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admiring the same sex is a completely human thing. girls think other girls are cute without being lesbian. attraction to any gender/sex is perfectly normal. when intrusive thoughts occur around this it makes it hard to not overthink attraction but i assure you that everybody has these attractions whether thy are open about it or not, it’s just a part of the human experience. yoire not alone
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Have you ever had attraction like this to the same sex
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@tobious Glover I’ve been going through this myself with finding women attractive and maybe i want to be with a woman. This theme and relationship ocd go hand in hand most of time. It’s just trying to get you all tripped up. Don’t fall into the trap as hard as it is not to
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@Anonymous Yeah me too, mine is working hand and hand with my relationship but its just to unreal to be true. I'm going to countiue to push through it because i know who i am and I trust myself
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@tobious Glover i actually am lesbian so i do but while being a lesbian i still experience attraction to men. I still find them cute and beautiful without wanting a relationship with one :)
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@love Ohhhhhhhhhhh my goodness I never knew that, you don't understand how much that helped me
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its not gay to appreciate beauty. its human
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I know all that bro but it's just weird because I've never found guys attractive
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@tobious Glover i completely get you. a person cant turn gay but they can discover something about themselves. i think you are now noticing it cause your ocd is constantly on red alert. just think about how you were before your ocd. did you have any interest in guys? did you find the attractive? pretty sure your answer is no so thats the real you. your ocd isnt you. so just let your body feel so that you can heal. when you get a thought, accept its presence but dont look too into it cause its just a thought. i have been doing this and its helped me a lot. its really hard but you will get out of this mess if you just stay true to yourself:)
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@tobious Glover It is a false attraction I have that I find most of the men's cute also you're not alone
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@Hocd_sufferer yeah false attraction is one of the hardest things to deal with when it comes to so-ocd
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@ocdomi It really is and honestly i don't see myself with a dude in the future. Me and my girlfriend are in a good spot and I've never had an attraction towards guys before my ocd
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@tobious Glover then hold onto your girlfriend and dont let this disorder ruin something so good. i am a girl and i dont see myself being happy with a girl and really want to marry a man. if it doesnt make you happy then it is not for you. dont let your mind tell you what to do cause the brain is just an organ. you have so much more power over it
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@ocdomi Honestly i appreciate your words and I'm going to live by my heart and not my mind because my mind is to confused
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@tobious Glover thats great!! yeah the mind doesnt know who you are. it takes in your surroundings and makes conclusions. if those conclusions arent you then it isnt you. for me i am just choosing to ignore my intrusive thoughts and move on cause i know that i am and always will be straight and nothing can change your sexuality. stay true to yourself, face your fears head on, and the thoughts will fade away.
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@ocdomi Your right you just gave me motivation to keep going and pressing on. You really got me hype just now. I'm straight and I know that and I'll own it because i won't let ocd destroy who i am
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@tobious Glover yes so true!!! i am loving your energy 🙌🙌
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It’s not weird for women to find other women attractive soo why would this be any different ? It’s human to find other people attractive whether it be male or female. But it’s also not abnormal to pick up on this as a threat to your relationship which is what it’s doing. Just practice telling yourself “okay i find him attractive maybe I’m gay maybe I’m not but I’m “gay” enough to leave my girlfriend”
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I got you in just a little scared that's all. I appreciate the advice and I'll make sure to try and let my thoughts pass through without me analysis anything. Your right women find each other attractive ive just been taught only woman can do it
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@tobious Glover Yepp another thing society teaches us that isn’t necessarily true.
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So basically, I don’t know when this started, but basically whenever I look at a girl, a girl on a phone screen, or even a cartoon that’s a girl, I have this weird tendency that I like them, even though I’m straight. And though I am fairly young (still a teen), I’m positive that I’m straight, but my mind is giving me these weird feelings and signals that I’m not. And disclaimer, I do not have a problem with people with other kinds of sexualities, but I am feared for my life about this. I’ve honestly been keeping these tough emotions and feelings in me for days now. I don’t want to tell my mom because I don’t want her to think bad of me, and we also live in a Catholic household, so the thought of having a different sexuality is a lot on us. I’ve done some of my research, and since I’ve had many different types of OCD for quite some time, I’ve come to the conclusion that apparently I have SO-OCD or HOCD (basically the same thing.) I don’t know if this is true or not. But some other websites have told me that it’s just a part of being a teenager and growing up, and finding what love interest suits you the most, but I honestly have no pleasure with this whatsoever! I constantly think about, “oh, what if you like this girl right there?” Every time I walk past a girl, and sometimes my mind agrees with it, but deep down I don’t want this. And even sometimes, when I’m watching a video, or looking at boys in real life, looking at boy cartoon characters, most of the time, my mind tells me, “this boy is cute. I am attracted to him.” But other times, I completely disagree with that statement. Same with girls, so I don’t know. And also my mind tells me, or something in me tells me that the guys at school that I like, I don’t like them anymore, and instead I look at the girls, in which I know that I’m not attracted to, so it’s just a continuous cycle like that and I don’t know how to stop it. Someone please help because I don’t really know how to explain this, it’s just tough on me.
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I've always found women pretty and admired them since I was younger, never wanted to be with them or anything. I always pictured having a boyfriend and my crushes were always boys. I have a boyfriend now but because this has happened I feel nothing towards him or any men. To be honest I'm so exhausted I don't feel much at all, there was so much anxiety at the start and now there is none. Does that mean I have accepted the thoughts. My mind keeps going you were suppressed all these years but I do find women pretty so that's what's making it worse. Am I just in denial and being delusional? I never doubted my sexuality before this I always considered myself to be straight but I feels like my mind has been twisted and can't remember any attraction to guys but can remember thinking girls are pretty? Does this mean it's all real? I don't know anymore
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straight girl suffering from hocd, okay so when i was younger i looked at like a girl corn star insta for like 2 weeks and like did get aroused by it, didn’t think much of it still fancied boys, girls were like ew no to me, but its triggering my hocd so badly, like is it normal that i could look at a sexy pic of a girl n get aroused by it, but like a shirtless pic of a boy i wouldn’t, however i have insane attraction to men irl, i love my boyfriend, i love the idea of being with a man and hate the idea of being with a woman, this really freaking me out!
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