone had recommended a youtube video about this ans yes ocd can make you feel like you want the thoughts it's just not enough at this point i an sorry you're going through this too it's really dreadful you have my full support!!
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- Nour04Nour04
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- 3y ago
@Nour04 plus now my worry is that it's never been hocd and has always been denial since i had been doing good for about 4 days but today isn't that better
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- MelodyocdMelodyocd
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- 3y ago
@Nour04 You have mine too! Yeah groinal responses are a nightmare, I used to get them a lot too, I think what stopped me from getting them as much was trying not to care about them anymore, I just saw them for what they were, my body reacting to something, I accepted it didn’t necessarily mean I was aroused, but more I was just thinking “what if I get aroused” which then led to me focusing on down there which then caused a sensation. I’m from the uk and we’ve been in lockdown for a while, restrictions are easing now so going out had become terrifying for me. I’m constantly checking when I’m out if I’m attracted to woman, or if I’m attracted to men enough, it’s horrible :(
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- MelodyocdMelodyocd
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- 3y ago
@Nour04 We get ups and downs, I was better from this for like 4 years and it all came back recently. A good day is a good day, don’t let the bad ones over shadow it
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- Hi200Hi200
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- 3y ago
OCD is what causes you to ruminate on this thought which normally, you wouldn’t have spent more than a few seconds thinking about.
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- fems
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I have had hocd for a while now almost a year... and I am in a happy realatship with my boyfriend but I still get the feel of doubt like what if I don’t love him... and then the next day I will be completely fine and now I was just laying in bed and then all of a sudden I thought what if I become transgender and my heart just dropped I had like serval mental break down I have been doing so many compulsions because I know I am heterosexual and I love my boyfriend like why am I thinking of all it ? I am so scared please help
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- moxley
- Date posted
- 5y ago
how can i be sure that i have hocd for like 3 weeks and now just feel like i’m constantly lying to myself and i’m actually gay ? it feels so real and i don’t have that much anxiety right now, and that’s worrying me
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- ocdumbass
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- 5y ago
i think i might be developing sexual orientation ocd because i identify as a lesbian but when i was a kid i only ever crushed on guys. im starting to wonder if i just had hocd the entire time and believed the thoughts so hard that i tricked myself into thinking im gay. but i really don't wanna be straight ?
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