Ang1998
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ocdsucksmajordocdsucksmajord
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no. It means you’ve learned to not let fear control you and youre managing to trust yourself more again
Ang1998Ang1998
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Like I had a fear for three days in a row to cheat and talk to a guy I don’t even like. I believe you but at first I thought I was either just drained mentally or I was gonna do it
Ang1998Ang1998
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Also tbh it always gets worse when my boyfriend doesn’t text me it’s like I wanna get out of the relationship to “escape” even if he’s done nothing wrong, like for instance just not texting me back fast enough or catching him in a small white lie. Idk how he deals with me
Ang1998Ang1998
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- 4y
Could the reason why I always ruminate about cheating is because I used to think I cheated on my past partner that mentally abused me and accused me of doing so even tho I can prove I didn’t?
ocdsucksmajordocdsucksmajord
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- 4y
my obsessions are not like this but i used to feel like this often. You might want to think ab a few thingsss (im not a therapist or anything im just a girl whos been anxious her whole life) 1. at the bottom of your heart, do you really like your bf? Committing to him is a choice and you need to consciously make that decision every day. if you are with him simply to not be alone you might want to reevaluate where you stand NOT SAYIBG thats youre case, just a possibility. You might also just have lost that initial infatuation with him which is okay and natural, but you have to decide whether YOU want to make the decision to commit. 2. Maybe this urge to be self destructive maybe rooted in a fear of abandonment; you could confirm or weed this possibility out by examining your past relationships or friendships or even your familial relationships. 3. it might just literally be anxiety or an anxious attachment style ! With my anxiety, i get so exhausted fighting the thoughts that I simply dont care ab them and then i feel better than i have in weeks. Not giving the thoughts importance is NOT a bad thing, in fact its what non-anxious people do all the time. Not caring ab the thoughts is ironically the cure to the anxiety that they cause :) Regardless of what it ends up being, you are doing the right thing by seeking help and not trying to hurt him.
Ang1998Ang1998
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I just got anxiety reading this
Ang1998Ang1998
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Like I legit just got a tummy issue and farted lol
ocdsucksmajordocdsucksmajord
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@Ang1998 nooooo lol i promise if youre concerned it shows you CARE about him. and if you stop feeling this anxiety, it means you’ve learned these thoughts dont reflect your intentions. You have began to trust yourself more and you should be happy
Ang1998Ang1998
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My past relationships were horrendous. My boyfriends the only one that’s been down for me
Ang1998Ang1998
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@Anonymous I just don’t know why I have these thoughts. Tbh I’d rather think of Harm OCD than this
ocdsucksmajordocdsucksmajord
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- 4y
@Ang1998 exactly so maybe youre traumatized from them. Thats how it was for me. I had to learn to not be “toxic” and become more secure with my current bf who shows me he actually cares ab me back. Its hard to relearn that you are safe w someone when so many others have pushed the belief that you arent
Ang1998Ang1998
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- 4y
@ocdsucksmajord I feel emotionally drained and the thoughts keep coming yet what you said about me not liking him anymore gave me extreme gas in my stomach and I felt awful. I don’t wanna know if it’s true. Idk of intense stress or gas means I’m guilty but my boyfriends selfie he sent me sent a smile across my face but then I went back to the thoughts and I wanna cry
Ang1998Ang1998
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@ocdsucksmajord Last week I wanted to have kids with him
Ang1998Ang1998
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@ocdsucksmajord If you could see my face rn I’m completely drained and look awful
ocdsucksmajordocdsucksmajord
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if hes lying “small white lies” or not reciprocating, you might just need a well communicated conversation ab boundaries :)! if you guys want to make it work, there is little that will stop it from working.
ocdsucksmajordocdsucksmajord
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- 4y
have you looked for therapy? with an ocd specialist? i think erp might help a lot :)
Ang1998Ang1998
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I wish I went back to when I was such a good person and wouldn’t dare to think of this nonsense. Again I had a dream about cheating to see if I really loved my boyfriend, wow such a rather odd form of ERP in a dream and I woke up feeling ashamed and then my brain was like “you’re not even sorry? You’re just sorry you got caught in your dream?” Cause in my dream I ended up telling my boyfriend how sorry I was and the wierdo I was supposed to sleep with stalked us. It’s becoming a theme every night and idk why. I know I love my boyfriend and it’s terrorizing me
Ang1998Ang1998
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It’s not like it’s here and there. It’s legit every single day. I know you think I don’t love him and that I’m using him but I really don’t think so. If he left I’d clearly be upset. Most of the time when I’m dumped I don’t feel too much pain after a few weeks and I’m over the guy but that’s because I always been dumped all the time so it doesn’t hurt that bad. So like even if you think I wouldn’t care about my boyfriend leaving, I would, just not as much as I used to care when the first few exes left me. And then that sends me on a wave of “oh so you don’t care if he leaves you?” And then I’m stuck on that loop for hours
Ang1998Ang1998
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- 4y
And yes I’m looking for therapy
ocdsucksmajordocdsucksmajord
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- 4y
NOOO i didnt say i thought you dont love him and from this other stuff, it seems a lot like relationship ocd and the onset of ocd can be super sudden as many people experience. From what you said it seems like just that! You have always been “such a good person” and you still are. Your thoughts are not what make you good or not. You still love your bf and dont want to cheat on him. These loops for hours are the same as when someone has harm ocd or any other type. These people are can be the most gentle and kind people you know! Learn to trust yourself again and that you love him because you know it to be true.
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