Is it gay to find a guy "cute". Like a couple months ago I've been finding every single guy i look at "cute" and tbh it's weird and a little discomforting in a way. Like i have a whole girlfriend and I believe she's very beautiful and I'm emotionally, physically, and sexuality attracted to her and my worst fear is that i am gay and I just don't know it. When I find guys attractive i don't see them in that way but it's just annoying

Have you ever had attraction like this to the same sex

@tobious Glover I’ve been going through this myself with finding women attractive and maybe i want to be with a woman. This theme and relationship ocd go hand in hand most of time. It’s just trying to get you all tripped up. Don’t fall into the trap as hard as it is not to

@Anonymous Yeah me too, mine is working hand and hand with my relationship but its just to unreal to be true. I'm going to countiue to push through it because i know who i am and I trust myself

@tobious Glover i actually am lesbian so i do but while being a lesbian i still experience attraction to men. I still find them cute and beautiful without wanting a relationship with one :)

@love Ohhhhhhhhhhh my goodness I never knew that, you don't understand how much that helped me

I know all that bro but it's just weird because I've never found guys attractive

@tobious Glover i completely get you. a person cant turn gay but they can discover something about themselves. i think you are now noticing it cause your ocd is constantly on red alert. just think about how you were before your ocd. did you have any interest in guys? did you find the attractive? pretty sure your answer is no so thats the real you. your ocd isnt you. so just let your body feel so that you can heal. when you get a thought, accept its presence but dont look too into it cause its just a thought. i have been doing this and its helped me a lot. its really hard but you will get out of this mess if you just stay true to yourself:)

@tobious Glover It is a false attraction I have that I find most of the men's cute also you're not alone

@Hocd_sufferer yeah false attraction is one of the hardest things to deal with when it comes to so-ocd

@ocdomi It really is and honestly i don't see myself with a dude in the future. Me and my girlfriend are in a good spot and I've never had an attraction towards guys before my ocd

@tobious Glover then hold onto your girlfriend and dont let this disorder ruin something so good. i am a girl and i dont see myself being happy with a girl and really want to marry a man. if it doesnt make you happy then it is not for you. dont let your mind tell you what to do cause the brain is just an organ. you have so much more power over it

@ocdomi Honestly i appreciate your words and I'm going to live by my heart and not my mind because my mind is to confused

@tobious Glover thats great!! yeah the mind doesnt know who you are. it takes in your surroundings and makes conclusions. if those conclusions arent you then it isnt you. for me i am just choosing to ignore my intrusive thoughts and move on cause i know that i am and always will be straight and nothing can change your sexuality. stay true to yourself, face your fears head on, and the thoughts will fade away.

@ocdomi Your right you just gave me motivation to keep going and pressing on. You really got me hype just now. I'm straight and I know that and I'll own it because i won't let ocd destroy who i am

@tobious Glover yes so true!!! i am loving your energy 🙌🙌

I got you in just a little scared that's all. I appreciate the advice and I'll make sure to try and let my thoughts pass through without me analysis anything. Your right women find each other attractive ive just been taught only woman can do it

@tobious Glover Yepp another thing society teaches us that isn’t necessarily true.