Hey guys, anyone have moral/scrupulosity OCD? I have obsessions in which I remember things that I feel my boyfriend may think were “wrong” and worry that if he knew he wouldn’t love me anymore/I wouldn’t be good enough for him, so I compulsively confess things to him. However confessing to him is really hurting my relationship- he doesn’t want to hear all the little things I obsess about. Anyone have any advice on sitting through this? It is extremely uncomfortable not to confess and I often have full blown panic attacks.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. It can be extremely unpleasant to sit with the thoughts especially when you feel the urge to confess them, however it sounds to me like confessing to him about the thoughts is a compulsion. We make our ocd better by eliminating compulsions and learning that we can tolerate the uncertainty the thoughts and feelings give us. Do u have a therapist? I would recommend taking to them about this issue. Also try to sit and enjoy the time you have with your boyfriend. We never know how much time we have with them.

me too! if I don't speak my mind about something with my bf, I get sick and dizzy until I confess. but tbh, if your bf "doesn't wanna hear about it", that's a red flag for me, because it's not like we WANT to deal with this stuff. your partner should be able to listen to you and help you through this stuff. like with my bf for example, a few months ago, I was stressing out sm that i thought I was starting to lose feelings and eventually break up, and he was there for me to help me figure out why and talked me through everything I was feeling to understand where I was coming from. you're allowed to be stressed and worried and it's good to talk to your partner about things that could potentially affect your relationship. if he doesn't wanna hear about those types of things then that's worrisome tbh :( he should be open to listening to you as your bf, and I've learned that from my past relationship with a guy that didn't really care to get to know me and why I think the way I do. please talk to your bf and tell him how he makes you feel! communication will ALWAYS be a huge key factor. mental illness is something that should NEVER be pushed aside, whether you're the one dealing with it or not. same with insecurities. we all have them for a reason and it's important to figure out why you and your partner have them. I'm sorry you feel ashamed to share your feelings :( I'm glad you could do it here