OCD is ruining my life. I thought I had my recovery down & have done so well for almost 7 months. Then this week I had an intrusive thought I couldn’t get rid of - my brain convincing me that I’m in love with somebody else when I am absolutely not. I adore my boyfriend and I’m currently away traveling with him. He struggles to understand my thoughts and struggles with his reaction to it and overthinks my thoughts that I didn’t even want to have. :( please if anyone has any advice, I’m desperate as I can’t lose the love of my life over OCD.

Congrats on the 7 month streak!!! OCD heightens your worst fears, so the fact that it’s telling you “what if you don’t love you’re boyfriend? what if you love this other person?” shows just how much you actually love your boyfriend and don’t want to lose him.

I have been undertaking “ERP” treatment with my therapist. He would tell me to picture actually falling in love with someone else. In order to beat OCD we need to expose ourselves to the worst fear we have. For instance. I have driving OCD. When I drive past someone I think Iv Hit someone. Then I need to check. Now by using ERP I can drive past people most times and not get “triggered” ?? he would get me to accept that I may have hit someone and go as far as to imagine that I did. Our anxiety will spike. But eventually our body will get used to it and “habituate”. You know deep down that you and your boyfriend are in a loving relationship. But by asking for reassurance, checking and ruminating you are just making the cycle and doubt stronger. Understand? ?

I think it’s really cool you told him - it shows how much you trust him - and I’m sure he recognizes that. Also, relationships are about being there for the other person in the good and the bad.

I use to always talk to my fiancé when I had those thoughts.. then my counselor recommended not to. I write them out instead. I do know it’s torturous... however, our OCD targets what we love. Mine went from me thinking I didn’t love him to what if I wanted one of his friends or brother, or loved them. Have you experienced that at all? I would try and give my fiancé more affection and just keep fighting the OCD when I felt like I didn’t love him.

Sometimes is better to keep some thoughts to yourself if you already know it's a disease.And sometimes our loved ones don't understand it at first time or the way it really feels for us.Be cool and focus in the future ??

He should understand OCD better rather than being petty and jealous

I am sooooo sorry