tobious Glover
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- 4y
lovelove
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- 4y
admiring the same sex is a completely human thing. girls think other girls are cute without being lesbian. attraction to any gender/sex is perfectly normal. when intrusive thoughts occur around this it makes it hard to not overthink attraction but i assure you that everybody has these attractions whether thy are open about it or not, it’s just a part of the human experience. yoire not alone
tobious Glovertobious Glover
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- 4y
Have you ever had attraction like this to the same sex
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 4y
@tobious Glover I’ve been going through this myself with finding women attractive and maybe i want to be with a woman. This theme and relationship ocd go hand in hand most of time. It’s just trying to get you all tripped up. Don’t fall into the trap as hard as it is not to
tobious Glovertobious Glover
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- 4y
@Anonymous Yeah me too, mine is working hand and hand with my relationship but its just to unreal to be true. I'm going to countiue to push through it because i know who i am and I trust myself
lovelove
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- 4y
@tobious Glover i actually am lesbian so i do but while being a lesbian i still experience attraction to men. I still find them cute and beautiful without wanting a relationship with one :)
tobious Glovertobious Glover
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- 4y
@love Ohhhhhhhhhhh my goodness I never knew that, you don't understand how much that helped me
ocdomiocdomi
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- 4y
its not gay to appreciate beauty. its human
tobious Glovertobious Glover
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- 4y
I know all that bro but it's just weird because I've never found guys attractive
ocdomiocdomi
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- 4y
@tobious Glover i completely get you. a person cant turn gay but they can discover something about themselves. i think you are now noticing it cause your ocd is constantly on red alert. just think about how you were before your ocd. did you have any interest in guys? did you find the attractive? pretty sure your answer is no so thats the real you. your ocd isnt you. so just let your body feel so that you can heal. when you get a thought, accept its presence but dont look too into it cause its just a thought. i have been doing this and its helped me a lot. its really hard but you will get out of this mess if you just stay true to yourself:)
Hocd_suffererHocd_sufferer
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- 4y
@tobious Glover It is a false attraction I have that I find most of the men's cute also you're not alone
ocdomiocdomi
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- 4y
@Hocd_sufferer yeah false attraction is one of the hardest things to deal with when it comes to so-ocd
tobious Glovertobious Glover
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- 4y
@ocdomi It really is and honestly i don't see myself with a dude in the future. Me and my girlfriend are in a good spot and I've never had an attraction towards guys before my ocd
ocdomiocdomi
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- 4y
@tobious Glover then hold onto your girlfriend and dont let this disorder ruin something so good. i am a girl and i dont see myself being happy with a girl and really want to marry a man. if it doesnt make you happy then it is not for you. dont let your mind tell you what to do cause the brain is just an organ. you have so much more power over it
tobious Glovertobious Glover
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- 4y
@ocdomi Honestly i appreciate your words and I'm going to live by my heart and not my mind because my mind is to confused
ocdomiocdomi
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- 4y
@tobious Glover thats great!! yeah the mind doesnt know who you are. it takes in your surroundings and makes conclusions. if those conclusions arent you then it isnt you. for me i am just choosing to ignore my intrusive thoughts and move on cause i know that i am and always will be straight and nothing can change your sexuality. stay true to yourself, face your fears head on, and the thoughts will fade away.
tobious Glovertobious Glover
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- 4y
@ocdomi Your right you just gave me motivation to keep going and pressing on. You really got me hype just now. I'm straight and I know that and I'll own it because i won't let ocd destroy who i am
ocdomiocdomi
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- 4y
@tobious Glover yes so true!!! i am loving your energy 🙌🙌
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 4y
It’s not weird for women to find other women attractive soo why would this be any different ? It’s human to find other people attractive whether it be male or female. But it’s also not abnormal to pick up on this as a threat to your relationship which is what it’s doing. Just practice telling yourself “okay i find him attractive maybe I’m gay maybe I’m not but I’m “gay” enough to leave my girlfriend”
tobious Glovertobious Glover
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- 4y
I got you in just a little scared that's all. I appreciate the advice and I'll make sure to try and let my thoughts pass through without me analysis anything. Your right women find each other attractive ive just been taught only woman can do it
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 4y
@tobious Glover Yepp another thing society teaches us that isn’t necessarily true.
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