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Also I wanna block him but for some reason I can’t bring myself to do it yet I blocked him on everything else before when he tried to take me out one time before I met my boyfriend
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if you think it could become a problem for your relationship, and he makes you this uncomfortable and nervous, it would be best to block him. have you asked your bf about it?
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I did block him but why is this person on my mind? is my question. This even got in the way of having sex with my boyfriend tonight. I was turned off and anxious and had to ask my boyfriend to stop because I simply felt nothing during intercourse
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@Ang1998 I can understand the anxiety. I have a friend of mine that I used to be sexual with (over the phone) up until around the time I started dating my current bf and we don't even talk that often but he's always made me overthink everything and idk why... tbh what I do is I list off all the things that kept me from catching feelings and going further with him, like all of the personal turn offs that I have, and it helps. I know your situation is different, but maybe if you talk about the cons and think about your own feelings first (which you deserve to do), then I think it might help <3 your comfort should always come first, and if someone can't be in your life anymore, that's just how it needs to be. you shouldn't beat yourself over those things <3 just try to dig deep into what may have gotten you into this situation, and be honest with yourself, even if it's scary. that's the least you can do for yourself <3
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@amberellal Yeah like I’ll think of three guys from the past at once as if they are all my past lovers and that I somehow made a mistake and then there’s my boyfriend who’s amazing and loves me even with these thoughts
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@amberellal Like if I see a ex in public I’m stuck thinking about him. If someone likes my photo that I don’t talk to anymore I’ll think of him. If I find someone in public attractive I’ll think about him and wonder what it would be like. I’ll think of over probably 30 men a year yet I have a loving boyfriend. I know I love my boyfriend too. These thoughts bother me really bad. This isn’t something I like thinking about. I don’t wanna think about the guys I friendzoned or exes or attractive strangers in public. It’s getting in the way of having a real intimate connection with my boyfriend. I LEGIT GOT TURNED OFF DURING SEX AND FELT NOTHING FOR THREE MINUTES INTO INTERCOURSE MY BOYFRIEND HAD NO IDEA I WASNT HORNY UNTIL I LEGIT STOPPWD FAKING AND WAS LIKE “yeah I’m not feeling it tonight”…..I felt so bad even tho he said it was okay and that he didn’t mind at all
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@amberellal I told my boyfriend “I’m sorry I faked the sex thing. I was really happy with the oral sex you gave me I guess I just wasn’t in the mood for penetration. I felt nothing during penetration it was odd” and he accepted it and told me “you’re prolly stressed it’s okay I love you” and I felt so good inside.
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@Ang1998 I'm so glad your bf is understanding about that stuff :( but I feel you with the "I'll think of probably 30 men a year yet I have a loving bf." I still think about dude's that I likes from the past a LOT, especially my ex and idk why. I hate my ex, he was a piece of yk what, but for whatever reason, I just think about him a lot. I have no feelings for him, but everytime I go out I'm like "damn so I look okay, what if he happens to drive past me or see me in a store?" and he broke up with me over a year ago so idk why I still think about that stuff. I think our minds just like to get hung up on potential drama and excitement. like we think of a person from our past and our curiosity always gets the best of us, whether we want to think about those things or not. like with this dude you keep thinking about for example and how you said he was an old onlyfans subscriber. I think that might raise a lil tension in our heads like "yeah I have a bf but THIS dude subbed tk my onlyfans and ontop of that, I actually know him". like it all piles up into one overthinky mess, even when you don't mean it to. like for me, I'm constantly caught up in in what ifs, like what if me and this guy did this thing or what if we got this sexual and that kind of stuff instead of just putting all of my focus onto my current bf who I don't have many what ifs with. I really wish I could give good, solid tips for this kind of stuff, but it goes back to what I was saying before. just remember why things ended with exes or things didn't escalate with old crushes and those kinds of things and then think about the pros of being with your amazing bf (because any s/o that's understanding with this kind of stuff is definitely amazing lol).
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@amberellal Thank god my boyfriend is able to understand all this. You’re so right he is amazing. Idk how he understands or deals with me. If I were hun I’d feel so insecure hearing the shit that comes out of my mouth about this stuff. I’d be like “wait do you really love me? Stop thinking about him then”💀 but he’s not like that he legit understands
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@Ang1998 I'm so glad he's like that with you :( that's how my bf is with my rocd and anxiety and I'm thankful for him everyday. I really wish I had some good, solid tips for you but I think all I can say is that you're not alone in what you're going through 😓 but ik you can make it out of this ❤👍🏻
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@amberellal Usually my thoughts about different guys last about a few days and then I forget about them. It’s like I new closure when I’m all reality I know I was never into these people I guess I just feel odd like “wait why is random guy that used to be my friend so long ago liking my photo thus causing me anxiety? Did we have a thing?” And then I gotta rethink.
