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When I had my first boyfriend in 8th grade I was super freaked out by him touching me. I liked him a lot and I really did like when he touched me but I was embarrassed since I didn’t want to be seen as “that” girl and I also felt like I was disobeying my parents somehow even though they knew about him. Plus I wasn’t really a physical person so it just freaked me out
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You are having anxiety, because he is important to you. It’s effecting your fight or flight response, and causing you to feel like you want to escape the situation. You then have ocd thoughts that are asking if you’re not into it, which makes you worried because you like him, so the ocd gets worse from it. The best thing you can do is keep seeing him, and just tell him you get nervous, and you like him, and you would like to just take it slow. Eventually you will feel more than comfortable and your ocd thoughts even if they both you, will not scare you anymore. But it’s important to learn how to accept that these thoughts can exist and they feel uncomfortable, but they are not real- they are just thoughts. People without ocd have these thoughts, they just don’t get triggered by them. Their body doesn’t react to it.
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Wow, from this perspective I'm starting to understand what you are saying is right. I'll definately communicate with him and keep seeing him. Thank you so much. I think the key to this is time :) thank you!
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@hannahflorence Be patient with yourself, be kind to yourself. Slowly but surely you will find your peace. And remember where there is truth, there is peace. If you are feeling confused and scared, then rest assured this is not your truth.
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@Sasha Thank you :) ur kind words won't be forgotten
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Second boyfriend was meh I don’t remember much but when I first started dating my current boyfriend it was like being in 8th grade all over again and I had to get use to being touched by someone. I really loved it and I really liked him and the way he made me feel but it was all new and scary and I didn’t know how to reciprocate so it took time but after a few months I got really comfortable. It takes time when it’s your first girly , these things take time especially with anxiety disorder like ocd
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Thank you so much, this helped a lot and I will definately keep this in mind! I really appreciate you responding, hope you have a good night/day/morning :)
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Listen you are allowed to take things so Maybe it'd be good if you initiated the contact (u don't need to verbalize this to him), so u work up the courage to hug him. It'll give u a bit more sense of control and u can turn this experience in to ERP to help you overcome this ocd.
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Thank you, this was very helpful :) and I'll definitely try this out, I think it could help me in the long run
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How old is your boyfriend
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Same age as me
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I’m 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Don’t get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you won’t prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you haven’t tried it: and it’s that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I don’t want I don’t want I don’t want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I don’t wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
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- 10w ago
Hi, I'm 17,about to be 18. I've been struggling with these thoughts for the past 8 months. I was wondering if someone experienced ever the same because I feel im "different". BACKGROUND: (I'm not diagnosed with Ocd but seeing a local counselor) About 9 months ago I cheated on my boyfriend with this guy S (who blackmailed, manipulated and molested me). Since then when I realized that what i did was very WRONG and so I started ruminating picking apart every single interaction and telling my boyfriend, i tried to remember every single detail because otherwise I felt like i was being a fraud and hiding things to save myself, i had many crisis about it because I had also what i think was false memory ocd. My boyfriend forgave me idk how tbh I still wonder. CURRENT STRUGGLE: Months ago I was sure I didn't wanna S in any way and i was sure even when everything happened. For the past 2 months tho I've been having thoughts like " Do I love S?" "I love S" "S is hot" "Would S find me hot?" "What if I want S?" " What if I don't love my boyfriend enough?" "What if I secretly want S?" "What if I see my boyfriend as a friend only?Do I?" And I tried testing my reaction to intimate scenarios with S, I'm scared I like it i dont really wanna love S or have any secret attraction, I wish I didn't have any of this and I want to be sure of my feelings for my boyfriend because I know I wanna be with him and I see a future with him like he brings me comfort. But a part of me keeps trying to convince me otherwise. Sometimes I think I'd rather die than have these thoughts. Im so scared of not being able to control my feelings, im scared I can't resist S and its giving me anxiety and making me cry. Sometimes when i think of those sexual scenarios with S or I get those thoughts my mind tells me to smile because i like it because I find it funny. It makes me doubt myself all over again. Like I'm always like I need to test if I'd feel aroused to intimate scenarios with S, lately im trying to fight this urge to test and test but my mind is like "just do it this once so you can be sure. I can never watch anything romantic or sexual or whatever because my mind would be like "you and S" or sometimes I'm just enjoying time with my bf and im like " yes we can just have a sneaky cheating thing thats ok" and it makes me want to figure it out to find an answer a solution because idk it just does like I need to find the meaning of it if it means the truth and all. Im worried im just an awful person and these thoughts just ruin my quality of life . Today i had a crisis where i ended up doinf swlf harm, I'm so scared of finding someone that's not my boyfriend desirable or sexual appealing or whatever it is, I also have bodily reactions when I try to imagine and test my reaction to scenarios. Now i keep groing everytime and I dont know why but i have this sensation and I dont want to havebit especially when its something S related. Does someone experience the same thoughts? Am I alone in this? Is this ROCD? What should i do?
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I am a 21(female). I have only ever kissed one guy and it was horrible and I cried after. I stress about my sexuality constantly. I only want to be straight and know I want to end up with a man, but picturing it stressed me out and I am so scared to kiss a guy I think about it and get so stressed and cry immediately. I have severe intrusive thoughts about kissing everyone my teachers my best friends and it creeps me out and then I go down a rabbit hole of sexual orientation ocd! If anyone has any tips that might help that would be great. Again I don’t want or think I am gay but being so scared to be intimate with a man starts me down a spiral.
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