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- 6y
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- 6y
Congrats on the 7 month streak!!! OCD heightens your worst fears, so the fact that it’s telling you “what if you don’t love you’re boyfriend? what if you love this other person?” shows just how much you actually love your boyfriend and don’t want to lose him.
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- 6y
I have been undertaking “ERP” treatment with my therapist. He would tell me to picture actually falling in love with someone else. In order to beat OCD we need to expose ourselves to the worst fear we have. For instance. I have driving OCD. When I drive past someone I think Iv Hit someone. Then I need to check. Now by using ERP I can drive past people most times and not get “triggered” ?? he would get me to accept that I may have hit someone and go as far as to imagine that I did. Our anxiety will spike. But eventually our body will get used to it and “habituate”. You know deep down that you and your boyfriend are in a loving relationship. But by asking for reassurance, checking and ruminating you are just making the cycle and doubt stronger. Understand? ?
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- 6y
I think it’s really cool you told him - it shows how much you trust him - and I’m sure he recognizes that. Also, relationships are about being there for the other person in the good and the bad.
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- 6y
I use to always talk to my fiancé when I had those thoughts.. then my counselor recommended not to. I write them out instead. I do know it’s torturous... however, our OCD targets what we love. Mine went from me thinking I didn’t love him to what if I wanted one of his friends or brother, or loved them. Have you experienced that at all? I would try and give my fiancé more affection and just keep fighting the OCD when I felt like I didn’t love him.
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- 6y
Sometimes is better to keep some thoughts to yourself if you already know it's a disease.And sometimes our loved ones don't understand it at first time or the way it really feels for us.Be cool and focus in the future ??
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He should understand OCD better rather than being petty and jealous
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- 6y
I am sooooo sorry
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- 25w
I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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- 23w
For the past 3 months ish I’ve been struggling on and off with this anxiety and fixation over my relationship. To wondering if i still have feelings for an old friend, wondering if i actually love him, wondering if the thoughts are all real and im just trying to cover it up with ocd. It sucks, when im talking to my boyfriend i feel fine. The words i love you and talks about the future come naturally. I can’t imagine myself with anyone but him. But this constant rumination on my relationship is KILLING me and I’m scared it’s going to ruin what i have. It makes me numb and disconnected which therefore makes me believe the thoughts even more. They just feel so real sometimes and it’s so scary like why can i not just enjoy it. We’ve been together for a while so i know there’s periods of like feelings ebb and flowing but this is so much more. It’s just constantly sitting on my chest with anxiety. My compulsions are coming on this app, looking at photos of us and confessing it to him. He’s very understanding and helpful. I love him so much. I just need help / I’m also just starting new meds as well ..
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 14w
for me it’s getting to the point where i don’t feel in love with my boyfriend anymore. i’m trying to keep myself from compulsing since my compulsions are all mental. it’s like the thoughts consume my mind every second of every day and i can’t catch a break. it’s like i want to be with him so bad but my brain won’t allow me. any advice?
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