- Username
- annonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Firstly, was the first time she has ever stolen? If so, you should say something to her how you feel about that. Now, if she does reckless things like that all the time, I suggest is to move away from her since she isnt good for your mental well-being.
she has stolen things before i think like tiny things like a clip or soemthing and it isn’t good but this only bothers me because it was at the gas station near my house and it was a DRINK so it was like extra illegal. I’ve told her this stuff makes me uncomfortable with like having to lie or keep things from my mom and she gets it bc she struggles with anxiety but not ocd so she doesn’t fully get it and she still puts me in situations like this. do you think I should wait for my therapist or confess to my mom?
@annonymous That is up to you, which one do you think you can handle more? Telling it to your mom or your therapist?
@Alexsm it would be way easier to talk to with my therapist and i think i can deal with it until i have my therapy session, but is it a bad thing to keep from my mom? in your opinion.
If my best friend stole something, i would personally tell them hey thats not cool, like you have to pay for it or dont get it at all. I would let it slide but if she kept doing it i would personally tell my mom. But if yoh believe that you feel better with telling ur therapist then do that :)
thank you so much!
I know this feeling, it's EATING at you inside, bc, if course, "it's wrong"... Right? Go in your room, confess it out loud. Just saying it, getting it off ur chest is a relief. Tell ur friend, hey, look, that behavior isn't who I am, n I don't n can't be associated with it, it's just not me. Nobody's perfect, but if u do it again, I can't be ur friend n I WILL say something. Point out that the clerk could be penalized for it too. Talk with your therapist, n then speak to mom. Explain how u handled it, she'll be more understanding ig u n said friend part ways. Good luck to u friend!
i appreciate this so much:) I’m gonna text her about it and let her know how it made me feel soon and you think i should tell my therapist first and THEN talk to my mom, right? Thank you so much.
Do u feel comfortable talking with your mom about it? Therapists are there for a reason, they teach us different ways to cope and handle the symptoms. Look at it this way, your mom's ultimate goal is to prepare you to be a strong, self sufficient adult who is capable of taking care of themself. She knows that one day u will move out, college, career, family, etc, whatever your aspirations may be. So, by talking to your therapist and practicing those skills on your own, is actually helping your mom too! Remember to view it as you are facing the issue head on, and handling it yourself instead of feeling guilty for not telling mom first. It not only shows your therapist and your mom that you are more self aware, but it proves to YOURSELF that YOU are capable of overcoming this!! You got this!! ❤️
thank you so much!! i will tell my therapist first. i appreciate you!
my moms on her way home from work and i’m really feeling the urge to confess. is it bad if i do?
@annonymous i feel like i’m lying to her face and i’m doing something wrong if i don’t.
therapist first.!
Hey this isn’t really ocd related I don’t think, I’m just hoping for a piece of advice from some of you guys out there. This Friday I went to a party with some of my friends, to another friend of mines dorm room. The friend who’s dorm room we were in, me and her had became close last year other than that we haven’t really spoken much over the last semester. I’ve never thought of her as anything besides friends. I have a girlfriend I love very much and everything and I would never ever want to hurt her at all. Friday I was very intoxicated, and was talking to one of my other friends about the friend who’s dorm room it is about how I thought she was attractive. But with my guy friends we’ve always been very open about talking about females indirectly. I don’t think I said anything to her directly about it and I am really hoping I didn’t seem flirtatious because I feel absolutely full of anxiety and guilt that I was disloyal to my girlfriend in sort of way and idk what to do. Physically I’m positive for sure I didn’t do anything and my other friend says I didn’t say anything to her while he was around. I’m just really scared because I love my girlfriend and I don’t want to sit w the guilt that I did something to hurt her. Vowed to myself I wouldn’t drink again or put myself in a situation where I may be vulnerable to doing something like that. Someone please give me some advice to feel less guilty
Ugh some days I’m 100% sure I did it….others im 80% then It’s 50% then it’s 20%…then it’s back to 100% the urge to confess is so huge I can’t just sit with it….I kinda told my mom somewhat….and she didn’t wanna hear because she knows about confessing with ocd and that people shouldn’t give in to it or give reassurance but I really think I did this awful thing….my brain is convinced I need to type of consequence….as if having ocd isn’t a bad thing already 😒
I know we can't ask for reassurance, but I need some opinions from others who understand OCD :( When my gf and I had just gone official, I had another friend who I was close with that I think had feelings for me. When I was drunk one night I called her after she left to pick me up and go to her apartment. My friend told me it was just to keep drinking because my roommate had gone to sleep in the living room, but I was so drunk I can't fully remember and feel I was making the call to fool around. Another time a few weeks later we squeezed hands while very drunk again. I've since stopped drinking and hanging out with this person, and even told my gf what happened. However I didn't go into detail about the fact that I think I might have been trying to cheat or had slightly developed feelings, just told her I felt like I had cheated by making that call at all. She took it really well but I don't feel she understands the severity, and thinks it was mostly the other girl making advances. It scares me so much because I did kiss another girl during my previous relationship yeears ago in college (my current gf doesn't know about this), so I'm scared I'm doing bad again. I feel like I need to confess and fully explain what exactly I'm worried about, and that I think the only thing that stopped me from actually cheating is that she didn't pick me up, but at this point I'm not sure if that's a compulsion or not. How do I know? Do I just confess again? I've confessed multiple times to her and it's def put a strain on things :(
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