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my ocd and anxiety has been so bad a couple of days… so i started liking this guy that i am friends with and we also went to prom together… after prom, i caught feelings for him even more because he’s so respectful and nice… but he is also a boy that acts like one… but overall he’s rlly sweet.. the other day though since we go to the same school we were in the parking lot after school with our friends just talking and socializing… but once he was leaving i went to go give him a hug and hugged me… my other guy friend was with us who’s also friends with him and hugged him too and whispered in his ear and said “yo u and sav would be a good couple” and he nodded saying “yes” (my guy friend told me that) so eventually i told him saying “yeah i like him” blah blah but there is a problem that bothers me so badly… my friend likes him… i didn’t tell her for a while until i think my OCD was just bothering me sm if i didn’t tell her so i told her how i felt and i was just saying like “i don’t want this to ruin our friendship or anything but i have feelings for him…” yada yada… she was like “i understand but if i’m honest with u if u ask him out i will be upset” i’m just like i wasn’t planning to rlly i can’t tell if he rlly likes me anyways but i didn’t say that… i said “i’m just telling u how i feel” and she goes “i mean i would see u guys anyways because u guys are closer” then she says “can i ask u something and a non rude way” and i was like sure…. she goes “since i’m the first person that liked him can i give it a try if it doesn’t work that’s that” and i was like girl idk it’s Gods plan if it doesn’t work it doesn’t if it does it does” and i’m saying that in the most mature and respectful way yk? because i am christian i’ve been praying about it also. so we were good after that but my anxiety and OCD has been so horrible… i’m uncomfortable around them because she flirts with him but i don’t and she did it on ft when i fell asleep on ft and my best friend was on there and had to hear it….she told me that he does it back she just can’t tell if he’s joking or not… but i’m so overwhelmed about it i’m having thoughts like “what if u and him stop being friends” … “what if something bad happens” …. “what if ur not confident in yourself enough where he won’t like you” …. “what if this is a love triangle” i’m just so sick of this and i don’t wanna be so distraught over a stupid boy because i’ve been through sm with my past talking stage thinking it will work but now im like rlly cauious over being in a relationship now…
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Long story short he’s one of many subjects of my ROCD intrusive thoughts (i’m in a committed relationship) but we were once decent friends in college. We’re mutuals online bc we’re both artists. I recently ran into him while visiting campus, tried to reach out to catch up and got ghosted after expressing that I can sense he doesn’t care for the friendship (he kept flaking and I’m worth more than that lol). Told my bf, he seems indifferent . But he also doesn’t know how bad my ROCD can get. Should I just cut the dude off? I feel that’d provide a quick temporary relief from the ROCD problems, but I also am sad for the friendship. He helped and supported my bf and I’s relationship when no one else did. Plus he’s not the source of the ROCD, my brain is. Cutting out every trigger won’t fix it.
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I'm 26 A while ago, I found out I have OCD, with intrusive thoughts and all, and I'm taking medication. The thing is, despite having people around me, I Lost all my family and been through alot i feel lonely in this treatment journey. I don't have many female friends, I've never talked to a boy in real life. and I always live in a routine. I couldn't find any work even though i apply and Even when I talk to anyone around me, I don't feel like they fulfill me. I always find talking to people online really good and it always end up with being attached. About two months ago, my sister told me about an app for playing games. I joined and played normally. After two weeks, I formed a team and introduced them to each other, and they all really liked each other. I got particularly attached to a girl and a boy. This boy is 9 years younger than me i thought he was 18 but he is 17 i found out very late they also not the same religion. Sometimes I'd feel emotions, but I didn't know what they were. I'd be happy when I was with them because they cared about me so much, their humor was like mine, everything clicked, and they loved me, or at least that's what I understood. I felt what I was doing was wrong and that I had to delete it. So, I wrote to them saying I wouldn't play again. They didn't understand why and were upset with me. I stopped playing, but after two weeks, I don't know what brought me back. I played with a boy who turned out to know the girl and the boy I used to play with. This new boy, it turned out, he had a crush on the girl i used to play with, and I didn't know that. I also developed a crush on him for a while, and I don't know why. I know this is so wrong, he's smart and has a strong personality, and we were like Tom and Jerry Attitude. But when I understood he liked the girl, I tried to detach myself from him and I succeeded To let go of this attachment. During this period, the boy who is 17 I had a crush on before but as brother and sister i guess i was very attached he is very attentive to me and would confide in me, especially me. I loved that and started to feel attached to him again, but I tried to ignore it. Then, the day before yesterday, I noticed his demeanor had changed. We were playing, and suddenly he said the game was boring without the others. I told him it was fine if he wanted to close it until they come back. He said okay, and we closed it. I was so surprised and upset. I felt like I was being intrusive or forcing him to play, None of them log in much anymore like they used to, and I'm always the most enthusiastic one. Anyway, I logged in later to ask him what was wrong. He kept saying "nothing." So I left him, and he knew I was upset with him. His attitude with all of us changed even the girl noticed that too , but He went online because he didn't want to sleep while I was upset. He came back and said, "I'm sorry, I don't like any of my siblings being upset with me, and I'm also worried about my last year of high school " It will start after 2 months he is now in vacation. I explained to him that his words bothered me. He then kept saying, "You might not believe me, but you're the first person I've known, and you're in one league, and the rest are in another." I told him I was turned off and might stop playing the game for a bit. I told him I wasn't upset with him at all, I just wanted to clarify. He said, "No, please don't go I love it when we all play. The game will be bad without you because when you log off, no one else logs on. Honestly, I got more upset and felt like I was just the one bringing them together and nothing more. I told him, "Okay, I'll gather you all and then I'll leave." He said, "Do what you want, but it's nice when you and I play, but it's even better when they come." I was so suffocated by all this talk, I don't know why. This is the first time I don't understand myself. Is it because I'm always been the enthusiastic one? Anyway, he told me, "The most important thing is for you to know that I'll always be waiting for you, and in my life in general, the first person I know always has a special place for me." He told me to believe him and said, "You are the best siblings I've ever known." I told him, "Me too, truly." And that was it. I closed the chat with him, feeling all those jumbled emotions I mentioned above, and regretting what I did because I got attached again. And that's all very very wrong And I know this is wrong, especially since he's not of my religion, and it's inappropriate to play games at such a late hour. Plus, he's 17 and I'm 26, so I don't know what this nonsense is. I feel like a child What's wrong with me? I have very bad thoughts about myself this morning is this POCD?
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