a little concerned. i’m not gonna freak out and come on this app all anxious and nervous i’ve made that mistake one too many times. but, i was watching tik toks and there was this one that this girl said she would rather scissor with a girl and i genuinely got turned on and in my head i was like (TMI 18+ AT THIS POINT)… “yeah i want that omg” and it turned me on but at the same time made me very anxious. i just don’t believe that runs through straight girls’ minds if they see stuff like that. any advice? on like how to handle this? no one ever really talks about genuine arousal all that’s ever talked about it “groinals”. (which i do in fact believe are a very real thing)

You should rather say "I just don't believe that runs through straight girls minds if they see stuff like that *WITHOUT BEING STRUGGLING WITH OBSSESSIONAL COMPULSIVE DISORDERS*. Because once the OCD part is added up, what you're experiencing is rather common honestly... And making the difference between genuine arousal and groinal is very subjective in a way that it depends on the interpretation we all give to our thoughts and feelings. Don't worry, you're just a good NOCD sister stucked with your own self, and that's pretty much all lol.

I obsessed about stuff like this for so long without knowing it was my OCD! Now that I know I just let random things like that pass. It’s taken the shame out of it entirely. I still have intense intrusive thoughts that trigger the urge to do a physical motion to get it out of my head, but in terms of this particular sexual obsession pls know you are not alone and I think it’s totally “normal” when it comes to our spectrum of “normal!” 😉 I’m straight with a partner and we have a child, by the way. Thoughts are just thoughts. Don’t give them any meaning just observe and move on!

Well, just take it as that. It’s okay to be aroused by things. Random things give us arousal. Some are things you want and some are things you dont. Instant thoughts don’t mean true reality. If you weren’t truly aroused that’s okay. If you are, we support :) Both sides are just fine. Sit with the maybes.

I do! Yep. I mean women are amazing and all but I tried to date a woman a long time ago and it just didn’t wasn’t there for me. Not the same way I feel abiotic a man. I mean I guess never say never, but I love my partner and our life together!

You wrapped it up quite clearly to me. You said the magic word that is " AFRAID". It's always as it is with OCD. We're afraid about something and make a simple thought of feeling growing as if it was real but it is ALWAYS bound to fear. The day you face off this fear like someone who dares face off a bully at school, It'll be freedom bc it is the fear that makes you get stuck in this mess. Off course easier to say than doing, but even though I'm in shit right now it's only bc I don't face off my own fears and that's the same to me I'll have to kick my own butt and get the job, done! I know how it is after 24 years, and the only times I was free with my OCDs were when I faced them off, otherwise you're constantly torned between an addiction to think your fears with the famous "if I" and a shame of having thought them with all the impression of being excited and stuff and it never ends. 1. You're afraid you're turned up. 2. You freak out and begins to ruminate (if I...?! 🙆) 3. You end up feeling guilty bc you feel like you can't be sure about it 4. You go back in 2 then 3 and so on and so on. Each time you flip out, you face off your bully ocd : If I like girls = I LOVE GIRLS If I stroke myself on girls = stroke yourself thinking about girls and overreact as if it was heaven If I think about girls while making love with my husband? 🙆‍♂️ = you OVERTHINK about girls while with your husband If I'm attracted to a particular girl 😵 = Oh yeah she's delicious! You'll end up realising that each time you face off your fears this way you fuck your ocd up and your cycle is literally BROKEN. You can do what I describe above taking your time and even asking for advice to professionals (real ones) and don't hesitate to ask to several people to cross the pieces of information to make sure of the pertinence of the propositions. Never relate to one person. Hope this will help. Don't hesitate to follow me if you want to discuss about it after a few days or weeks I'll answer you.

(follow me isn't necessary of course 😅 it's just that posts are erased quickly on this app so if you want to talk about it later like in a few days or weeks maybe once or two and after erasing your sub to my account don't hesitate it's what I meant lol). Last example (seems to be a good fear bc you talked ab this : if I'm not attracted to my husband 🙆😱😭 = what - a - ridiculous man of course I don't love this freak. Good luck nocd sister 💪

so do i ! i think there’s actually research on that. personally i’m bisexual and i used to have intrusive thoughts about wanting to be with girls instead of my bf bc i would check and see if i was aroused with girls. and then i have concluded that yes bc girls are hot like duhh have you seen us lmao. I think personally it’s the stimulation of clit, it’s just what my body prefers and that’s okay

wait do you consider yourself to be straight i just want to check something it's not related to you though don't worry

Partner is a man, if that’s not clear haha!

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